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Re: Ask HN: Hackers falling in love

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Post by kareemm » Fri, Feb 11, 2011, 6:09 PM UTC

Rygu wrote: post #42

noonespecial wrote: post #20

Falling in love is not one of life's distractions, its one of life's points. Time well spent.

True. I agree that it's one of life's points. However, oftentimes maintaining a relationship can be distracting.

If it's a relationship you want to be in, embrace the time away from work to be present and enjoy being with someone you love.

If you find your relationship distracts you from work you want to be doing, and find yourself wishing you were doing work and weren't with your significant other, end the relationship.

Re: Ask HN: Hackers falling in love

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Post by kareemm » Fri, Feb 11, 2011, 6:12 PM UTC

Oblivia wrote: post #9

As a woman who sees these young entrepreneurs in their twenties who routinely put work before relationships, I am sometimes dismayed. I've wondered more than once if their growth as men is being stunted. I suspect the stories of sacrificing love on the altar of your startup and the pain involved in doing so are just the stories you don't hear. New love and startups have about the same failure rate. No?

Perhaps you are dismayed because, for most of the population, a man's priority in life is to fulfill a vision. A woman's is to find love.

(Usual disclaimers - men also want love and women also enjoy working on a vision.).

Re: Ask HN: Hackers falling in love

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Post by Oblivia » Sat, Feb 12, 2011, 7:19 PM UTC

jayzee wrote: post #10

Oblivia wrote: post #9

As a woman who sees these young entrepreneurs in their twenties who routinely put work before relationships, I am sometimes dismayed. I've wondered more than once if their growth as men is being stunted. I suspect the stories of sacrificing love on the altar of your startup and the pain involved in doing so are just the stories you don't hear. New love and startups have about the same failure rate. No?

Yes, but when you succeed your start-up takes you to the bank, while your wife takes you to the cleaners ;)

If you really feel this way, maybe it's a good thing that such a small proportion succeed. There must be armies of startup wives out there who are paying off the debts of their husband's startup failures. ;)

Aw well. Startup or no startup, being in a bad relationship is a giant liability anyway.