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This cosmetic surgeon needs a refresher course on the Hippocratic oath.
After my divorce, I dove into the hetero online dating community and discovered that many men lie about their height in their online profile. This is more common among men because many women do in fact want a taller man. Similarly, men and women both often lie about their age in order to help their profile sneak around age filters used by others. But the lying about height is pathetic and always backfires, often spec…
"I wish was a baller, I wish I had a girl, if I did I would call her". Sorry first thing that came into mind when reading the title.
“I wish I had a rabbit in a hat with a bat and a six-four Impala.”
Which lead me to make this: https://imgflip.com/i/6tigza
I am myself quite short (168cm). Growing up I had no insecurities about it, because I only started becoming short after puberty. Anyway, there was a period between ages 21 and 25 when I was obsessed about my height. Natural selection is pretty cruel. If you have good looks do not take them for granted. Now I care less about my height and more about my lack of hair. It is really not healthy to obsess over this stuff.…
Is it? I think this is just the fallacious conclusion that results from a lack of humility and from a sense of entitlement. If you believe you're entitled to X, but you don't have what it takes for X, then you set yourself up for self-pity, envy, and grievance as if you've been wronged somehow by not getting what you (falsely) believe you are entitled to. But neither our qualities nor what those qualities can bring us are things we are owed. The solution is to recognize the truth about ourselves, here the immutable truth, and play with those cards instead of wishing we were someone else or had different cards, or hating those with better cards. The latter is a waste of time and ultimately self-destructive.
There is also a kind of dualism at work here. We see ourselves as somehow separate from our qualities. But we are those qualities! They are part of who and what we are. You could not have been otherwise without being someone else.
Egocentrism is a recipe for misery and no amount of manipulation or make believe will ever address the underlying mental and spiritual problem. It's much healthier to accept what you are and be grateful and work with what you have. Occupy your niche. If you're a tortoise, be a tortoise instead of fantasizing about being a cheetah.
Furthermore, surgery like this is essentially a form of lying. You are falsely advertising about your qualities. Whatever benefits you receive because of the mere appearance of having such qualities instead of the genuine thing is a species of fraud. Anything you receive through fraud will taste like ash in your mouth in the end.
And these traits won't be communicated to your children. In this way, you subvert natural selection.
Note also the incoherence. If the trait matters, then your deception is made worse. If the trait doesn't matter, yet people seem to value it anyway (a common form of denial among the have-nots), then why cater to those with a bad sense of value? Any appreciation you receive is fake anyway.
I am myself quite short (168cm). Growing up I had no insecurities about it, because I only started becoming short after puberty. Anyway, there was a period between ages 21 and 25 when I was obsessed about my height. Natural selection is pretty cruel. If you have good looks do not take them for granted. Now I care less about my height and more about my lack of hair. It is really not healthy to obsess over this stuff.…
I am myself quite short (168cm). Growing up I had no insecurities about it, because I only started becoming short after puberty. Anyway, there was a period between ages 21 and 25 when I was obsessed about my height. Natural selection is pretty cruel. If you have good looks do not take them for granted. Now I care less about my height and more about my lack of hair. It is really not healthy to obsess over this stuff.…
> Natural selection is pretty cruel. Is it? I think this is just the fallacious conclusion that results from a lack of humility and from a sense of entitlement. If you believe you're entitled to X, but you don't have what it takes for X, then you set yourself up for self-pity, envy, and grievance as if you've been wronged somehow by not getting what you (falsely) believe you are entitled to. But neither our qualities…
This cosmetic surgeon needs a refresher course on the Hippocratic oath.
We've had purely cosmetic surgery for decades. Is this any different than a boob job or lip implants or hair plugs? It's more painful, sure, and irreversible, but is it morally different because of that?
Yes, because it's more painful and irreversible.
After my divorce, I dove into the hetero online dating community and discovered that many men lie about their height in their online profile. This is more common among men because many women do in fact want a taller man. Similarly, men and women both often lie about their age in order to help their profile sneak around age filters used by others. But the lying about height is pathetic and always backfires, often spec…
Earlier quoted context omitted.
“I wish I had a rabbit in a hat with a bat and a six-four Impala.”
I always heard it, and remember it as "a six-four father", but I looked up the lyrics and the lyrics sites are all saying "Impala", which makes way less sense to me than "Father". Impala like the car? Like the animal? How do either of those help with a height problem? If you had a six-four father however, you would also likely be tall. Which lead me to make this: https://imgflip.com/i/6tigza
I am myself quite short (168cm). Growing up I had no insecurities about it, because I only started becoming short after puberty. Anyway, there was a period between ages 21 and 25 when I was obsessed about my height. Natural selection is pretty cruel. If you have good looks do not take them for granted. Now I care less about my height and more about my lack of hair. It is really not healthy to obsess over this stuff.…
> Natural selection is pretty cruel. Is it? I think this is just the fallacious conclusion that results from a lack of humility and from a sense of entitlement. If you believe you're entitled to X, but you don't have what it takes for X, then you set yourself up for self-pity, envy, and grievance as if you've been wronged somehow by not getting what you (falsely) believe you are entitled to. But neither our qualities…
I did not comment on the surgery and do not approve of such measures.