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I wield the truth proudly, because it cut my hands when i picked it up, it slices them when i wield it and it hurts even more when i knight you with it. I actively search out discomfort, i embrace knowledge about my retardation and i attempt to work out solutions for them. I detest the hive, the cuddling together in falsehood and illusions, the disasters it has spawned time and time again, the justifications for evil…
Bill Gates was known to be blunt with his feedback. He still is. But I can see his justification for it. He is knowledgeable and MSFT is a huge company, so directness is needed.
Bill Gates was attempting to run a for-profit business in a domain that he was an expert in. Most people who are blunt tend to use their rudeness to hide their inability to grasp the full context of the arguments being made.
They were Rupert Mannion, not Ted Lasso.
> It reminds me of the bumper stickers on trucks saying that vehicles must stay back at least 200 feet because the driver is not responsible for damage done to other vehicles by falling rocks. It's nonsense of course. No, it isn't nonsense . Neither are the signs at a mechanic's shop telling you they're not responsible for lost or damaged items. What all these signs have in common is that they signify dangerous work.…
Do I drive closely to dump trucks, though? Nope, I keep my distance. They might be responsible for the damage, but I don't want to deal with a broken windshield in the first place.
I sometimes participate intentionally in social contexts where truthseeking is a top priority. I've noticed that while you occasionally get some overlap with the kind of people who like trying to win arguments in normal contexts by insisting that they are "objective", for the most part these people tend to be pretty bad at actual truthseeking too. Most of the time, they've simply arrived at a different dance to do to…
Without enlightenment values, disagreements almost always degenerate into power struggles.
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> kind That depends on the person. I’ve known people who take any criticism at any time for any reason as an offense. There is no kind way (from their perspective) to convince such a person that their behavior is anything negative. Neutral at worst or it’s, “What do you have against me?” Edit: To add a bit more context, some of these people are family members and close friends (who are now distant, unfortunately); I…
Yes, some minority of people will react this way, but that shouldn’t result in the default feedback being unkind.
There's a reason agreeableness and conscientiousness are different letters in OCEAN.
This reminds me of: “People who are brutally honest get more satisfaction out of the brutality than out of the honesty.” Richard J. Needham
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The nonsense was the lack of liability, not that rocks wont fall off a truck.
To focus only on the liability instead of the danger is missing the point. This article does a lot of that. If the sign seems obtuse it's because it addresses the danger by pointing out the liability . Yes it can seem condescending, but wouldn't you rather everyone notice the sign? The problem still lies squarely with those who do not heed warnings, not the sign.