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Re: Public speaking is tough

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Say someone is a mediocre-to-decent public speaker already. How does one "level up" to be a really great public speaker? I've thought about a speech coach or class, but I don't know anyone who has had any success with this who could recommend where to find a good one.

Speak more often.

Either find an avenue to speak (internally at your company, or at local conferences) or attend a local toastmasters in your area.

My goal last year was to do some public speaking at least once a month. I only managed to speak 5-6 times during the year, but that was a lot better than the year before that. This year I think I will be able to hit the "speak at least once a month in public" goal. Speaking is a skill, and the only way to improve is practice.

Re: Public speaking is tough

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As someone in your audience, I beg you, please do not tell me what you're going to tell me, then tell me, then tell me what you just told me.

Agreed, this is the lamest kind of presentation. Humans like stories. Tell me a story.

Even the best technical presentations play out like a story. Guy Steele's "Growing a Language" is a classic example.

Re: Public speaking is tough

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Don't think of it as public speaking, think of it as a performance.

You wouldn't go try to perform a play without scripting it and memorizing your script first, nor should you do that with your presentation. Once you do that you can ad-lib and it will seem natural. Even the off-the-cuff jokes aren't really off-the-cuff.

And go twice as slow as you think you should, and pause a lot. When people get nervous they talk faster and don't realize it. If you're nervous your perception of time will change and small pauses seem like an eternity. Slow down and force yourself to break for five seconds between "paragraphs" and you'll be way ahead of most people.

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Here's two pieces of public speaking advice nobody will tell you about, but actually work. 1) Beta-blockers. Ask your doctor. 2) Alcohol. Obviously, be careful with this. :) But having a drink really will take the edge off. This works better when giving a toast as a best man than it does at work. It could probably work at a conference too. Other than this, for a big talk or pitch, I just practice until I'm blue in th…

I'd add teaching. Nostromo is right that you calm down quickly after you start speaking, but the problem is most people only have experience of talking for a brief time. 2-5 min talks in front of the class at school is a common experience. However if you teach a class for an hour or more, that period of nervousness is comparatively short and you quickly learn to be comfortable in front of others.

I support teaching as a great way to get comfortable with public speaking, and adapting to varied characters in a room. Holding people's attention, and actually making sure everyone grasps key concepts, for 1-2 hours, is not easy. Reacting and interacting with everyone at the same time is tough but, for me, very fun.

A second great way to improve was taught to me on a training course run by an acting school. Standing in a room, delivering an unprepared children's story to no one but to a full sized TV camera. Unexpectedly horrifying. A large lens does not react, does not smile, laugh or frown. After the first take, an actor would return to the room and we'd run over the video. It took a couple of days to get to something acceptable.

I highly recommend both methods.

Re: Public speaking is tough

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Here's two pieces of public speaking advice nobody will tell you about, but actually work. 1) Beta-blockers. Ask your doctor. 2) Alcohol. Obviously, be careful with this. :) But having a drink really will take the edge off. This works better when giving a toast as a best man than it does at work. It could probably work at a conference too. Other than this, for a big talk or pitch, I just practice until I'm blue in th…

Beta-blockers and alcohol are a shim, they don't help you get better at it. It's scary, but you can use the adrenalin if you let yourself. Yesterday I gave a talk - the first one I've ever given that wasn't a research talk. 30 minutes. I didn't pre-write it at all - just laid out the slides the day before. On the day of the talk I looked through the slides in the afternoon and thought about the main points I wanted t…

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Re: Public speaking is tough

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Earlier quoted context omitted.

Also I should point out, that combining Beta-Blockers with Alcohol isn't good for your health[1][2], your blood pressure can drop dangerously low[2]. Also I should point out I'm not a doctor [3]. [1] https://www.bhf.org.uk/heart-health/treatments/medications--... [2] http://texasheart.org/HIC/Topics/Meds/betameds.cfm [3] https://news.ycombinator.com/user?id=valarauca1

Oops, yeah, certainly don't do both! One is for less-formal speaking engagements, and one is for professional situations.

Alcohol only DECREASES the effects of beta blockers, right? That's not a bad thing.

Re: Public speaking is tough

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Personally I find people repeating themselves to be obnoxious and demonstrate that they think their crowd is full of people who can't pay attention.

I note how many times speakers repeat points, and it just makes me realize they have very few actual points and should have just said those things and not wasted the rest of my time stating the rest of the filler spilling from their mouths.

Animations? Really? Is this 1997? These don't impress anyone with any technical worth. Give me the content and stop wasting time on glitz.

Font? Can I read it? I don't give a shit about anything else.

The rest of the points are fine and good. :)

Re: Public speaking is tough

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Here's two pieces of public speaking advice nobody will tell you about, but actually work. 1) Beta-blockers. Ask your doctor. 2) Alcohol. Obviously, be careful with this. :) But having a drink really will take the edge off. This works better when giving a toast as a best man than it does at work. It could probably work at a conference too. Other than this, for a big talk or pitch, I just practice until I'm blue in th…

I did the drinking thing a couple of times. Once when making a pitch to an investor I stopped at a bar first for a quick beer. It worked. The other time I had to present in my non-native language (French). Stopped in the hotel bar for a glass of wine. That worked two. I've always been told I am more articulate when tipsy. Of course when I am too tipsy I speak in a Scottish accent for some reason.

Re: Public speaking is tough

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To me there are different scales of public speaking or presenting. I actually have no problem presenting to 500 people (the largest audience I've had): I just talk, and try to make some eye contact. There are always a few friendly faces. Presenting to up to a dozen people is no problem for me: I can adapt (speed up / slow down, skip over stuff, dive deep, repeat, whatever) depending on how the people react. But there…

That weird valley is essentially where you become a high school teacher. Most of the time if you're talking to that few people, it's because you're trying to give a lesson in some form or other.

I've spoken in front of large groups of students of all disciplines, large groups of business types and small to mid size groups of scientists. Large in this case is several hundred.

Undergrads get bored easily, but you can make it fun. Scientists are hard, simply because they know their stuff and get a knack for asking really annoying questions, the ones you didn't quite prepare for. Business people are simple in principle - everything has to be dirt simple (could your Mum understand it?) and usually to the point (what are you selling and why?). The hard part for business talks is that usually you can't be remotely technical because people will tune out.

With very few people it's easy to be flexible - odds are you know them reasonably well or you know enough about them that you can throw in a bit of banter, make it fun and respond to their queries well.

Larger groups you're just a drop in the ocean. The bigger the talk, usually the less time there is for interaction. So you can do your spiel, have a couple of short questions and leave. I find they're fairly easy as everyone blurs together.

In between is hard. You're acutely aware if people get bored - they won't hide it like small groups. You may have to answer fairly involved questions too. The only way, as ever, is to practice and make sure you know what you're talking about back to front.

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