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Don't be a scary old guy: My 40s survival strategy with charm

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Re: Don't be a scary old guy: My 40s survival strategy with charm

#61
post #7

I don’t understand the HN algo anymore

It's quite simple. No major algorithm, people who tinker vote on things that scratches their minds like this article does.

I don't think it's people who tinker any more. It seems like the "write Business Logic code as fast as you can" type predominate.

Re: Don't be a scary old guy: My 40s survival strategy with charm

#62

Jesus. If at 40 you're already seeing yourself old and worried about survival something must be wrong. At 40 you're barely at the halfway point of your career since we're gonna have to work till our 70's anyway, so buckle up for another 30+ years.

A bit too many people in my family have died in their 40s and 50s due to health reasons for me to not consider it at least somewhat old.

Re: Don't be a scary old guy: My 40s survival strategy with charm

#63
post #24

Jesus. If at 40 you're already seeing yourself old and worried about survival something must be wrong. At 40 you're barely at the halfway point of your career since we're gonna have to work till our 70's anyway, so buckle up for another 30+ years.

This is ageism and it's rampant and very problematic. He is ageist against himself almost as much as society is. You should not need to do anything special to be a 40 or 50 year old (or whatever) and fit in with a group. This is one of the last 'isms' that society has yet to tackle. But society will eventually become less ageist as it ages more and more.

> But society will eventually become less ageist as it ages more and more.

Society is hundreds to thousands of times older than you or I. The US is a gerontocracy. I don't think the age of society has any relation to how agiest it is. The current and next culture regarding age will die with it's population and the next young generation will come with their own culture surrounding age.

Re: Don't be a scary old guy: My 40s survival strategy with charm

#64
post #52
post #38

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It's not spam, why waste a moderator's time? It's something that people find interesting.

https://news.ycombinator.com/newsguidelines.html HN in general has a very strict policy against what "people find interesting": On-Topic: Anything that good hackers would find interesting. That includes more than hacking and startups. If you had to reduce it to a sentence, the answer might be: anything that gratifies one's intellectual curiosity. Off-Topic: Most stories about politics, or crime, or sports, or celebri…

HN guidelines are hardly strict. There is so much politics that stays on the front page.

Re: Don't be a scary old guy: My 40s survival strategy with charm

#65
post #50

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Be nice? Don't be a know it all? Even if you don't believe it you've surely heard people say it sometime in the last 40 years. Autism notwithstanding, and that probably accounts for a decent share of the readership

I am, and don't ... but that still doesn't mean it doesn't take effort. There's way more to it than smiling and not being a complete tool. How long has it been since you called your long lost best friend and caught up? Did you go to his brothers funeral? Check in on him after his divorce? A year after his divorce? 5? It takes effort and is far from elementary no matter how much rizz you have.

I agree it's effort it's just not hard..... for a 40 year old, remember.

Re: Don't be a scary old guy: My 40s survival strategy with charm

#66
post #52

Earlier quoted context omitted.

https://news.ycombinator.com/newsguidelines.html HN in general has a very strict policy against what "people find interesting": On-Topic: Anything that good hackers would find interesting. That includes more than hacking and startups. If you had to reduce it to a sentence, the answer might be: anything that gratifies one's intellectual curiosity. Off-Topic: Most stories about politics, or crime, or sports, or celebri…

HN guidelines are hardly strict. There is so much politics that stays on the front page.

Well, that means hardly anything. Is up to us, and the moderators, to choose what we want HN it to. I find politics interesting, and often are pretty much on topic, e.g. politics related to protecting personal information. But often are not, and full of ad hominem "arguments"

From my POV, there is no doubt HN is getting more and more involved in politics and more and more polarized, which IMHO is not good. But I'm just one of many users... if it keeps going that way, I may have to leave. Is ok. In the meantime I will keep giving my opinion, as that is the very least what I expect from such a site: to be able to give an opinion (respectfully) without being instantly attacked, verbally or downvoted to oblivion. As can be seen in this case, we are reaching the point where that is not possible anymore... Let's see if the honest people or the trolls win the "battle".

Re: Don't be a scary old guy: My 40s survival strategy with charm

#67
post #66

Earlier quoted context omitted.

HN guidelines are hardly strict. There is so much politics that stays on the front page.

Well, that means hardly anything. Is up to us, and the moderators, to choose what we want HN it to. I find politics interesting, and often are pretty much on topic, e.g. politics related to protecting personal information. But often are not, and full of ad hominem "arguments" From my POV, there is no doubt HN is getting more and more involved in politics and more and more polarized, which IMHO is not good. But I'm ju…

It doesn't mean hardly anything, it means exactly what I said. The guidelines are not strict. They are loose guidelines. That's not an attack on them, it's just an observable fact. The guidelines say one thing, but the users vote for another.

Re: Don't be a scary old guy: My 40s survival strategy with charm

#68

I seem to have become scarier in my old age. People seem to pay more attention and react more strongly to me than they used to, but all I did was get older and uglier. Whatever physicality I had has waned, but moral presence among strangers has waxed. Maybe it's a remaining respect for elders rather than something to do with me. But it has made me more careful with hiding my grumpiness.

I find I have turned invisible. But if I die my hair suddenly I'm no longer invisible. Even with just a really bad partially grown out dye job I'm treated like I exist again. But grey hair/grey beard? Invisibility cloak.

As someone who has basically no hair left, I guess I've achieved permanent invisibility. Nice.

Re: Don't be a scary old guy: My 40s survival strategy with charm

#69
post #47

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What's that supposed to mean? There are definitely less risks in not taking finasteride and minoxidil.

There are risks associated with being bald and depressed

Being bald ≠ depressed

Re: Don't be a scary old guy: My 40s survival strategy with charm

#70
post #50

Earlier quoted context omitted.

I am, and don't ... but that still doesn't mean it doesn't take effort. There's way more to it than smiling and not being a complete tool. How long has it been since you called your long lost best friend and caught up? Did you go to his brothers funeral? Check in on him after his divorce? A year after his divorce? 5? It takes effort and is far from elementary no matter how much rizz you have.

I agree it's effort it's just not hard..... for a 40 year old, remember.

It is for many empirically.
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