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Post by jeffbee »

saulrh wrote: post #42
paulsutter wrote: post #5

Enforcement of traffic offenses is down 95% in the past 10 years in San Francisco. Explains the outcome and the claims that "crime is down" https://x.com/zachcoelius/status/1779373752905589221

SF traffic fatalities have not been increasing year-over-year. You can't cast blame for an outcome that doesn't exist. Data: https://www.chp.ca.gov/programs-services/services-informatio... . SWITRS hasn't published a report since 2020 due to the pandemic, but that works perfectly fine for my purposes because I'd have probably had to discard those years for other reasons, and since we're talking about a ten- or fiftee…

"Preliminary" SWITRS data through end of 2023 is queryable on TIMS.

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Post by sfjailbird »

delichon wrote: post #2

I'm afraid this poor guy will be besieged by people who heard about a vacancy in San Francisco. I've unfortunately had my share of dead friends and relatives. I wish I could say that it somehow has made me stronger, more mature, but I'm afraid that the opposite is more true. Each is a trauma that I never entirely recover from. They make the world more bleak, confusing, cold, scary. And it makes it harder to comfort p…

I have had several very close family members die, and had to clean out their stuff. That is always the weirdest part. Looking through things that they had hung on to, which have absolutely no meaning to anyone else, and are just thrown in the trash. Or the things that show that they were obviously not expecting to die, like the groceries, or some book they were writing.

It has changed my perspective, and not in a bad way. It has inspired me to live more in, and appreciate, the here and now. Though I do think faith in something beyond this life does make a big difference in how we are able to cope.

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Post by tekla »

delichon wrote: post #2

I'm afraid this poor guy will be besieged by people who heard about a vacancy in San Francisco. I've unfortunately had my share of dead friends and relatives. I wish I could say that it somehow has made me stronger, more mature, but I'm afraid that the opposite is more true. Each is a trauma that I never entirely recover from. They make the world more bleak, confusing, cold, scary. And it makes it harder to comfort p…

Its always so fascinating to see people who have a such a shitty relationship with death. Everyone dies.

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Post by marssaxman »

dylan604 wrote: post #44
HankB99 wrote: post #26

FB has been a little creepy about death. A FB "friend" (e.g. not a close friend) had died and about a year later FB started exhorting me to reconnect with him. I located his obituary and memorialized his account out of respect. Too many times I've been invited to wish a deceased friend "happy birthday." I go to their page and find it memorialized. Nevertheless, there are many friends wishing them happy birthday, obli…

> oblivious to the indication that the page has been memorialized. to come at this from a different direction, how is any different from the online version of visiting someone's grave? it could just be their way of remembering someone and letting others know they were thinking about them. granted, i'd assume most people are being obedient to the Zuck by click the button, or a bot doing it, or many other fake/insincer…

When I am inviting people to an event on Facebook, and the list of suggestions includes someone who is dead, sometimes I'll invite them anyway. (This is fresh in my mind because we had a big house party last night, and three of the people I invited were dead. None made an appearance, to my knowledge.)

It feels about the same as inviting someone (alive) who couldn't possibly come, who would feel good to know they were being remembered - it's a little way to say "wish you were here".

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Post by bufordtwain »

tlunter wrote: post #53
Aeolun wrote: post #49

Traffic in the US is so absurdly deadly. You have one of these posts and people come out of the woodworks everywhere saying they also have a friend that died in a traffic accident. I have zero. I cannot even think of a far off acquaintance ever killed in traffic. Why is traffic such a deadly thing in the US compared to the rest of the world?

I am an American and also don’t have anyone I know, nor far off acquaintance killed, therefore I conclude the US is actually fine with it comes to traffic. Why are you using an anecdote to define your data here?

You've been lucky. My sister in law and my wife's best friend were both killed in car accidents (not as pedestrians) in the US.

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Post by irjustin »

delichon wrote: post #2

I'm afraid this poor guy will be besieged by people who heard about a vacancy in San Francisco. I've unfortunately had my share of dead friends and relatives. I wish I could say that it somehow has made me stronger, more mature, but I'm afraid that the opposite is more true. Each is a trauma that I never entirely recover from. They make the world more bleak, confusing, cold, scary. And it makes it harder to comfort p…

I'm late and not sure who will read this, but I've ended up at the "why do we have kids?" question.

Honestly speaking from someone who has 2 beautiful little girls and very squarely middle class life with all its ups and downs. I've recently, but slowly mentally shifted towards being a nihilist.

There are so many things to live for, I agree, but at the same time there's like a 10:1 ratio of why living sucks. My privilege, I feel, brings that closer to 1:1 but I'm pretty far from the median/bulk of the world's population. Most of the world struggles - constantly.

If life isn't enjoyable (very hedonist) why do we bother producing offspring who will be forced to endure "life"? Why does it matter that the human race survives?

I'm not the first to ask this, definitely not. I'm just sort of here and am unsure where to go next.

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Post by MichaelZuo »

mise_en_place wrote: post #48
delichon wrote: post #2

I'm afraid this poor guy will be besieged by people who heard about a vacancy in San Francisco. I've unfortunately had my share of dead friends and relatives. I wish I could say that it somehow has made me stronger, more mature, but I'm afraid that the opposite is more true. Each is a trauma that I never entirely recover from. They make the world more bleak, confusing, cold, scary. And it makes it harder to comfort p…

There are many sycophants who appear out of the woodwork when a close relative or friend dies. In their mind, they’re not taking advantage of you. They’re helping you, but would you mind if they move their things to your dead relative’s house? Be very cautious of everyone, greed corrupts and taints even noble men, and supposedly ironclad relationships.

By definition the vast majority of relatives of the vast majority of people are just average in virtue, or not too far off.

Expecting more than one or two to demonstrate something more is already a pretty high bar.

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Post by clooless »

irjustin wrote: post #66
delichon wrote: post #2

I'm afraid this poor guy will be besieged by people who heard about a vacancy in San Francisco. I've unfortunately had my share of dead friends and relatives. I wish I could say that it somehow has made me stronger, more mature, but I'm afraid that the opposite is more true. Each is a trauma that I never entirely recover from. They make the world more bleak, confusing, cold, scary. And it makes it harder to comfort p…

I'm late and not sure who will read this, but I've ended up at the "why do we have kids?" question. Honestly speaking from someone who has 2 beautiful little girls and very squarely middle class life with all its ups and downs. I've recently, but slowly mentally shifted towards being a nihilist. There are so many things to live for, I agree, but at the same time there's like a 10:1 ratio of why living sucks. My privi…

Ask yourself if you'd be willing to painlessly end your life, if given the option. Most people prefer to keep on living, which is strong evidence that on balance, despite all the bumps and grief of living, life is still pretty awesome.

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Post by felipefar »

irjustin wrote: post #66
delichon wrote: post #2

I'm afraid this poor guy will be besieged by people who heard about a vacancy in San Francisco. I've unfortunately had my share of dead friends and relatives. I wish I could say that it somehow has made me stronger, more mature, but I'm afraid that the opposite is more true. Each is a trauma that I never entirely recover from. They make the world more bleak, confusing, cold, scary. And it makes it harder to comfort p…

I'm late and not sure who will read this, but I've ended up at the "why do we have kids?" question. Honestly speaking from someone who has 2 beautiful little girls and very squarely middle class life with all its ups and downs. I've recently, but slowly mentally shifted towards being a nihilist. There are so many things to live for, I agree, but at the same time there's like a 10:1 ratio of why living sucks. My privi…

Human beings are unique in the world because they are the only species that can understand it. If you remove them from the world, there's nothing left that can throw light in the world's misteries.

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Post by stephen_g »

irjustin wrote: post #66
delichon wrote: post #2

I'm afraid this poor guy will be besieged by people who heard about a vacancy in San Francisco. I've unfortunately had my share of dead friends and relatives. I wish I could say that it somehow has made me stronger, more mature, but I'm afraid that the opposite is more true. Each is a trauma that I never entirely recover from. They make the world more bleak, confusing, cold, scary. And it makes it harder to comfort p…

I'm late and not sure who will read this, but I've ended up at the "why do we have kids?" question. Honestly speaking from someone who has 2 beautiful little girls and very squarely middle class life with all its ups and downs. I've recently, but slowly mentally shifted towards being a nihilist. There are so many things to live for, I agree, but at the same time there's like a 10:1 ratio of why living sucks. My privi…

I don’t want to downplay what you’re going through, but I do want to gently caution you against taking a (hopefully temporary) personal feeling as a universal human truth…

A large proportion of people certainly must think life is worth living and continuing, and probably most of them have less wealth and resources than you do!

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