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Everything Is a Practice

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Re: Everything Is a Practice

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Let's not forget some of the origins of this wisdom:

- Aristotle's distinction between activities/beings that are an end in themselves vs. activities that end with the achievement of their goals, and the realization that one activity can be both

- Buddhist practice of focusing on the activity of mind

Both address directly what this article does indirectly: the brain's reward system prunes reality and self-expression as necessary to get things done, so often improvement comes only after deconstructing those blinders. And that in turn is super, super difficult, and virtually never happens unless it has to, because someone is traumatized by reward-system-induced failures like addiction, violence, social ostracism, personal shame, etc. In the "best" case, one's compassion for others' suffering sensitizes one to sniff and shun reward-system fast-paths.

It's ALWAYS better to avoid reward-system hysteresis, since it's almost never fixable. And remember, the more capable and well-funded you are, the less the environment will offer any guardrails. It's all on you.

Re: Everything Is a Practice

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> The version of you that was a couch potato for four hours on a Saturday is less good than the version that went for a run, lifted weights, home-brewed beer, met someone for coffee, or whatever self-improvement you might have done. How so? I see many people assert this, but I've yet to see someone be able to articulate why (that isn't trivially refutable). Are we measuring by happiness? Contentment? External validat…

Individuals are free to choose their own evaluation metric for their lives, but it turns out that most fall into a relatively narrow band. Let's assume people have (at least some measure of) free will, because otherwise the question of "What should I do" is largely moot. Let's define life as a path through a space of nonfungible states. Our utility metric U(s,t) gives a utility value to experiencing a certain state (…

Is this satire? Surely you must know that many (most?) human beings don't conform into your presuppositions about value and the meaning of positive and negative, given that life isn't a spreadsheet.

Re: Everything Is a Practice

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At 25, this is a superpower. Even if you just practice a thing for 10 minutes a day, by the time you're in your 40s (which is about when life starts getting really good) you will be fantastic at it.

What makes your 40s so good? I'm approaching them and would love some more things to look forward to!

The ‘fuck it’ bucket. You realize that life is here and you stop caring about the social constructs you’ve been part of. Also, while you aren’t your virulent former self, you can do things well OR you can dive into something with the curiosity of a kid knowing you don’t need to be great.

Re: Everything Is a Practice

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Something about not being young anymore is that I am much more comfortable leveraging small changes consistently over time. When I was 16, the idea of doing a little bit of practicing vocal exercises each day in order to improve over time would have seemed an insurmountable challenge. I needed things to improve over the course of days or hours. (In this, I was terribly short-sighted). But now that I'm considerably ol…

For me the increased awareness of time has been a double-edged sword. More patience for slow progress and sustained practice, maybe; but there's also come a much greater awareness of the immense investment of time it takes to reach mastery, which leaves me feeling like it's usually not worth beginning at all.

The journey, not the destination. The destination is death so have some enjoyment!

Re: Everything Is a Practice

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I'm at the point where I feel fed up with too much talk about self-improvement. It's ok to not be productive and just enjoy things. Enjoy relationships, the sunshine, even video games or something that is literally a waste of time. Maybe I got burned out by goal-setting and productivity talk. It also might be some remnants of some mild depression I had lately. I guess I just don't like feeling pressured to constantly…

There are plenty examples of people who took that attitude and aren’t/weren’t good humans.

You are good enough as you are. Sure, there is a better version of yourself and everyday is an opportunity to be a little better BUT your value as a human has NOTHING to do with any of this shit.

Time for rest and recovery is good.

Re: Everything Is a Practice

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I'm at the point where I feel fed up with too much talk about self-improvement. It's ok to not be productive and just enjoy things. Enjoy relationships, the sunshine, even video games or something that is literally a waste of time. Maybe I got burned out by goal-setting and productivity talk. It also might be some remnants of some mild depression I had lately. I guess I just don't like feeling pressured to constantly…

> if you're not improving, you're less of a human being I mean, it's true. The version of you that was a couch potato for four hours on a Saturday is less good than the version that went for a run, lifted weights, home-brewed beer, met someone for coffee, or whatever self-improvement you might have done. (I don't agree that enjoying relationships is contrary to self-improvement.) Of course, opportunity cost is a thin…

The 25-30 yr old version of myself who was super driven, deadly fit, focused and high achieving in chosen hobby was not a better version of me. It was a version that was a lot more free, less responsibility, way more selfish, self centered and egotistical.

The internal judge is à dangerous beast.

Re: Everything Is a Practice

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Earlier quoted context omitted.

Individuals are free to choose their own evaluation metric for their lives, but it turns out that most fall into a relatively narrow band. Let's assume people have (at least some measure of) free will, because otherwise the question of "What should I do" is largely moot. Let's define life as a path through a space of nonfungible states. Our utility metric U(s,t) gives a utility value to experiencing a certain state (…

Is this satire? Surely you must know that many (most?) human beings don't conform into your presuppositions about value and the meaning of positive and negative, given that life isn't a spreadsheet.

The mathiness of it is, admittedly, a touch tongue in cheek. But the underlying philosophy stands: Despite there being as many different views on "What do I value" as there are people, it's hard to construct a value system where sitting on the couch isn't paying a significant opportunity cost, unless you axiomatically take sitting on the couch as the greatest good there is.

Re: Everything Is a Practice

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post #73

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What makes your 40s so good? I'm approaching them and would love some more things to look forward to!

The ‘fuck it’ bucket. You realize that life is here and you stop caring about the social constructs you’ve been part of. Also, while you aren’t your virulent former self, you can do things well OR you can dive into something with the curiosity of a kid knowing you don’t need to be great.

> The ‘fuck it’ bucket.

Damn! You managed to say in four words what it took me a small essay to say. A tip of my hat to you, sir!

Re: Everything Is a Practice

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post #73

Earlier quoted context omitted.

The ‘fuck it’ bucket. You realize that life is here and you stop caring about the social constructs you’ve been part of. Also, while you aren’t your virulent former self, you can do things well OR you can dive into something with the curiosity of a kid knowing you don’t need to be great.

> The ‘fuck it’ bucket. Damn! You managed to say in four words what it took me a small essay to say. A tip of my hat to you, sir!

I can’t claim it. An older friend passed that to me.
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