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Ignore No More – lock your child's device until they call you back

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Re: Ignore No More – lock your child's device until they call you back

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Post by sbierwagen »

ElliotH wrote: post #24
jzwinck wrote: post #12

Danger: the front page says the child will always be able to call "first responders," but the FAQ reveals that 911 is the only built-in one which the child cannot change. If you live outside the US, 911 may not work, leaving your child unable to dial emergency services. Adding 112 and 999 to the list would help, but perhaps it's better to just let the kid call whomever they like, and just block "fun" things like text…

Hilariously, there's actually nothing stopping the kid phoning whoever they want. It's controlled by a contact group on the phone, that the child device can edit at will. Step 1 would be to add all friends to that group.

Kids don't use phones to make voice calls, grandpa, for much the same reason they don't use morse code, or smoke signals.

Re: Ignore No More – lock your child's device until they call you back

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Post by otterley »

pbhjpbhj wrote: post #63
dm2 wrote: post #39

If you thought your kids didn't like you before, wait until you install something like this on their phone. Emotions are weird, if you're sitting around worrying about your child then you need a hobby. If it's really a problem that your child goes somewhere without texting you if you asked them to then don't let them go out next time. If they are in college and don't answer your calls, then leave them alone, find som…

> What if your significant other installed a similar app on your phone? Would piss you off, right? // Attempting to equate spousal (or similar) relationships with parent-child relationships suggests you either have no clue about how adults in such a relationship should relate to one-another or you have no clue about parenting. I've never said any of those unwanted idiomatic phrases but can still see a place in which…

> Suppose my child has absconded, ie gone off without telling me where they're going, I'm about to start my shift at work. Do I miss work and try and find them, or do I use this app and "force" them to respond indicating they're safe & well?

I think what the parent is trying to suggest is that you go to work and not try to find them. If they're old enough not to require constant supervision, they'll come around.

Re: Ignore No More – lock your child's device until they call you back

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Post by quaffapint »

philbarr wrote: post #60

What I find more interesting about this, besides the fact you can block your kids' phones, is the amount of effort put into the creation and marketing of it. I mean - as far as I can tell [0] this is the only app this person has done, but they've created the website, set up a company, and I even heard about this on the UK BBC news! And at the moment they only have about 100 downloads?! It would be interesting to hear…

They should sell their marketing services rather than this app. To get such quick publicity for something like this, either they have great marketing skills, a bunch of $, or both. Either way, it would be nice to see how they did it.

Re: Ignore No More – lock your child's device until they call you back

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Post by galfarragem »

dm2 wrote: post #39

If you thought your kids didn't like you before, wait until you install something like this on their phone. Emotions are weird, if you're sitting around worrying about your child then you need a hobby. If it's really a problem that your child goes somewhere without texting you if you asked them to then don't let them go out next time. If they are in college and don't answer your calls, then leave them alone, find som…

Most of people here had a childhood without cellphones (aka dog leach) and managed very well to survive without permanent parent surveillance. Would my parents, for example, have had less headaches/worries with this app? For sure I wouldn't have liked something like this.

Of course this app can be useful in some exceptional cases but not in standard ones.

Re: Ignore No More – lock your child's device until they call you back

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Post by hluska »

It's very rare that an app inspires as much rage in me as this one has. I'm not sure if it is the over the top self praising tone of the FAQ, or the fact that this will be such an amazing tool for abusive parents, or the fact that this is a great way to condition children to obey unconditionally, but seriously, this app makes me irrationally angry.

Some parents are assholes. Some kids have other things going on and don't need a helicopter constantly hovering over top of them. And some media outlets need to learn to be critical of the crap that they flog.

Even if the FAQ included some child abuse/help lines, I'd be significantly less angry. But seriously, this app looks like a red flag for extraordinarily controlling parents. And, there is a bunch of research that indicates extremely controlling behaviour is a sign of abuse. What if, as an entire industry, we decide to always err on the side of protecting kids??

Sorry for the rant. I've edited this several times to tone things down, but this app makes me intensely angry. If there is any justice, the app store will remove this garbage.

Re: Ignore No More – lock your child's device until they call you back

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Post by xorcist »

aurelius wrote: post #45
Broken_Hippo wrote: post #31

Earlier quoted context omitted.

I agree the app isn't a solution to disicpline problems, but the problem of a child not calling back is not really a discipline issue. If you have proper trust and be sure to not over-check the child, this isn't as much of an issue - 'hey, that's my mom, she doesn't usually call, i better answer this' is Very easy when the kid has proof. It is also pretty easy to talk to a child to see why they might not have called…

I don't think you or jpfielding have any real experience raising kids. That's pretty clear from your smug assumption that children are reasonable people who will see the error of their ways if only their parents took the time to explain it to them and pander to whatever way the child wants to go about subverting parental authority. Let me clue you into reality. When kids pop out, they are uncivilized savages. It take…

It's strange. Everyone who's had a child is an expert on parenting.

Yours is just one data point. Here's another: it's perfectly possible to actually trust teenagers without regarding them as savages, while still catching the bad stuff that inevitably happens.

Different cultures tend to raise their kids differently. Many North American disciplinary actions are downright illegal here. Our kids still turn out fine.

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Post by StavrosK »

sbierwagen wrote: post #71
ElliotH wrote: post #24

Earlier quoted context omitted.

Hilariously, there's actually nothing stopping the kid phoning whoever they want. It's controlled by a contact group on the phone, that the child device can edit at will. Step 1 would be to add all friends to that group.

Kids don't use phones to make voice calls , grandpa, for much the same reason they don't use morse code, or smoke signals.

"Kids"? Hell, I'm 31 and the only people I ever call are my parents.

Re: Ignore No More – lock your child's device until they call you back

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Post by ElliotH »

sbierwagen wrote: post #71
ElliotH wrote: post #24

Earlier quoted context omitted.

Hilariously, there's actually nothing stopping the kid phoning whoever they want. It's controlled by a contact group on the phone, that the child device can edit at will. Step 1 would be to add all friends to that group.

Kids don't use phones to make voice calls , grandpa, for much the same reason they don't use morse code, or smoke signals.

Grandpa? Ouch! I'm three years younger than you!

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Post by mseebach »

untothebreach wrote: post #17
walterbell wrote: post #15

Earlier quoted context omitted.

danah boyd has a (free) book on the responses of teens to network parenting, http://www.danah.org/itscomplicated/ Edit: corrected name capitalization

Huh, I have never seen this, thanks! (OT nitpick: her name is actually 'danah boyd' https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Danah_Boyd#Early_life )

OT nitpick: It's not actually her name, it's the name she prefers for political and aesthetical reasons, and the most civil and polite thing to do is to accommodate that preference. But her actual name is Danah Boyd, just like Snoop Doggs actual name is Calvin Cordozar Broadus, Jr.
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