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Building friend catchers

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Re: Building friend catchers

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Post by moviewise »

langsoul-com wrote: post #30

Niche activities or are always the best friend catchers. As it automatically filters out anyone not interested. Anyone who does chat would immediately have a common interest. Because it's niche, there tends to be original or unique ideas, making connection easier. That being said, you can't hide your identity and sing it loud and proud to any and everyone. My blog is anonymous so there's no friend catcher effect.

"Finding new interests and joining others in play is certainly one way to stop feeling lonely or misunderstood." From: Movie Wisdom On Making Friends https://moviewise.substack.com/p/movie-wisdom-on-making-frie...

Re: Building friend catchers

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Post by simonebrunozzi »

0xferruccio wrote: post #49
simonebrunozzi wrote: post #47

Earlier quoted context omitted.

Ciao Ferruccio

Ciao Simone, it feels meta to have you reply here! I think I've seen your name many times on HN, and a bunch of times on posts I shared :)

That was the intention! Maybe we'll meet IRL in a decade or so :)

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Post by dncornholio »

egypturnash wrote: post #50

Everything described in this history could have happened just as easily if he'd posted everything under the name "Raver Tomato". Aliases give you the option of more easily disassociating things from your legal identity, as well as making it harder for people to find all the embarassing shit you posted when you were a teenager.

Wondering if this is some state-sponsored post to prevent people entering bogus information online. Everything in this article is true, except the "Lesson learned"

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Post by scarecrowbob »

giantg2 wrote: post #25

I don't think I've ever met someone online and later met them in person. Except for dating sites. It seems more difficult to make friends the older I get. I think at least part of it is that everyone is so busy.

I met a quite a few folks online and then met them later in person.

I am tied to several communities where there is a whole lot of overlap between people online and in-person activities. For instance, I am involved with a long-running folk festival in Texas that has a large community, and many of those people are on social media. It's a fairly regular thing that I meet people at that festival who I'd previously only met in online spaces.

Similarly, I play music and I rock climb. I'm also involved in several forums for those activities. I've met up with quite a few folks over the years who I only knew from those forums, mostly because both those activities often require other people to participate.

Your point that "everyone is busy" is correct, I think. The big factor is what people are busy doing and finding the folks who are already busy doing things you would like to do.

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Post by meowtastic »

dewey wrote: post #67
meowtastic wrote: post #54

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How do you find those smaller accounts though? When you look by topic you tend to get tweets from popular influencers. And I may sound lazy but I don't like the idea of doomscrolling through Twitter just to find the right person.

Depends on what kind of community you are looking for, for me it's mostly IndieHackers and HN so I often click through profiles on HN comments or if there's a blog post shared on a personal blog I look for their Twitter account there. After you built up a few interesting accounts finding more accounts via Twitter is easier and less noisy.

Oh, never thought of doing it like that. I'll give it a go, thanks!

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Post by meowtastic »

otikik wrote: post #68
meowtastic wrote: post #45

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Sure, here are a few things on my mind now: - Practical use cases for crypto/blockchain. I don't believe in the speculative financial assets that came out of it, but I am intrigued by the idea of a central bank digital currency for example. - How to make some side income while having a full-time dev role in London. - General startup ideas chat with people who aren't too attached to one particular view.

LinkedIn might not be the best place for that... even Hacker News is a better platform for that I think. If you want to find friends (not just potential business associates), I suggest trying to find some other personal interest of yours that isn't money-related. Perhaps sharing on a different platform as well.

I was actually posting about data science / ML during that time.

It's these kind of topics that I enjoy talking to people about though. I get very quickly bored if we talk about other stuff. Sad I know.

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Post by nottorp »

dncornholio wrote: post #33

I've been in multiple communities under a fake name. Every birthdate I entered online is always 01-01-1970. I don't think you were being rebellious, you were the complete opposite! I've met people IRL from Finland, Lebanon, South Africa, basically all over the world, who I met online. Sometimes I would introduce my real name only when we met IRL. Not using my real name has not held me back from meeting new people, on…

Funny one. I've met IRL a guy who I've been playing Minecraft with on a private server for years recently.

I was driving near his area so I took a detour, visited him home and we chatted for like an hour.

We totally forgot to exchange real names :)

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Post by rubatuga »

bgdkbtv wrote: post #19
rozularen wrote: post #18

I don't know, I think your dad's advide is pretty spot on? Just that it isn't mutually exclusive with the fact that IF you want to be recognized by the content you put up, you'll have to associate your name with it. I started surfing the web in the early 00's when I was like 3 or 4 yo so it sticked to me the whole nickname thing way before asking for First Name and Last Name, cell phone, ID number, street address was…

Yeah righto mate, you started browsing the web when you were 3?

Must have been 3 or 4 when I downloaded bonzi buddy on our family computer.
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