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Re: Tell HN: Happy Fathers Day

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Post by david-gpu »

Congratulations to everyone who celebrates Father's Day.

And for those who had a particularly difficult childhood, for those who may still struggle with the trauma of abuse and neglect, here are some resources you may find useful:

* "Adult children of emotionally immature parents" by Lindsay Gibson.

* https://old.reddit.com/r/AdultChildren+CPTSD+EstrangedAdultC...

It takes time, but there are people and resources that can help you. You are not alone.

Re: Tell HN: Happy Fathers Day

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Post by dividedcomet »

asukachikaru wrote: post #44

This is my first father's day as a father. It isn't easy, I have been struggling immensely (plug: I wrote about it at https://asukawang.com/blog/leap-of-faith ), but now she's seven months old and it has been a lot better. I look forward to all the things I could do for her. A home-made jukebox with NFC tags on cassettes I once saw on HN really interests me, but I reckon a 3D printer would be necessary or at least ve…

I’ve also got two 7 month olds! It really is beyond any struggle I could have pictured. You got this!!!

Re: Tell HN: Happy Fathers Day

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Post by rcbdev »

subygan wrote: post #28

I'm a first time father of an 80 day old. And I can gladly say, these have been the most incredible days of my life. I want to be more ambitious and more active for my kid, in ways I hadn't thought before. Happy Father's day to all.

Funny, I celebrated Father's Day on June 14th. I thought there was a globally agreed upon date, but alas I have been proven wrong.

Happy Father's day, most of the world!

Re: Tell HN: Happy Fathers Day

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Post by lukasm »

sibinrsl97 wrote: post #53

New Dad to 1 month boy child, happy now but in a dilemma how am I gonna teach all the good things

As a new dad, you don’t need to have the whole roadmap figured out already. Kids don’t need perfect parents - they need parents who are present, loving, safe and consistent.

Love him, be there for him, don’t reject him. You only need to meet around 30% of a child’s emotional needs well enough for them to feel secure and not be traumatized.

And don’t worry, he won’t be homeless just because you didn’t sign him up for pottery class on a Friday evening.

Re: Tell HN: Happy Fathers Day

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Post by postalcoder »

glitchcrab wrote: post #14
postalcoder wrote: post #4

if i had to tell younger fathers one piece of unsolicited advice: buy arch support for your shoes. Plantar fasciitis seems to creep up on a lot of dudes after they have kids. It's also the worst. I love to carry my kid but sprinting around while carrying the extra load did a number on the feet. You can largely prevent it just by spending $50 on a proper insole. My kid is my favorite thing in my life. So tiring, so re…

As a father who is suffering from plantar fascitis (brought on by running), I would rather fix the problem by strengthening my arches than mask it by buying inner soles.

You are correct. The only way to get out of PF valley is by building foot strength. I learned the hard way that mega-squishy hoka bondis are counter-productive to that because of how much cushion they have.

That said, proper insoles are the lowest-effort, cheapest means of mitigation.

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