> "Single women I am not friends with who use BangWithFriends" If I understand the current user base of BangWithFriends, this will return no results.
You are wise beyond your years.
Tell HN: The problem with BangWithFriends - it's not anonymous
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Re: Tell HN: The problem with BangWithFriends - it's not anonymous
#62Re: Tell HN: The problem with BangWithFriends - it's not anonymous
#63Earlier quoted context omitted.
Fatal flaw or working as intended?
The premise of the app is that with a contrived double-blind method, you can turbo past the awkward stage of signalling interest in someone. It's flawed because if I click all my friends just to see who clicked me, then find friends X, Y and Z clicked me, I still don't know if they actually want to have sex with me, or were just doing the same thing I did. We haven't skipped an awkward step at all. In a way, it's wor…
Surely an easy way to avoid this is to limit the number of clicks you can have over a period of time or you have a list of 5 people you would like to bang. You can add/remove people from that list. If you you are both on each other's list you are notified but you have to be on the list at the same time. That way you know that you are in the top 5 people that your friend wants to hook up with.
I also think that they should give you the number of people that have you on their lists.
I only have one friend(male) using the app but when I log in, it shows a small subset of my female friends. Any idea how it selects them? I initially thought that they were the only females using the app but this is obviously not the case.
Re: Tell HN: The problem with BangWithFriends - it's not anonymous
#64Earlier quoted context omitted.
Fatal flaw or working as intended?
The premise of the app is that with a contrived double-blind method, you can turbo past the awkward stage of signalling interest in someone. It's flawed because if I click all my friends just to see who clicked me, then find friends X, Y and Z clicked me, I still don't know if they actually want to have sex with me, or were just doing the same thing I did. We haven't skipped an awkward step at all. In a way, it's wor…
>we now have an excruciatingly awkward situation where I've said out loud "I want to have sex with you", and it's not mutual.
I'm pretty sure people would be aware of that downside beforehand, and would factor that in as a possible risk when comparing it to the benefit of simply satisfying their curiosity. It's not foolproof, but it isn't exactly a crapshoot either.
Re: Tell HN: The problem with BangWithFriends - it's not anonymous
#65> "Single women I am not friends with who use BangWithFriends" If I understand the current user base of BangWithFriends, this will return no results.
Well, I could not resist testing it and I received many results.
Re: Tell HN: The problem with BangWithFriends - it's not anonymous
#66Earlier quoted context omitted.
The fatal flaw in the model is "I'm going to click on all my friends to see who signals interest in me".
That's not the fatal flaw. The fatal flaw is that all the men in a social circle will click on every friend to see who signals interest. All the women will click on the same one or two individuals. In other words, the fatal flaw is that it will simply replicate the dynamics and frustrations of high school.
Yes, it gets tiring servicing so many fine ladies
Re: Tell HN: The problem with BangWithFriends - it's not anonymous
#67lol yea thats the only problem with this app..
Re: Tell HN: The problem with BangWithFriends - it's not anonymous
#68Ask HN: What is BangWithFriends? Edit: a Facebook app that where you can click on friends you want to sleep with. If they have the app, they are notified. I would think this would be more cool if both of you are only notified if you both signify that you want to sleep with each other. This could also be toned down to just signify romantic interest to get more engagement.
The fatal flaw in the model is "I'm going to click on all my friends to see who signals interest in me".
Could limit the # of people you could click on to 5 or 10 or whatever. Could be a different number for guys vs. girls. Or could equalize by charging guys per click and girls click free or something.
Re: Tell HN: The problem with BangWithFriends - it's not anonymous
#69Ask HN: What is BangWithFriends? Edit: a Facebook app that where you can click on friends you want to sleep with. If they have the app, they are notified. I would think this would be more cool if both of you are only notified if you both signify that you want to sleep with each other. This could also be toned down to just signify romantic interest to get more engagement.
The fatal flaw in the model is "I'm going to click on all my friends to see who signals interest in me".
The QuickMatch system on OkCupid has the exact same fatal flaw.
It's a similar sort of thing. If you rate someone highly, they are notified that "somebody" rated them highly, but they don't know who did it. If they rate you highly in turn, then you're both notified. What ends up happening is a lot of people rate everybody highly so that they find out who rated them highly, ultimately defeating the purpose of the system.
Re: Tell HN: The problem with BangWithFriends - it's not anonymous
#70Ask HN: What is BangWithFriends? Edit: a Facebook app that where you can click on friends you want to sleep with. If they have the app, they are notified. I would think this would be more cool if both of you are only notified if you both signify that you want to sleep with each other. This could also be toned down to just signify romantic interest to get more engagement.
BangWithFriends seems like a new implementation of something I've seen a couple times in the last few decades. This is the first time I've seen it on FB. I ran into this years ago in it's email incarnation. I think it was something like you'd get an email that said someone had a crush on you and then you are supposed to put in emails of other people and if there was a match you'd be notified. The problem was you didn…
My first experience with this concept was in the late nineties called something like Crushmail.
Here are some Hacker News threads about similar implementations: