I am rich and have no idea what to do • Hacker News Board

Re: I am rich and have no idea what to do

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Post by skeeter2020 » Fri, Jan 03, 2025, 5:37 AM UTC

101008 wrote: post #130

j4coh wrote: post #3

Same situation, I truly empathise because it really does seem to take a lot of purpose out of everything. What I’ve found is that you need to replace money/salary/financial success optimisation (assuming you spent a lot of your life and energy to this point focused on these, much like I did) with something else totally unconnected with being measured in that way. For me, I am focused on proving myself as a guitarist…

This is my dream. Having enough money to be able to dedicate to things I like, trying to be good at something without worrying about money, or time, or being tired after work. Open a bookshop, being a rare book dealer, open a small museum about an author, research on a particular topic and write books... That would be the ultimate dream, though I am sure I won't ever be near to fulfill it.

Why would you think any of those things are not a lot of tiring work, emotional drain and expensive? I don't understand why you can't do any of these as a hobby now, and need to wait until you're "rich" and won't have any real skin in the game.

Re: I am rich and have no idea what to do

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Post by Tepix » Fri, Jan 03, 2025, 5:38 AM UTC

homefree wrote: post #453

j4coh wrote: post #3

Same situation, I truly empathise because it really does seem to take a lot of purpose out of everything. What I’ve found is that you need to replace money/salary/financial success optimisation (assuming you spent a lot of your life and energy to this point focused on these, much like I did) with something else totally unconnected with being measured in that way. For me, I am focused on proving myself as a guitarist…

There's something off about the post that I'm not sure I can pin point, but it's there. What are these oft referenced insecurities? It's hard to get a read on this without details, but dumping your girlfriend to do random selfish shit (climb mountain, go to Hawaii, etc.) - it's not a surprise he's unfulfilled (though working on doge would be exciting). This trap of 'working on yourself' that leads to endless mindfuln…

How long have you travelled the world?

Re: I am rich and have no idea what to do

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Post by taway1874 » Fri, Jan 03, 2025, 5:40 AM UTC

brcmthrowaway wrote: post #120

I feel sorry for the girlfriend, invested months or years into the relationship and left with nothing after the dude got rich

I'd say she dodged a bullet. Hope this psycho never has any offspring. The world has enough of them already.

Re: I am rich and have no idea what to do

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Post by Tepix » Fri, Jan 03, 2025, 5:42 AM UTC

Animats wrote: post #502

Been there, done that. General comments: - Most people who make a lot of money all at once blow it within seven years. Check out what happens to lottery winners, jocks, and rappers. As a rule of thumb, you can safely spend 4% of your net worth per year. Pay yourself some fixed amount each quarter. - You don't have to get into complex investments. Half in some bond funds, half in some diversified stock funds will work…

Blue water sailing is pretty great (for some), give it a try.

Re: I am rich and have no idea what to do

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Post by nevertoolate » Fri, Jan 03, 2025, 5:43 AM UTC

Hey,

You are talking about money. You are talking about girlfriend. You always think about possessing.

If you are fishing for some suggestions I’d first find a good personal trainer and fix the body. At the same time join a career change counseling group workshop.

Don’t let others do things for you. Walk everywhere, use a bicycle. Also cooking kills some time.

Good luck

Re: I am rich and have no idea what to do

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Post by heresie-dabord » Fri, Jan 03, 2025, 5:43 AM UTC

naming_the_user wrote: post #158

As a young(ish) man with retirement level wealth personally I don't understand this primarily I suppose because my main passions in life are not profitable. Great, so now I don't have to profitmax every single thing and can rely on my investments. That means I can study pottery, languages, learn about cars, guns, travel, spend time with my old mum, family, start a small business, whatever it is, without care for whet…

> the poster here has some sort of savior complex

It seems to be a problem with motivation and meaningfulness, not necessarily that he wants to save anyone. Or anything.

Re: I am rich and have no idea what to do

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Post by reducesuffering » Fri, Jan 03, 2025, 5:48 AM UTC

There was a founder in a similar situation who sold their company (Tsheets to Intuit) for $300m as part of an acquisition and checked out after. Employees say he lost his purpose and became unmoored, with no grounded next steps for years. He ended up attempting to kill his wife and killed himself.

https://www.idahostatesman.com/news/local/crime/article27507...

Re: I am rich and have no idea what to do

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Post by aatd86 » Fri, Jan 03, 2025, 5:51 AM UTC

Bro has all the spare time to try and build AGI. That's software with datq acquisition and stored procedures. I would do that.

Re: I am rich and have no idea what to do

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Post by bobsmooth » Fri, Jan 03, 2025, 5:51 AM UTC

RonaldDump wrote: post #330

naming_the_user wrote: post #158

As a young(ish) man with retirement level wealth personally I don't understand this primarily I suppose because my main passions in life are not profitable. Great, so now I don't have to profitmax every single thing and can rely on my investments. That means I can study pottery, languages, learn about cars, guns, travel, spend time with my old mum, family, start a small business, whatever it is, without care for whet…

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Be Gatsby and host extravagant parties to hide your loneliness. At least that's what I'd do.

Re: I am rich and have no idea what to do

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Post by bawolff » Fri, Jan 03, 2025, 5:54 AM UTC

pech0rin wrote: post #490

This is the most childish thing I’ve read. And shows a lot about he doesn’t have any people relying on him or community to support. He takes one hike and throws away 60m. Doesn’t try to find anything interesting to do at Atlassian just calls his coworkers NPCs. This is zero-empathy Peter Pan syndrome at its worse. Sad how he just goes adventure hopping to try and find meaning. The problem is no matter where you are y…

I don't know i agree. I think its brave to be honest about it. Being able to acknowledge you don't have it together is the first stage of growth.

Most people struggle with meaning, most people don't have it figured out.

So what, dude who suddenly fell into massive wealth tried a bunch of cliched things to find meaning. Did they work? No, these types of cliched things usually don't. However you don't find meaning without trying things. You have to fail before you suceed.