I use GitHub, but only as a mirror for the repositories I have on infrastructure under my own control. It's still very easy for others to contribute, even to send pull requests via GitHub, while I merge them locally and push them to my primary and mirror repositories. GitHub detects that PRs are merged, even if you do not use their UI, which is very nice. Note that you can do this for more online services; you can ha…
I’ve stubbornly struggled through self hosting all my stuff while everyone was saying it was a waste of time. There was a stretch where I was starting to believe it, but now I’m starting to feel more vindicated. It’s different for large companies, but I think smaller developers benefit from the control you get from self hosting everything possible.