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The Saddest Map In America

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Re: The Saddest Map In America

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Post by ianstallings »

clbrook wrote: post #63
zalzane wrote: post #28

I never understood the concept of missed connections on craigslist. Honestly, what's the chance of two people meeting each other, forgetting to swap numbers, and then both going onto craigslist to search/post in the missed connections category? It just seems like such an overwhelming statistical improbability that such a missed connection would ever be fulfilled through craigslist, I don't see why anyone would even b…

I met my husband on craigslist missed connections. Back in 2007.

Spill the beans! Tell us more. This is pretty intriguing.

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Post by anigbrowl »

zalzane wrote: post #28

I never understood the concept of missed connections on craigslist. Honestly, what's the chance of two people meeting each other, forgetting to swap numbers, and then both going onto craigslist to search/post in the missed connections category? It just seems like such an overwhelming statistical improbability that such a missed connection would ever be fulfilled through craigslist, I don't see why anyone would even b…

I don't see what's so improbable about it. If I found a set of keys or some personal property on the street with no identifying information craigslist is the first place I'd go, and so would most other people in an urban area. Sure, the probability that both parties felt a romantic attraction and still feel it a day later is fairly low, but if that is the case then CL would be the obvious first place to look.

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Post by aneth4 »

zalzane wrote: post #28

I never understood the concept of missed connections on craigslist. Honestly, what's the chance of two people meeting each other, forgetting to swap numbers, and then both going onto craigslist to search/post in the missed connections category? It just seems like such an overwhelming statistical improbability that such a missed connection would ever be fulfilled through craigslist, I don't see why anyone would even b…

I think the same thing, and yet after asking around - and as you can see from the comments here - it happens far more often than you would expect.

It's amazing to me that this is not a futile exercise. Regardless, even if it were, it serves a healing purpose for the poster. Putting an attachment like this out there in the universe can be a big release, regardless of the outcome. People often write love poems without the intent to send them. Same idea.

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Post by lclarkmichalek »

javert wrote: post #68
eplanit wrote: post #41

Earlier quoted context omitted.

Or, the result of Feminism, which teaches women to take the active role.

Feminism doesn't teach women to take the active role. It teaches them to hate men. To be clear, I think women should be treated equally under the law. I'm a big supporter of natural rights. Feminists are not big supporters of natural rights. They are generally leftists, and the truly intellectually dedicated members are generally far leftists.

Yup, no way that that comment would ever start a flame war. Anyway, I might as well get us kicking off. So, how exactly does feminism teach people to hate men?

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Post by davidtanner »

javert wrote: post #68
eplanit wrote: post #41

Earlier quoted context omitted.

Or, the result of Feminism, which teaches women to take the active role.

Feminism doesn't teach women to take the active role. It teaches them to hate men. To be clear, I think women should be treated equally under the law. I'm a big supporter of natural rights. Feminists are not big supporters of natural rights. They are generally leftists, and the truly intellectually dedicated members are generally far leftists.

Feminists are generally leftist and the more intellectual the more progressive/far left, generally speaking.

However I know some women that are intellectually dedicated feminists and they don't hate men. They love men. They hate the patriarchy.

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Post by charlieok »

dandelany wrote: post #70
charlieok wrote: post #59

I'll take a crack at explaining the Colorado label. People here leave the Denver/Boulder area and head west into the mountains every weekend. The Sunday afternoon drive back is a miserable jam. Some of those mountain destinations are a pretty far drive, so if you're one of those who came here for the skiing, climbing and mountain biking (and judging by dating sites, most people here are) then you're making some stops…

>> If that's the explanation, I don't know why the label wouldn't be “trail” though. Probably because there are many ways to say it eg. "ski trail", "ski mountain", "ski run", "on the slopes", "chairlift" etc. whereas a gas station is just a gas station. Also, it's pretty hard to have a "missed connection" on a ski trail, seeing as how both parties tend to be in motion and ski goggles obscure eye contact :)

Fair enough. I was thinking of all the times I've passed attractive people on hiking trails. People going downhill yield to people going uphill. Sometimes you stop and chat, ask about directions, the weather. I could easily see people wishing they'd gotten a number on occasions like that.

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Post by maxpt »

zalzane wrote: post #28

I never understood the concept of missed connections on craigslist. Honestly, what's the chance of two people meeting each other, forgetting to swap numbers, and then both going onto craigslist to search/post in the missed connections category? It just seems like such an overwhelming statistical improbability that such a missed connection would ever be fulfilled through craigslist, I don't see why anyone would even b…

It feels like a byproduct of some sort of a Hollywood-manufactured misconception about love at first sight.

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Post by nikatwork »

ComputerGuru wrote: post #56
jff wrote: post #39

Earlier quoted context omitted.

For Chicago, I'd expect "at the crime scene" to be more common.

Chicago is behind the following in terms of murder/manslaughter per capita: New Orleans, Detroit, Newark, Baltimore, Oakland, Kansas City, Philadelphia, Atlanta, Cincinnati, Stockton, Cleveland, Memphis, DC, and Miami (in that order, from most deaths/capita to least) [0]. You were saying? [0]: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/United_States_cities_by_crime_...

The fact that other cities have a worse crime rate does not make Chicago's crime rate okay.

Pretty sure it was a joke anyway, for some reason Chicago has replaced Detroit in "you'll get shot" references.

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