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One way to define it is to look at the thing that's unique to OOP that isn't used in any other paradigm. In OOP data and method are unionized into primitives that form the basic building blocks of your program. This is unique to OOP. It must be the definition. Defining it in terms of message passing, encapsulation and inheritance are not as good because these concepts are used in other paradigms as well.
Wouldn’t closures and let’s say “type-driven” also support your definition? It’s quite tricky as sometuple.fun() and fun(sometuple) might as well be interchangeable. If you really want to support a formal definition it would probably be best to have it in denotational semantics… not an easy task.
At best what I've done here is eliminate some of the vagueness surrounding the definition, which is really all that's needed in most cases.