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Re: Duolicious – Open-source dating app

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Post by 0xDEAFBEAD »

scythe wrote: post #40
PaulHoule wrote: post #9

Earlier quoted context omitted.

Can they charge women $1 to join and charge men $20 or something?

I think that this is a poor strategy in general if you actually want to "solve" online dating. From the women's perspective, men who are willing to spend money for a dating app are probably not more desirable than average, unless you raise the price so high (probably around $1k) it becomes a meaningful proxy for wealth, and even then that's a narrow market that is already saturated. The buzz about dating apps on male…

>you might restrict the pool of men by charging, but you consequently make the app less interesting to women, which foils your attempt to balance the gender ratio.

I think charging men could improve the experience for women, if men are denied a refund if they're banned for unwelcome behavior.

It's not a subscription fee. It's a deposit ;-)

Re: Duolicious – Open-source dating app

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Post by 0xDEAFBEAD »

Beijinger wrote: post #45

"Duolicious has a question bank containing over 2000 thoughtful and unique questions designed to help us gain authentic insight into your personality" And then do a clustering in n-dimensional space. Forget it, won't work. I am not looking to date a clone of myself. But this clustering approach might work well with resumes for hiring. People hire people with similar resumes.

OKCupid had a clever way to handle this back in the day.

Whenever you answered a question, the site would also ask how your ideal partner would've answered. (I think you could specify multiple different answers as acceptable.)

So you're free to specify that your ideal partner would answer differently than you yourself.

Re: Duolicious – Open-source dating app

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Post by dinkumthinkum »

progmetaldev wrote: post #63
progmetaldev wrote: post #20

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I can tell you that as a cis-male, there are many people that sign up for apps like Tinder that represent themselves either incorrectly, don't fit into the filters that are available, or gender themselves in a way that don't mesh well with cis-for-cis relationships. I hope that doesn't come off as harsh or hateful, because it absolutely isn't. I feel like a lot of non-cis people are subjected to a lot of unnecessary…

Apparently peepeepoopoo# or whatever doesn't think I need to use "cis". I normally don't, but because I saw that's how the conversation was going, I did the same. "Straight-male," does that make my words make more sense, like they didn't before? I apologize if "cis" in a sentence triggers you, I didn't think it mattered either way, other than just matching the conversation. I'm guessing it doesn't, but I just haven't…

You might be making a wrong assumption or something. Honestly, I couldn't make heads or tails of your post. There is a point where reality comes into play. For sure, it is controversial as to whether someone event accepts that three-letter prefix as meaningful but even insofar as that, this does not apply to many people, and that is just the hard truth. The vast, vast majority of dating sites are connecting men with women and due to many other realities of the marketplace, it makes more sense to charge women less, if anything, than males. I feel like this common sense so I won't belabor it.

Re: Duolicious – Open-source dating app

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Post by orblivion »

asdaqopqkq wrote: post #70
orblivion wrote: post #62

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I don't think it's zero sum. Not everyone is into the same parameters. Or at least we don't weigh them the same. Supposing I don't know anything about women, I would at least venture to say that nerd guys like myself value intelligence in women more than the average person. But even supposing it was zero sum, and supposing I'm a "low value" male and I deserve a "low value" female. The dating sites could fail to show…

Problem is that the top guys are also after your "type" of women. All type of women. Edit: Also a lot of intellectual women tend to stay away from men seeking intellectual women cause most of the time it is a red flag, cause if you probe deeper a lot of these guys are looking for nerd girls for unhealthy reasons, like they have an unhealthy image of a "nerd girl" in their minds, other times is it just coping, they wo…

What does this have to do with being zero sum?

Re: Duolicious – Open-source dating app

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Post by dinkumthinkum »

asdaqopqkq wrote: post #29

People looking for "an ethical dating app" are usually incel or incel adjacent. Dating is a zero sum game. Most men don't understand women. I'm saying this as a top 10% guy (IRL and on apps). It's best to acknowledge this and take this into account.

I get what you are saying but "incel" is a pejorative that is not generally associated with the type of person that would use the phrase "an ethical dating app" but the point is taken that they may be "involuntary celibate", sure. Typically, someone using phraseology associated with hyper-politically-correct people would not be thought of as incels.

Re: Duolicious – Open-source dating app

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Post by Gavin222 »

AzzyHN wrote: post #60
robrtsql wrote: post #5

> What’s the gender ratio on Duolicious? > Right now the ratio of active men to women is 7.32:1. The ratio can change a lot, depending on which online communities have been talking about Duolicious lately; The ratio’s previously been as high as about 20:1. Admitting this was brave.

Wow, I expected a lot more men

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Re: Duolicious – Open-source dating app

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Post by eska »

PaulHoule wrote: post #9
robrtsql wrote: post #5

> What’s the gender ratio on Duolicious? > Right now the ratio of active men to women is 7.32:1. The ratio can change a lot, depending on which online communities have been talking about Duolicious lately; The ratio’s previously been as high as about 20:1. Admitting this was brave.

Can they charge women $1 to join and charge men $20 or something?

I see this a lot in Japan for language exchange parties. Foreigners pay the least, then Japanese women, then Japanese men.

Re: Duolicious – Open-source dating app

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Post by verdverm »

marci wrote: post #32
progmetaldev wrote: post #13

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Unfortunately, I don't think we're going to ever be getting an ethical dating app. It may be ethical as far as not charging users to connect, or not trying to keep users constantly staying single so they are always using and checking the app. Without that "addiction" potential, I think even a completely open dating app would fail miserably. If people were able to connect and move on quickly, there would be little rea…

> If people were able to connect and move on quickly, there would be little reason for the app-creators to continue developing. If an open-source piece of tech is working as advertised, why would its devs continue working on a finished product?

Security, the world outside of the app is constantly changing, would not want a known exploit used to obtain access to my responses to a subset of the 2000+ questions

i.e., software is never finished

Re: Duolicious – Open-source dating app

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Post by asdaqopqkq »

Pigalowda wrote: post #55
asdaqopqkq wrote: post #29

People looking for "an ethical dating app" are usually incel or incel adjacent. Dating is a zero sum game. Most men don't understand women. I'm saying this as a top 10% guy (IRL and on apps). It's best to acknowledge this and take this into account.

Take a look at this boys. Some real BDE here on HN. We’re blessed today

I can assure you than my D is slightly smaller than the average.

Re: Duolicious – Open-source dating app

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Post by petre »

andrewflnr wrote: post #64
progmetaldev wrote: post #13

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Unfortunately, I don't think we're going to ever be getting an ethical dating app. It may be ethical as far as not charging users to connect, or not trying to keep users constantly staying single so they are always using and checking the app. Without that "addiction" potential, I think even a completely open dating app would fail miserably. If people were able to connect and move on quickly, there would be little rea…

> It may be ethical as far as not charging users to connect Actually, I think "charging users to connect" is the only way to make an ethical dating app. The key thing is, everyone pays the same amount, and gets the same abilities within the platform. No freemium, no free riders. Everyone helps keep the platform sustainable. You do still have to deal with the perverse incentive to keep people on the platform, but I ha…

It could be run by the government, since they're the ones who need to worry about demographic decline.
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