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Re: Find Your People

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Post by apsurd »

kayge wrote: post #43
apsurd wrote: post #3

Good speech. It makes me think of why the rich get richer though. More access to more types of people earlier and throughout one's life. The best thing to give kids is access to a very wide—as wide as they can stomach—orientation of all there is in the world. It's not curation, it's not "the best". it's volume and contrasts. I debate my friends about private school. they have kids, I don't yet. Private school is actu…

As someone who wishes they could realistically afford private school for their kids (public school leaves a lot to be desired for 'gifted' kids these days), I think you've got good points but I land on the other side. Using some of your quotes: private school is "a narrow lens", but that lens likely includes a high percentage of the "rich get richer" network. I think my ideal would be private school to help find a be…

> (2 of them anyway, tbd on #3 :D)

LOL; thanks this made my chill Friday very chill.

On principle, I don't like feeding into wealth disparity so I don't want to pay for private school. Your perspective is most practical and likely something I'll lean into as I do have kids of my own. "Why not do both" basically.

Re: Find Your People

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Post by 65 »

whall6 wrote: post #69

Unrelated to tech, but I wonder if this is why so many people seek the IB to PE to HF route that seems so well trod. They just need rails that point them to the next stop.

Care to explain what IB, PE, and HF mean?

Re: Find Your People

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Post by macintux »

mclau157 wrote: post #68

Tangential to this but why does there seem to be a correlation between rock climbing gyms and tech oriented people?

I have no idea, but personally after 30 years of IT work, I definitely regret not finding something to strengthen my hands. They're barely useful for anything besides typing, and often not even that.

Re: Find Your People

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Post by Karrot_Kream »

jimbokun wrote: post #44
game_the0ry wrote: post #23

Earlier quoted context omitted.

As a south asian person, I could not agree more. The irony is that my parents were immigrant entrepreneurs and my grandparents were also entrepreneurs on both sides. Yet my parents pushed me towards medical school or a stable job at the least. I think this was for a couple reasons: 1. Asian parents express their insecurities through their children. They wanted a stable and high income (which maps to "doctor") so they…

Not Asian or South Asian. I'm sure what you're saying is true. But having parents that are not involved enough to push their kids towards anything in particular is a much bigger challenge to over come. If you have a degree from a prestigious university and the network that comes along with it, pivoting towards start ups or something more creative or entrepreneurial is a lot easier than if you never went to college at…

On both ends here it's bad. I know several Asian kids who have permanently frayed relationships with parents because of how they felt their parents imposed their desires on their lives. The best is in the middle.

Re: Find Your People

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Post by apsurd »

65 wrote: post #72
whall6 wrote: post #69

Unrelated to tech, but I wonder if this is why so many people seek the IB to PE to HF route that seems so well trod. They just need rails that point them to the next stop.

Care to explain what IB, PE, and HF mean?

investment banking, private equity, hedge fund. I think

Re: Find Your People

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Post by netvarun »

65 wrote: post #72
whall6 wrote: post #69

Unrelated to tech, but I wonder if this is why so many people seek the IB to PE to HF route that seems so well trod. They just need rails that point them to the next stop.

Care to explain what IB, PE, and HF mean?

I think they refer to: IB - investment banking PE - private equity HF - hedge funds or High Frequency trading (?)

Re: Find Your People

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Post by lanfeust6 »

jll29 wrote: post #70
jumploops wrote: post #38

As someone who has “reinvented” myself more than once (mostly due to school/job transfers), it seems what wasn’t said is equally if not more important. Rarely can you “find your people” without letting other people go. The unspoken truth in this article is that it’s just as important to be willing to let go of relationships that aren’t helping you grow. Easier said than done. Whether it’s the negative influence of a…

As Kermit the Frog in his Maryland commencement speech said, Jim Henson took people for "what they are": https://www.youtube.com/live/hLFa8zGeotI?feature=shared&t=74... Do NOT "fake it until you make it". Be yourself. And find people who accept you as you are.

This is semantic baggage to me. Identity is best loosely held, and it's mostly determined by our actions. There's no real faking, just acting in accordance to, or against, one's preferences.

Colloquially when people use the term "fake it till you make it" they don't really mean "pretend to be a different person". They just mean act in the face of uncertainty. You can do it with or without undeserved confidence, it's besides.

Re: Find Your People

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Post by pokemyiout »

65 wrote: post #72
whall6 wrote: post #69

Unrelated to tech, but I wonder if this is why so many people seek the IB to PE to HF route that seems so well trod. They just need rails that point them to the next stop.

Care to explain what IB, PE, and HF mean?

IB: Investment Banking PE: Private Equity HF: Hedge Fund

Re: Find Your People

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Post by throe73848484 »

> So I'm going to tell you about a trick you can pull right here at the point where the train tracks end. You can reinvent yourself. I wish I’d known I could do that. I was lazy in college and got bad grades

I googled study fees for that university. $69000 per year plus expenses for accommodation, food and books.

After you finish such school, you should be top level motivated professional with highly lucrative job lined up. If you drop quarter of million dollars for paper, just to discover at end you need to "reinvent yourself", you are probably highly highly privileged person, or just not so smart.

18 years old kids need to hear this speech. Not students before graduation!

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