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With all due respect, did it never occur to you to get this all figured out BEFORE you had kids?
Of course life is completely deterministic and predictable given the current information we have.
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I didn't argue with that, or ask for an answer of that type, or say that davidw did anything wrong other than misread lisper's post. I thought the waterfall development link basically answered the question about advanced planning. I'm mostly interested in the emotional fragility of parents and wanted to see what would happen if I pointed out that logic does not back up his reaction.
"and wanted to see what would happen" So you didn't really care what people had to say, you were just trying to bait them? i.e. you were being a troll on purpose?
I wanted to learn something. Why did you post?
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I didn't argue with that, or ask for an answer of that type, or say that davidw did anything wrong other than misread lisper's post. I thought the waterfall development link basically answered the question about advanced planning. I'm mostly interested in the emotional fragility of parents and wanted to see what would happen if I pointed out that logic does not back up his reaction.
"I'm mostly interested in the emotional fragility of parents and wanted to see what would happen if I pointed out that logic does not back up his reaction." = trolling
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"and wanted to see what would happen" So you didn't really care what people had to say, you were just trying to bait them? i.e. you were being a troll on purpose?
Did you consider whether I would enjoy your post, prior to posting it? I wanted to learn something. Why did you post?
I know one shouldn't question orthodoxy, but it seems insane to me to have children and then dump them all day, from a young age, with strangers. What's the point of having them if you're not raising them?
As the parent of a 2 month old, it's a difficult question we're facing right now. Who? How? When? Should my wife, with a doctorate in biochemistry, abandon her career completely and stay home? Should I? I'm not enthusiastic about those options. Should we hire someone? Not wild about that either. I think the best would be to kind of try and switch off, but it's going to require a lot of flexibility, and perhaps earnin…
Here in Slovakia, the most common way to solve it is that mother will stay at home for two or three years (it is also called "mother's vacation"), and then resume her career. I think that in most cases, this is the most sane option. Some mothers would stay at home for 6 years - but even in this scenario, it doesn't mean the abandonment of the career, does it? Can't she return to work after a few years and resume where she left?
I believe the first years of a child are most magical for the parents to watch...and those moments will not return: if your wife will miss them by being in the workplace, they just will be missed forever. So take care and enjoy being with your kid as often as you can afford!
The big issue that Google has (incidentally the same issue that MS went through) is the two classes of employees that they now have and the resentment and disconnect between the two groups. The two groups, of course, are those who are millionaires and are 'fully vested' and those new googlers who are not millionaires (and probably never will become millionaires). The latter group relies on a salary to live in a very…
This is an issue faced by all "unequal" social structures, including countries, tribes, corporations, governments, and others, and every human structure throughout history has required mechanisms for managing it. Google is not exempt.
I wouldn't take this too seriously and I'm surprised that the Times:
1. Thought Google's daycare policy was worthy of the front page
2. Couldn't find a credible source who actual understands how and why the decision was made.
I know one shouldn't question orthodoxy, but it seems insane to me to have children and then dump them all day, from a young age, with strangers. What's the point of having them if you're not raising them?
I'm guessing you don't have children. Children being alone at home vs. being with lots of other children in daycare has many benefits. First, over the years I've seen a lot of kids that stayed at home with mom that were not socialized well at all. Being in a group is how we evolved. It's natural and normal. Being at home with one parent all day is not normal at all. Aside from socialization, being in the "home bubble…
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Of course life is completely deterministic and predictable given the current information we have.
Because it's such a huge surprise that having children will affect one or both of the parent's careers.