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Re: Greensboro Man Creates Dating App Where He's the Only Guy Allowed

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Post by paride5745 »

erikpukinskis wrote: post #64
chroem- wrote: post #36

Dating apps are extremely broken, and yet they're almost all owned by a single company: Match Group. I have a suspicion that these apps are left intentionally broken to keep users fruitlessly searching and boost engagement metrics. I can't find a complete list of the companies they've acquired, but last time I checked, Match owns over 20 different apps and dating sites, including Tinder, OkCupid, and Hinge. We really…

Can you say more about what’s not working? I’ve been with my girlfriend three years, just bought a car together. It’s going well! We met on OKcupid. I’m a happy customer, though I don’t think I’ve ever paid them anything.

I matched with my wife on OKcupid, for me it worked well.

Re: Greensboro Man Creates Dating App Where He's the Only Guy Allowed

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Post by jedberg »

vbtemp wrote: post #34

I had an idea for a dating app a while back, in which the basic idea is that you pay the service to message someone (above a free weekly limit of say 1 msg). The pricing would be reactive - as popular attractive people get more messages, the more it would cost to message them, growing exponentially in order to limit incoming messages to approx a few a day. Unpopular people who got few messages would have a price that…

There is a reason movies don't price based on popularity. Because it sends a subtle (and not so subtle) signal of popularity.

People would rather do without than do something unpopular.

The people with the low prices would still not get messages, because who wants to message someone so unpopular that you're the only one interested in them?

Re: Greensboro Man Creates Dating App Where He's the Only Guy Allowed

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Post by jdironman »

randomsearch wrote: post #62
chroem- wrote: post #36

Dating apps are extremely broken, and yet they're almost all owned by a single company: Match Group. I have a suspicion that these apps are left intentionally broken to keep users fruitlessly searching and boost engagement metrics. I can't find a complete list of the companies they've acquired, but last time I checked, Match owns over 20 different apps and dating sites, including Tinder, OkCupid, and Hinge. We really…

See also: Facebook/Insta/Whatsapp. One of the (many) major flaws in capitalism is that it incentivises the elimination of competition.

Ironically, that's the opposite effect that it is supposed to have.

Re: Greensboro Man Creates Dating App Where He's the Only Guy Allowed

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Post by mc32 »

brenden2 wrote: post #22
mc32 wrote: post #16

Earlier quoted context omitted.

Payment going to message recipient is going to create perverse incentives and people are going to monetize this aspect. So you’ll have many frustrated users who are simply being gamed for messages.

I'm not convinced that's a bad thing if that's the type of interaction people want.

I mean that it can devolve into scamming where people pretend to be interested but aren’t really and many will be people in “Romania” (some country) with fake profiles and so on...

Re: Greensboro Man Creates Dating App Where He's the Only Guy Allowed

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Post by umvi »

chroem- wrote: post #36

Dating apps are extremely broken, and yet they're almost all owned by a single company: Match Group. I have a suspicion that these apps are left intentionally broken to keep users fruitlessly searching and boost engagement metrics. I can't find a complete list of the companies they've acquired, but last time I checked, Match owns over 20 different apps and dating sites, including Tinder, OkCupid, and Hinge. We really…

Worked for me... met my wife on Tinder, been married 5 years.

For me the hard part was just finding new girls outside of my immediate social circle. Tinder just helped me meet lots of new girls I would have normally never met.

Re: Greensboro Man Creates Dating App Where He's the Only Guy Allowed

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Post by akersten »

chroem- wrote: post #36

Dating apps are extremely broken, and yet they're almost all owned by a single company: Match Group. I have a suspicion that these apps are left intentionally broken to keep users fruitlessly searching and boost engagement metrics. I can't find a complete list of the companies they've acquired, but last time I checked, Match owns over 20 different apps and dating sites, including Tinder, OkCupid, and Hinge. We really…

Match is not responsible for your lack of success in online dating. Having a lot of brands is not a good reason to involve the government. Hilton hotels has over a dozen brands. There's nothing stopping you from creating a competing dating app. If you have some insight into what's "extremely broken" and a solution for it, you might even attract customers.

Sorry for being brash, but I've been seeing a lot of unjustified "just bring in the anti-trust hammer, that will fix all the problems in tech" posts lately, and most of them are fairly baseless.

Re: Greensboro Man Creates Dating App Where He's the Only Guy Allowed

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Post by Jedi72 »

AgloeDreams wrote: post #68
vbtemp wrote: post #34

I had an idea for a dating app a while back, in which the basic idea is that you pay the service to message someone (above a free weekly limit of say 1 msg). The pricing would be reactive - as popular attractive people get more messages, the more it would cost to message them, growing exponentially in order to limit incoming messages to approx a few a day. Unpopular people who got few messages would have a price that…

"My idea of a dating app: Literally enforces class based social ranking " It really doesn't take much to realize that this pricing scheme would exclusively benefit the rich and white, right? Like for a successful, white, male, software engineer like myself I could afford to reach out to whomever I would like anytime I want, this would be heaven! But for someone in a worse social position they would be basically block…

Soounds like OP just wants to formalize the existing process. Dating is expensive!

Re: Greensboro Man Creates Dating App Where He's the Only Guy Allowed

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Post by zulln »

jressey wrote: post #70
erikpukinskis wrote: post #64

Earlier quoted context omitted.

Can you say more about what’s not working? I’ve been with my girlfriend three years, just bought a car together. It’s going well! We met on OKcupid. I’m a happy customer, though I don’t think I’ve ever paid them anything.

Survivorship Bias: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Survivorship_bias I met my wife online after a year of fruitless first dates. Maybe I'm just unappealing or something but it was truly a miserable part of my life. Edit: I'm gonna add in here that most people don't have the stick-to-itiveness that most readers of this site do.

So you met your wife after a year and call the whole thing a failure?

Re: Greensboro Man Creates Dating App Where He's the Only Guy Allowed

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Post by swimfar »

Someone1234 wrote: post #32
brenden2 wrote: post #8

I've thought about making a new dating app. The existing apps suck for 2 reasons: in most markets men are at a significant disadvantage because of how men and women differ in the way they approach dating (and there's also a significantly unfair male:female ratio in many markets). Additionally, none of them are really designed to get people off the app, but rather they're built to increase engagement and keep people o…

> One idea I've had is to disallow conversation in the app, and instead focus on making date plans if there's a match. You should likely run this idea past a few women. The typical reason they want to converse before meeting is security: Meeting strangers is dangerous and they want to "sniff test" to see if it is safe enough to even go that far. Your app idea largely seems to exist to solve issues men have with datin…

Is meeting a stranger in a public place actually dangerous, or do people just feel that it's dangerous? What is the worst that is likely to happen if two people meet up in a cafe or city park?
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