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Re: Dancing is stupid

#61

Post by Trasmatta »

throwaway22032 wrote: post #56
Trasmatta wrote: post #19

There's something about dancing that people get really weird about if you don't want to participate. As if it's their god given duty to convince you that, no, you really DO like dancing, and you'll have a great time if you just loosen up and have fun. I wish people would just respect "no thank you" and stop trying to push people to do something they clearly don't want. As is, I have to avoid events with dancing. And…

If you go to an event in which most people do X and you refuse to do X then you're marking yourself as an outsider, unsurprisingly people find this suspicious/odd. You could apply it to anything. If I went along to a LAN party or an arcade and then said "I don't play video games" people would think I had a stick up my arse and they'd be right. If you really don't enjoy it then it's normal to not go along to those sor…

This comparison doesn't make sense. Dancing is present at many events that you would have legitimate reasons to want to attend for reasons other than dance. That's not really the case for a LAN party or an arcade.

> If you really don't enjoy it then it's normal to not go along to those sort of events

I guess I'll just never go to a wedding again, or a live music event, or a house party, or any of the other random events where dancing happens but isn't necessarily the focus.

Re: Dancing is stupid

#62

Post by martindbp »

I don't look down on dancing, but like with everything really people are just different, there's no Tabula Rasa. No amount of trying will make me enjoy dance (believe me I've tried), just as my wife who is a dancer will never consider an afternoon spent reading a sci-fi novel to be the epitome of happiness. Unfortunately dance is something that pops up at parties and other occasions, and it's implied that you're weird if you don't participate.

Re: Dancing is stupid

#63

Post by smcl »

thriftwy wrote: post #24

I'm just not sure the common modern people dance at all. They go to the dance floor and do some weird random movements listening to overly loud music of grossly low quality. Whether people a century or two ago has interpreted this as dance or as some mental conditon is an open question. I'm all for ball dance or irish dance but not for the club variety.

I'm not one for clubs either, but I don't think it's fair to dismiss it as some inferior, primitive pursuit or imply that it's indicative of some mental deficiency. Clubs are not for us, that's ok we have other things that we like. Let people enjoy things :)

Re: Dancing is stupid

#64

Post by scotty79 »

hcks wrote: post #49
kubb wrote: post #8

It's common for poorly adjusted people to develop a sense of superiority as a defence mechanism.

Yes, and it is sad to see people thinking that something as universal as dancing (that literally exist in every culture in some form) is "not for them". It sadly implies that this person went through bullying and rejection.

You could say the same about religion and a lot of other things. Still, no, thank you.

Re: Dancing is stupid

#65

Post by throwaway22032 »

Trasmatta wrote: post #61
throwaway22032 wrote: post #56

Earlier quoted context omitted.

If you go to an event in which most people do X and you refuse to do X then you're marking yourself as an outsider, unsurprisingly people find this suspicious/odd. You could apply it to anything. If I went along to a LAN party or an arcade and then said "I don't play video games" people would think I had a stick up my arse and they'd be right. If you really don't enjoy it then it's normal to not go along to those sor…

This comparison doesn't make sense. Dancing is present at many events that you would have legitimate reasons to want to attend for reasons other than dance. That's not really the case for a LAN party or an arcade. > If you really don't enjoy it then it's normal to not go along to those sort of events I guess I'll just never go to a wedding again, or a live music event, or a house party, or any of the other random eve…

Dancing isn't a focus for a live music event, a house party, a wedding?

I mean, yeah, you come off as a bit weird. Sorry. It's fairly integral to all three. Maybe not the wedding depending on the couple.

Re: Dancing is stupid

#66

Post by skizm »

throwaway22032 wrote: post #56
Trasmatta wrote: post #19

There's something about dancing that people get really weird about if you don't want to participate. As if it's their god given duty to convince you that, no, you really DO like dancing, and you'll have a great time if you just loosen up and have fun. I wish people would just respect "no thank you" and stop trying to push people to do something they clearly don't want. As is, I have to avoid events with dancing. And…

If you go to an event in which most people do X and you refuse to do X then you're marking yourself as an outsider, unsurprisingly people find this suspicious/odd. You could apply it to anything. If I went along to a LAN party or an arcade and then said "I don't play video games" people would think I had a stick up my arse and they'd be right. If you really don't enjoy it then it's normal to not go along to those sor…

Yeah, going to a club and not wanting to dance is weird, but I'm not skipping weddings or various parties because I don't like to dance.

Re: Dancing is stupid

#68

Post by [deleted] »

skizm wrote: post #66
throwaway22032 wrote: post #56

Earlier quoted context omitted.

If you go to an event in which most people do X and you refuse to do X then you're marking yourself as an outsider, unsurprisingly people find this suspicious/odd. You could apply it to anything. If I went along to a LAN party or an arcade and then said "I don't play video games" people would think I had a stick up my arse and they'd be right. If you really don't enjoy it then it's normal to not go along to those sor…

Yeah, going to a club and not wanting to dance is weird, but I'm not skipping weddings or various parties because I don't like to dance.

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Re: Dancing is stupid

#69

Post by maleldil »

hcks wrote: post #49
kubb wrote: post #8

It's common for poorly adjusted people to develop a sense of superiority as a defence mechanism.

Yes, and it is sad to see people thinking that something as universal as dancing (that literally exist in every culture in some form) is "not for them". It sadly implies that this person went through bullying and rejection.

Why is it so difficult for you to accept that others don't share your taste? I've never been into dancing but decided to take some classes with friends because that sounded fun, and realised that I truly don't like dancing.

It has nothing to do with rejection. This claim that "you poor thing, if you hadn't been rejected you'd see how good this is" sounds really condescending.

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