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So instead of "targeting" people, I'd just hang out at the right places and get to know folks in general.
I'm going to go ahead and say that "the hot girl effect" is not true, at least for women. The hotter you are the more you'll get hit on, guaranteed. Which leaves the theory behind this interaction up for grabs :)
I'm assuming you're a woman? Do you have any friendships with women you'd consider stunningly attractive?
That compulsion increases with however hot they are, though it tends to jump dramatically when they are at a certain level of beauty, normally a level where no matter the circumstance they are usually always considered beautiful by anyone around.
The theory above is short term (get a date), when there is also the long term consideration (marry her, have kids). If you are an average joe, the chances of you having kids with a hot top model are, very frankly, very low. And we guys know that. In the same way, the chance of us having a nice chat with the CEO of Goldman is fair, but the chance of him maintaining contact with us and being a friend or mentor is prett…
So I think if you honestly approach someone as a human being, who knows where it could lead.
If you approach them playing "just a human being" when actually you want to talk business and money, then you better be prepared for the other person to switch to "business mode" as well and yes, then they WILL evaluate you. Because after all then it was just all about business to begin with, wasnt it?
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Absolutely true. Wait until you get married - suddenly chicks hit on you all the time. It's like... WTF? Just two days ago, I sit in an outdoors bar, all alone, and order a beer. Now the other rule is that if you're all by yourself, nobody will approach you because you might be weird. Two hot girls sit down on the next table. And every time I look over, one of them gives me the biggest "please come over to talk to me…
How do those girls know you're married?
"Actually, I’ve found that the more successful and accomplished people are, typically, it seems like the more humble and friendly they are. Additionally, they tend to appreciate the value of networking and make an effort to meet new people." Nope! This is non-evidence. Successful people who are arrogant and antisocial are by nature less likely to run into you, so you should expect your observed pool of people-you-kno…
>A similar phenomenon occurs in social network rankings: For any given person with a reasonable number of Facebook friends, their friends will be, on average, more popular than the original person (popularity defined by number of friends). Almost everyone is one of the least popular people in their own social network. Is there a name for this phenomenon? Or supplemental reading material?
I have no mathematical proof; this is merely what I intuit.
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I know a founder of one of the top silicone valley start-ups. He's a great guy and when I happen to see him it's fine to chat. He's very busy so I don't see him very often. This relationship gets me zero, zilch, practical benefits. It's fluke that I know him. Would I expend a lot of effort to get ten relationships with similarly well-connected people? No, because it would rather insincere and would get me ten times a…
Are you of any benefit to your founder friend? My personal strategy is that I constantly work on maximizing myself as benefit to others. This gives me an edge - where I can actually pick such partners that return appropriate value. Increasing demand is actually really simple - just offer better (sought after) goods. As far as the poor pretty girl that needs to hit on guys. Unfortunately it doesn't work this way. Its…
Would you like to have coffee some time next week?
I'm in the SF Bay area and my email is on my profile (for now).
Would Tuesday or Friday work best for you?
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Are you of any benefit to your founder friend? My personal strategy is that I constantly work on maximizing myself as benefit to others. This gives me an edge - where I can actually pick such partners that return appropriate value. Increasing demand is actually really simple - just offer better (sought after) goods. As far as the poor pretty girl that needs to hit on guys. Unfortunately it doesn't work this way. Its…
Hmm, Would you like to have coffee some time next week? I'm in the SF Bay area and my email is on my profile (for now). Would Tuesday or Friday work best for you?