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Re: What really happens inside a dating app

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Post by ugurs »

TheJoeMan wrote: post #66
parliament32 wrote: post #59

My anecdotal user-end data-science-ish story about dating apps: A few years back I was single and on Hinge a fair amount. If you used Hinge back then, you'll remember some key differences between the platform and other dating apps: 1) when you "like"'d someone, you'd have to comment on a specific part of their profile (a photo, a prompt answer, etc), 2) these likes showed up in their inbox, independent of whether the…

Quite interesting! But you’re leaving us hanging, did you ask her why she was on Hinge at 2pm?

You sound like a manager.

Re: What really happens inside a dating app

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Post by bradlys »

carabiner wrote: post #61

He ends with a very interesting proposition to "fix" dating apps: > To me, the next revolution is really concepts that will make you meet other people without having much information about them. As a user, you will trust the algorithm to match you with the right people. And these concepts will be paying only > So to summarize, a concept where users pay and commit that they will meet people without knowing them before…

Breeze arguably is even more superficial than other apps. You don’t get the chance to talk or anything. You have to show up and make it work.

For most women, you’re only going to do that with a guy you’re 100% physically attracted to from the get go.

I wouldn’t recommend Breeze to any men who aren’t above average in looks. It will also quickly stop showing you people when you’re getting rejected a lot. An interesting aspect of the app. At least you’ll know where you stand after about a week or two. (Getting only 3 options a day says that it thinks you’re not going to ever get a match)

Breeze is in NYC now. So, it’s making way into the US slowly.

Re: What really happens inside a dating app

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Post by kevin_thibedeau »

jfengel wrote: post #24
bradlys wrote: post #22

> More than 50% of men just never receive a like, and never means maybe 2 or 3 likes in the lifespan of several weeks As someone in that more than 50%, it’s very annoying to constantly get told to get on the apps to meet women. I’m surrounded by men in the top 20% because I’m affluent, well educated, and spend a lot of time at the gym. Sadly, I’m just around these people and wasn’t born into the same kind of family.…

Out of curiosity... what does "ugly" mean? Is it deformed, or just not conforming to a cultural beauty standard?

Under 6'2".

Re: What really happens inside a dating app

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Post by HeckFeck »

bongoman42 wrote: post #5

Interesting data in the article though nothing unexpected for people who follow this space. Some notable points: > The other thing that interests you is the like ratio, or the openness, among 100 profiles that the user sees, how many of them does he like? (The median for men is 26% and for women is 4%.) >The like ratio of a girl is almost independent of the profiles she sees. For example, if a girl has a like ratio o…

I can corroborate this.

When I was using dating apps I kept a spreadsheet to track the response to like ratio, and indeed, the amount of women who liked me back in any given month was exactly 5% of those whom I liked.

Much as I wish that ratio was higher, data is data. The Tinder style matchmaking will always bring out this behaviour.

Re: What really happens inside a dating app

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Post by carabiner »

bradlys wrote: post #73
carabiner wrote: post #61

He ends with a very interesting proposition to "fix" dating apps: > To me, the next revolution is really concepts that will make you meet other people without having much information about them. As a user, you will trust the algorithm to match you with the right people. And these concepts will be paying only > So to summarize, a concept where users pay and commit that they will meet people without knowing them before…

Breeze arguably is even more superficial than other apps. You don’t get the chance to talk or anything. You have to show up and make it work. For most women, you’re only going to do that with a guy you’re 100% physically attracted to from the get go. I wouldn’t recommend Breeze to any men who aren’t above average in looks. It will also quickly stop showing you people when you’re getting rejected a lot. An interesting…

Thanks. These are really good points.

Re: What really happens inside a dating app

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Post by stanford_labrat »

383toast wrote: post #23
plants wrote: post #4

> Recommendation of profiles that you may like is a solved technical challenge at Tinder level and at mostly any dating app today. It’s hard to take the rest of the article seriously after reading this!

They know what you like, but that doesn't mean they will show you those profiles. Their goal is to maximize revenue, not maximize users finding good matches.

And at some places like Hinge, they'll identify your type so well that your "standouts" page (the one you have to pay to message people on) will be composed of 100% people you would probably like to speak to while your free feed will just be composed of people you have no interest in talking to!

Re: What really happens inside a dating app

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Post by HeckFeck »

parliament32 wrote: post #59

My anecdotal user-end data-science-ish story about dating apps: A few years back I was single and on Hinge a fair amount. If you used Hinge back then, you'll remember some key differences between the platform and other dating apps: 1) when you "like"'d someone, you'd have to comment on a specific part of their profile (a photo, a prompt answer, etc), 2) these likes showed up in their inbox, independent of whether the…

Any problem can be solved with enough data munging.

Re: What really happens inside a dating app

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Post by bradlys »

Synaesthesia wrote: post #67
bradlys wrote: post #22

> More than 50% of men just never receive a like, and never means maybe 2 or 3 likes in the lifespan of several weeks As someone in that more than 50%, it’s very annoying to constantly get told to get on the apps to meet women. I’m surrounded by men in the top 20% because I’m affluent, well educated, and spend a lot of time at the gym. Sadly, I’m just around these people and wasn’t born into the same kind of family.…

I think the problem with apps is they emphasise looks, when women are also attracted to confidence, which is something you can work on.

I think we’re going through a cultural shift. Looks is becoming the most important thing across the board. Most people won’t meet your partner but they’ll see them on social media. You need someone you feel proud about and secure of. On top of this, women are becoming more superficial than in previous years due to relationships being luxuries.

If a man was a solid laborer, upstanding citizen, and otherwise a dedicated family man - he would’ve done alright in certain periods of our history. But now, that’s not really that attractive. Women are much more susceptible to shifting societal trends. You can see this around the world. As women become more online, marriage rates plummet.

We’re moving further and further away from meeting your partners in real life. It’s going to be an uncommon way to meet in the future and what we will find isn’t that everyone just meets online - it’s that most people refuse to be together overall.

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