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I feel like I'm making this comment once a week on HN but I host my own email and I haven't had any major issue so far with "big email". The main caveat is that you will have a very hard time getting your email accepted if it comes from a home connection IP range instead of some host provider but if you do have a dedicated server and follow the guidelines (SMTPS, DKIM, SPF etc...) it just works, at least in my experi…
Hosting one's own e-mail server is a totally opaque random crapshot. You may not have any trouble, but some other dude or gal will get their e-mail marked as spam without any way to tell what exactly is wrong and what to change.
You can always get it unlisted.
After that don't start to send hundred of email by day. You need to build a reputation for your domain and ip.
As the parent comment says, set up directly spf, dkim and dmarc (also arc if you can). Rspamd can help you do that.
I've been running a personal mail server for 5 years with simply following those rules.