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Post by clan »

ptero wrote: post #20
clan wrote: post #16

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Agreed. But I read your comment as complacency. I believe the fix is to complain. How else to change human nature? That is the best part: we can change. We can do better. Naive? Maybe. Probably. But I would prefer idealist. Pretty much potato/potato in my world.

This is a noble idea which I completely respect. But changing human nature is a tough task. Plus, changing a trait into something that seems better (e.g., full honesty on goals) might have all sorts of unexpected consequences. There are dark fiction stories about societies with forced honesty (and a few who figured out the way out of it). The road to hell and all that. No offense intended. My 2c.

None taken. At all!

If you take everything to the extreme "full" honesty becomes "blunt" honesty. I do not advocate that. Pink Floyd answered that with "The Trial". Dark fiction tends to explore the extremes and to me often tends to miss the nuances. Reading such fiction can and should be thought-provoking but not be seen as a pattern.

The kind of honesty I try to advocate is a personal stance. Can you be trusted? Do your viewpoints falter under pressure? Are you able to change them openly? So it all basicly ties into a sense of morality. A bit of a dirty word in our business first world of today.

Reach for the moon and all that. ;-)

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Post by kindeyoowee »

MrMcCall wrote: post #51
fireburning wrote: post #50

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lol for some of us i doubt multi galatic multi dimensional searches would yield nothing

your double negative implies confidence and confidence is the most effective quality he who knows himself and the enemy will not lose in 100 battles but who can foresee fate's fickle finger of luck?

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Post by kindeyoowee »

MrMcCall wrote: post #52
fireburning wrote: post #46

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this is very naive and kind of adorable if you look at it in the grand scheme of things nothing really has changed since the days of the theocracy we have gigantic compute clusters that do things what humans would have thought as deities but have people advocating for the return of feudalism we are closer to pride and prejudice than ring world that won't change in the next 1000 years or so regardless of the amount of…

> nothing really has changed since the days of the theocracy democracy is God's Will, because all our free wills are equal, and we should work together in cooperation instead of against each other in competition theocracy based upon love has basically never been tried most theocrats are just doing it for the power, money, and sex, in whichever order the Wisdom of the lovers of God are also the lovers of their neighbo…

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Post by parsimo2010 »

golly_ned wrote: post #40
parsimo2010 wrote: post #36

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A non-profit dating platform probably means you don’t charge much- which initially seems good, but it probably also means you’ll attract a bunch of users who aren’t serious because they have nothing at risk. So the people who are seriously looking for a relationship will be lost in all the casual users. Sure, you could make people deposit a bunch of money to prove they’re serious but you’ll lose all your users. If yo…

Isn’t it the usual case that dating app users do not pay?

That is the case, but practically this entire comment section is about how the usual dating apps suck. GP was commenting about how they hoped they could build a better app, and I was pointing out an issue that is likely to keep it from being successful.

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Post by kragen »

dang wrote: post #59
kragen wrote: post #55

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I tried to clarify in a sibling comment, because it seemed like maybe people misinterpreted this comment, possibly because they don't speak Hindi. Does that one help, or am I just digging myself deeper? If you think that other comment is also bad, I promise not to be upset if you [dead] it.

Ah ok - not knowing that word, I pattern-matched it to, er, one I do know.

This is a persistent problem for people named Diksha or Dikshit (roughly "doctor of divinity", one who has received diksha) and probably one my original comment made worse rather than better. I hoped everyone who didn't know the word would look it up, but that was impossibly naive.

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Post by dredmorbius »

dang wrote: post #59
kragen wrote: post #55

Earlier quoted context omitted.

I tried to clarify in a sibling comment, because it seemed like maybe people misinterpreted this comment, possibly because they don't speak Hindi. Does that one help, or am I just digging myself deeper? If you think that other comment is also bad, I promise not to be upset if you [dead] it.

Ah ok - not knowing that word, I pattern-matched it to, er, one I do know.

Could we un-flag the original comment?

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Post by dang »

dredmorbius wrote: post #66
dang wrote: post #59

Earlier quoted context omitted.

Ah ok - not knowing that word, I pattern-matched it to, er, one I do know.

Could we un-flag the original comment?

The problem is that readers are likely to interpret it the way I did and then wonder why it wasn't flagged.

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Post by fireburning »

MrMcCall wrote: post #51
fireburning wrote: post #50

Earlier quoted context omitted.

lol for some of us i doubt multi galatic multi dimensional searches would yield nothing

your double negative implies confidence and confidence is the most effective quality he who knows himself and the enemy will not lose in 100 battles but who can foresee fate's fickle finger of luck?

[dead]

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Post by fireburning »

MrMcCall wrote: post #52
fireburning wrote: post #46

Earlier quoted context omitted.

this is very naive and kind of adorable if you look at it in the grand scheme of things nothing really has changed since the days of the theocracy we have gigantic compute clusters that do things what humans would have thought as deities but have people advocating for the return of feudalism we are closer to pride and prejudice than ring world that won't change in the next 1000 years or so regardless of the amount of…

> nothing really has changed since the days of the theocracy democracy is God's Will, because all our free wills are equal, and we should work together in cooperation instead of against each other in competition theocracy based upon love has basically never been tried most theocrats are just doing it for the power, money, and sex, in whichever order the Wisdom of the lovers of God are also the lovers of their neighbo…

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Post by ozzyphantom »

parsimo2010 wrote: post #36
ozzyphantom wrote: post #18

After finding my partner on Hinge (following years of dating apps, setups, and in-person approaches), I've reflected on this journey. Despite the countless disappointing dates, the 3-year struggle ultimately proved worthwhile. However, I'm troubled by how profit motives distort online dating. The business model incentivizes engagement over meaningful connections, creating a system where genuine relationships feel lik…

A non-profit dating platform probably means you don’t charge much- which initially seems good, but it probably also means you’ll attract a bunch of users who aren’t serious because they have nothing at risk. So the people who are seriously looking for a relationship will be lost in all the casual users. Sure, you could make people deposit a bunch of money to prove they’re serious but you’ll lose all your users. If yo…

Another idea I had to play a role in solving that issue (not that I’ve really thought too deeply about it yet) is, similar to how the free version of Hinge works, greatly limiting the amount of likes you can send in a day. Perhaps with greater limit for women since all data shows that men need to send many times more likes for much fewer matches. However, there is no paid tier where you get more like or anything like that, obviously. Because then it would be just like every other app.

Is it possible to root out everyone who “isn’t serious”? Definitely not, but I think there’s a lot more that can be done when you remove a profit motive.

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