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Tinder just permabanned me or the problem with big tech

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Re: Tinder just permabanned me or the problem with big tech

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Post by diebeforei485 »

GiorgioG wrote: post #367
hdjjhhvvhga wrote: post #204

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> I don't know what happened in this situation, but generally refunding money for TOS violations is a bad idea. You can learn the article and learn what happened. We are not talking about things in general, but about this particular situation. Basically, it's pure theft. But since the amount is so low, nobody will sue them. In this way they can scam thousands of people and go unpunished.

Chargebacks are a thing, and they do punish bad actors.

Thing is, you probably don't want to chargeback in this scenario because the app charges through Apple's billing system.

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Post by sizzle »

zionic wrote: post #198
bigwheeler wrote: post #129

I just lost my IG account after having it for literally a decade. Short story: I thought my engagement was low, so I manually went through my not-very-large follower list (2400 or so) in the IG app, identified about 100 accounts that I thought were bots (accounts that were following 6000+ people), and then went to each one and removed them as a follower. I made it about 40 in when suddenly I got meaningless errors, l…

>All of the avenues to contact Instagram are meaningless and don’t lead anywhere. I feel you. I got permabanned from tinder when I emailed their support asking how the verification process worked with couples. They replied with a ban notice and I was confused, turns out couples profiles are against Tinders T&C. I hadn't actually done ANYTHING to violate their T&C in-app yet, just asking their support about it was eno…

Wow never heard of the embedded secret key on you iOS keychain after you uninstalled the app. Is this legal to fingerprint your AppleID like this?? Can you view your iOS keychain and wipe any fingerprinting bs apps leave behind or feed them poisoned data to dissociate your AppleID?

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Post by crystalmeph »

netizen-936824 wrote: post #388
999900000999 wrote: post #106

By far the best part is they didn't automatically cancel his subscription. What a horrible company, if you've banned my account that's fine but cancel the subscription and refund my money. If y'all haven't looked at it yet, read up on the FCC's filing against Match. They knowingly prompt up tons of fake profiles, to get you engaged. Horrifically this has lead to romance scams being the number one source of fraud in t…

>if you're staring at your phone constantly waiting for box to message you I may be unfamiliar with the terminology, but can you please explain what this means? What is "box" in this context?

I read it as the phone itself.

Re: Tinder just permabanned me or the problem with big tech

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Post by vondro »

Zachsa999 wrote: post #153
webdoodle wrote: post #139

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To take it a step further, throw your phone away. I've been digital overseer/fear machine free for almost 2 years now, and can definitively say it's the best decision a person can make for their mental well being.

How do you deal with the dumb crap related to not being connected when everyone else is? Do you have any records or writings documenting your experience?

I meet in person people I care about, and talk to them. We exchange our recent life experiences, or not, depending on context. I don't care what people I don't care about do.

For documenting my experiences, I have photo album on my phone. Can show it to someone physically, or send pictures on Whatsapp for example.

Works for me, anyway.

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Post by stjohnswarts »

klipt wrote: post #370
stjohnswarts wrote: post #281

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Flashcards? That's doesn't seem to have much to do with ending a phone addiction?

Never used Anki?

Yeah I use that style for some notes on Obsidian when I'm learning new things.

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Post by stjohnswarts »

mlyle wrote: post #392
stjohnswarts wrote: post #281

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Flashcards? That's doesn't seem to have much to do with ending a phone addiction?

Flash cards, in the sense of-- things that show you questions you're trying to memorize/learn the answers to. Not like, cards with flash memory on them. The person uses their phone for contained things that are not likely to cause a faux-social-reward-cycle.

Ah gotcha.

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Post by stjohnswarts »

vidarh wrote: post #395
lostlogin wrote: post #291

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Is the parent saying there is a lot of it on Tinder, and that Tinder isn’t following the law?

Yes, I was saying Tinder is full of straight up prostitution and people seeking sugar daddies who ge offended if you call it out as prostitution. I have nothing against prostitution (and I'm in the UK where it is legal), but I do find it really annoying when dating apps don't do more to keep it off their apps. Often patterns of fake profiles that were immediately obvious to me as a user took months for them to block.

I personally don't have a problem with prostitution or sex for money as long as it's two consenting adults and not the result of human trafficking like the traditional pimp/prostitute enslavement version. That's why it should be legal and regulated.

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Post by perryizgr8 »

siliconc0w wrote: post #323

IMO, if your market share is bigger than ${some number}, you shouldn't be able to deny service without a documented reason, it should have some sort of time-to-live (i.e 1 year), and there should be an appeals process. In a functioning marketplace, companies would be naturally incentivized to care about customers but that stops working in uncompetitive industries (which currently describes most of the economy).

I agree, internet biggies are de facto monopolies due to the extreme network effects they enjoy. If you are serving more than X millions of users, you are subject to certain rules that make you behave more like a public space.

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Post by tommcshwa »

xiphias2 wrote: post #175
tommcshwa wrote: post #81

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Sure, I would love to buy grocery with bitcoin.... What a joke.

Not grocery, but lawyer in the cas you want to get access to your money. Have you read about the process that happens when your house is SWAT-ted using an anonymous phone call?

Ya, that makes sense... But then how much should I save. It's so volatile that I would give multiple thoughts before saving anything close to a lawyers fee in bitcoin.

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Post by ampersandy »

999900000999 wrote: post #557
1024core wrote: post #554

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> When I actually meet someone, It was always someone who is in their mid-20s to 30s without a job. I read this article (a long time ago) about a NYC girl who was saying that investing $30/mo on a Match.com account was the best investment she had made, as it meant she'd get treated to top restaurants, etc. by the guys for free.

To be fair, men do it too! https://la.eater.com/2019/1/17/18186932/dine-dash-dater-arre...

Er, I don't really think dine-and-dashing is quite the same as being treated to your meal because you are on a date.
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