I lost my father last year because of complications from severe Alzheimer's. When I saw this, I thought my mother is still with us, and I need to be grateful for that. I love you mum!
Remind HN: Today is Mother's Day, call your moms
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#74I am happy for all those who celebrate. Quick reminder that not all mothers are good people that we must keep in touch with. For people recovering from a rough childhood, here are a couple of resources that may be useful to you: 1. "Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents" by Gibson. 2. https://old.reddit.com/r/AdultChildren+CPTSD+raisedbynarciss...
Thank you for the acknowledgement of this. Mother's Day can be intensely painful for people who had or have abusive or neglectful mothers. I think this should be acknowledged before the blanket advice of "call your mom" is given.
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And China, India, and many other large countries. Most of the world (by population) celebrates it today.
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#76She despises me for being gay. Not a chance I'm calling her.
She can hate the things you do and still love who you are. Shining your light where it's cold and dark is the only way to make the darkness go away. Hope this helps
My mom is fine, but my grandmother has said exceedingly racist things to my wife and homophobic things to my sister. I haven't talked to her in years and I suspect I will not for the rest of her life.
People act like I am a douche for this, but at this point I really see three options here. A) I roll my eyes and let her spew her stupid racist bullshit and move on, B) I push back, start an argument, and really upset my mother (whom I do like), or C) drop contact with her. C seems like the least-bad option.
Kids owe their parents nothing. Not a single person on this planet asked to be born. If a parent (or grandparent) does something bad, the onus is not on the child to make things "right".
People act like you have to love your family no matter what, but I think that's pretty naive. If literally anyone I didn't share DNA with said something racist about my wife then no one would give me shit for not talking to them, but suddenly because I'm related to them I just have to let this bullshit slide? Fuck that bullshit.
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#79Earlier quoted context omitted.
Not all moms are good people. People with good moms often have trouble understanding or respecting that.
Every parent in Asia would despise their son if they were gay. That does not make them bad parents.
Hating your child for the genes you gave them absolutely makes you a bad parent.
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#80Earlier quoted context omitted.
March 8 is international women’s day. The most ignored of all holidays by US culture. To an almost hilarious degree. My partner frequently brags that she’s the only of her friends and coworkers, in 10+ years, who has ever gotten flowers for women’s day. Meanwhile even Uber drivers have wished her a happy women’s day in various heavy foreign accents.
I feel some editorializing going on. Here[0] is a list of many holidays that are ignored more than international women’s day. Happy International Day of Plant Health to you! 0: https://www.un.org/en/observances/list-days-weeks
international day of plant health is on may 12, not today!