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“Put on the Diamonds”: Notes on Humiliation

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Re: “Put on the Diamonds”: Notes on Humiliation

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Post by cafard » Fri, Oct 08, 2021, 12:50 PM UTC

allturtles wrote: post #20

e40 wrote: post #3

Anyone else disappointed not to hear more about the Sheila interaction?

I think she should have left it out. As anecdotes about humiliation go, it's not much. There's no mention that Sheila publicly shamed her (as the author, by the way, has now publicly shamed Sheila), she just didn't want to be friends anymore. And she's still holding a grudge against her erstwhile friend from when she was 13? People grow apart, especially around major life transitions like adolescence.

We're sure that Sheila is the other party's real name?

Re: “Put on the Diamonds”: Notes on Humiliation

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Post by andrewflnr » Sat, Oct 09, 2021, 3:41 PM UTC

matheusmoreira wrote: post #46

andrewflnr wrote: post #42

Earlier quoted context omitted.

The humiliation was when Sheila said she was best friends with Edna now. Being public has nothing to do with it, in that incident or at basically any point in the article.

> The humiliation was when Sheila said she was best friends with Edna now. The "now" is especially important. It implies the friendship they shared was never real. Sheila was just keeping her around while she waited for someone better to be friends with.

I don't think that's implied at all. In particular I don't see any evidence that the "friendship" with Edna was any more real. I think kids are just fickle sometimes.

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