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My personal experience supports a lot of this. I’ve become more practical and less idealistic with age and that’s mostly been a great thing for me.
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That's a really powerful self-discovery. Obviously some people are more introverted than others, but introversion has more to do with how we handle (over)stimulation than it does desire for social connection and acceptance. Humans are incredibly social creatures by nature. Even the most introverted people usually want connection.
I'm extremely fortunate to have a partner that valued what we had enough to stick around for a long time but, this past year, it was starting to reach a breaking point. That lead to big talks, some scary but polite, some loud and angry. A lifetimes worth of under-the-surface stuff all came out over just a few months. What I think we figured out is that we have "compatible" (co-enabling) anxieties that keep our relati…
Good news, you're completely normal. Every couple has their unconscious dance both in a positive and negative way.
Barring physical ailments, low vitamin D (etc), the solution for anxiety is do your healing work. Anxiety is often unresolved fear, anger, shame, guilt, etc. Everyone has anxieties, and they have to be dealt with daily.
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You might be underappreciating genetic component here. Difference between sexes are very likely evolutionary, rather than social.
You are mixing gender roles and sex here. Yes, variables like the ratio of sex hormones will lead to different results but that's not all there is to it. Matriarchal societies would definitely have different results than a country where women have no rights. Even in countries that are more average in gender equality, how do you explain the difference between countries in the percentage of women in leadership position…
One theory I have heard to explain this is that is wealthy societies, men and women are free to follow their own differing inclinations, while in poor undeveloped societies people choose whatever path offers the best economic and survival outcomes.
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I thought I had that desire most of my life and recently figured out that was far more about my major anxiety to be able to provide quality "service" (as the article calls it) in all relationships, from casual conversation to romantic. Obviously, there are still times I want to be alone, but I'm more aware if it's due to anxiety and try to deal with that feeling if it is. That's just what I figured out for myself, no…
That's a useful realization. I have come to similar realization for myself in recent years. In case it is useful to others who might see this, I have found it useful to explore this dynamic in myself through the framework of avoidant attachment styles. There are some helpful resources and supportive communities available online for people wanting to find happier/healthier ways of navigating their attachment style. In…
The data is interesting, but I see it as poor quality. People are horrendously bad at self assessment on average, and many have "main character" syndrome that biases them towards claiming favorable traits they may lack in practice. There's a reason you don't ask a woman for advice on dating women, or men on how to date men. Most people, particularly young people, don't actually know what they want. Personality tests…
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That's a useful realization. I have come to similar realization for myself in recent years. In case it is useful to others who might see this, I have found it useful to explore this dynamic in myself through the framework of avoidant attachment styles. There are some helpful resources and supportive communities available online for people wanting to find happier/healthier ways of navigating their attachment style. In…
Thanks. I never heard that term, just reading the first search result it definitely seems to be right in the domain of what I'm figuring out.
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Lol، i hope this is satire.
Cant speak for OP specifically, but in general, it’s not..
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