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Exaggerating a bit, I felt like my old self was dead and I just happened to somehow have inherited his memories. But a more concrete thing: While before I might have been saddened about bad things happening to kids, like any normal person would, after having kids myself I experience an stronger reaction: I get almost physically ill when I hear about kids getting harmed.
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Same here, I can't even read articles on BBC about child abusers, it makes me nauseous just to skim over a title.
Since I have a daughter, those "thoughts" are straight violence to the next level in my head when I hear or even see children being mistreated, I'm normally not favorable for any form of violence but strangely, some crimes suddenly gets a pass and progressive decapitation becomes reasonable.
Instead I reaffirm my commitment to actual sex and emotional education, and easily accessible birth control, and access to abortion. I figure threatening to decapitate people only makes people more fucked up, not less.
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I was surprised how sudden the change was - I didn't become a dad to my kid, I became a dad to all kids within sight or sound . Sure, most of the time I don't have to do anything, but I certainly notice much more now.
This. Also, the feelings have become stronger as I age.
The first born defenitely changed me somehow. As if some evolution gene was suddenly ordering me "You will protect this with everything in your power!" The second born, not so much. Perhaps the brain was already settled in the right configuration :)
Some men who are fathers now had to jump in early as the older sibling due to unreliable parents. Some of those men also chose not to be fathers. Taking responsibility for others is a broad range of experiences.
For all that is said about "dysfunctional" families, sometimes adulting early leads to better outcomes because you were given more time to think.
About 2-3 months after the birth of my first child, I started “seeing” the baby’s face vividly whenever I would close my eyes, when I was falling asleep but other times during the day as well. It was not a conscious-voluntary imagination, more like an artifact of my brain rewiring priority numero uno. Our second child is now 3 months old and I have not experienced similar, perhaps because the brain changes already se…
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I know what you are trying to do here with a new account (probably part of IDF unit for spam). Also checked your other comments, its solely about defending Israel and attacking Palestinians
It’s strange to me that with all the automation available to propaganda groups that they’re still so often myopic/transparent like this. I wonder when that will become very rare.
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I slept way less and more fragmented when I was a student.
That is almost too hard to believe. Sleep less? Ok. More fragmented? Doubtful, unless your baby slept more than 4hrs straight in their infancy.
Life was harder. Then again nothing breaks my brain like the cry of my daughter so probably not one to one.
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man, wut?
Becoming a dad simultaneously made me more empathetic (seeing a little person from the beginning for all they are) but also more impatient (fewer hours in the day), but beyond that not much. Given the notoriety about some of the techniques referenced in this article [0] curious if others notice anything more consistent. 0: https://academic.oup.com/brain/article/140/8/e53/4032512
After my child was born, I could no longer even look at newspaper headlines where something bad happened to a child. Now, I can read the headlines, but I still can't read the articles.