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>be approached by decent young men all day I wish! I am in cafe right now surrounded by decent young men and all we do is glance at each other's laptops and smartphones.
So why don't you approach?
Oh, believe me I have done. It got tiring being the instigator and I made a promise to myself to let the guys do the approaching for a while. (Someone did and now we're in a happy relationship).