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Loneliness a 'bigger health risk than smoking or obesity'

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Re: Loneliness a 'bigger health risk than smoking or obesity'

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Post by aortega »

laurent92 wrote: post #35

Since lockdowns, I hate everybody. I just broke up with the idea that we are a society. No, we’re just insane people who are eating at other people’s sanity, using lockdowns as a means to dismantle our fellow citizen. How to become homeless when you start millionaire and CEO of a small/moderate company? Well this is the first and main step, because on any major problem, you are alone and no-one is going to testify in…

Dude, like you, I don't like to be locked up. Disregard comments sending you to the psych, I believe you are sane and the rest of the people, living in fear and locked up are the insane.

Its good to be angry because this is bullshit, and remember, were not for people like you, we would still be slaves.

Re: Loneliness a 'bigger health risk than smoking or obesity'

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Post by wruza »

tstrimple wrote: post #48
_notathrowaway wrote: post #44

Earlier quoted context omitted.

I feel bad about you man, and I wish people in this website could recognize your experience rather than simply downvote it because it is not aligned with their political views.

No reason to feel bad. Reactionaries get lots of support on this site. See! Their rant about how all their problems are the fault of feminists and liberals is no longer grey.

You can only get -4, so it depends on how much upvotes in a row you get (until you’re flagged).

That said, “it’s fault of feminists and liberals” is not what he meant, afaiu. He is complaining about the lack of attention to all “boring” problems like men suicide only because there are some fast-fashion peak problems which are supported by those who have less to do in their life. Again, afaiu. While my views are different, I see no reason to summarize his views the way you did.

Re: Loneliness a 'bigger health risk than smoking or obesity'

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Post by Nextgrid »

raxxorrax wrote: post #10

My impression was that more and more people withdraw because the "public" has become quite toxic.

More and more social interactions moved to social media whose business model and entire medium relies on and thus encourages toxicity, "keeping up with the Jones'" and virtue-signaling.

Re: Loneliness a 'bigger health risk than smoking or obesity'

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Post by exporectomy »

laurent92 wrote: post #35

Since lockdowns, I hate everybody. I just broke up with the idea that we are a society. No, we’re just insane people who are eating at other people’s sanity, using lockdowns as a means to dismantle our fellow citizen. How to become homeless when you start millionaire and CEO of a small/moderate company? Well this is the first and main step, because on any major problem, you are alone and no-one is going to testify in…

Sorry about your problems. I hope things get better for you soon. Good on you for buying a house. Don't get married or you'll eventually lose it.

Just a bit of personal thoughts on parent's love. I think it's valuable when you're a child, then when you're an adult, you only need to remember the feeling. You don't need the actual parents anymore. Everyone's parents eventually die and can no longer love them. Perhaps you didn't get it while you were a child and still crave it? There's ways to recreate that feeling without needing your parents. It's harder and it's unfair, but it puts you in control. Nobody else will ever care about you as much as yourself, so don't rely on anyone's love.

Re: Loneliness a 'bigger health risk than smoking or obesity'

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Post by paulpauper »

tut-urut-utut wrote: post #4

It's known since the humanity exists that humans are social creatures, yet we as a society don't do anything to promote social interaction between people. Actually, we are actively suppressing real social contact due to the way our society is set up. - "State / faceless institution" organized social security, reducing the need of social network / safety net. - The rise of "social media" leading to less social interac…

> It's known since the humanity exists that humans are social creatures, yet we as a society don't do anything to promote social interaction between people. Actually, we are actively suppressing real social contact due to the way our society is set up.

But many people voluntarily and willingly choose to be alone.

Re: Loneliness a 'bigger health risk than smoking or obesity'

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Post by BurningFrog »

MrBuddyCasino wrote: post #50

This is a long-term trend in the US. The number of close friends has declined dramatically compared to 1990, even more so for males: https://twitter.com/dcoxpolls/status/1408415456600395782?s=2... Was it really a good idea to ban all-male spaces using civil-rights law? https://twitter.com/herandrews/status/1408429235409141762?s=...

OTOH, our FB friend count has never been higher!

Re: Loneliness a 'bigger health risk than smoking or obesity'

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Post by paulpauper »

There is good reason to be skeptical about a purported loneliness epidemic

https://greyenlightenment.com/2021/04/30/skepticism-about-lo...

1. high rates of domestic violence and divorce

2. humans are endowed with the ability to rationalize abstractions and form imaginations , unlike other animals. This makes in-person social interactions less necessary.

3. the purported loneliness epidemic is more of a creation by the media than reality. By writing hundreds of articles about it, people will be influenced to believe it is real.

4. people are voluntarily choosing to be alone. Being alone and watching Netflix or using a smartphone is perhaps more enjoyable to group activities like bowling. Or that online communication is replacing real life communication.

5. many ppl engineer their lives to minimize social interactions and pay a premium to do so, like stadium box seating, man caves, vacation retreat homes, etc..

Re: Loneliness a 'bigger health risk than smoking or obesity'

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Post by exporectomy »

flamble wrote: post #60
_notathrowaway wrote: post #44

Earlier quoted context omitted.

I feel bad about you man, and I wish people in this website could recognize your experience rather than simply downvote it because it is not aligned with their political views.

What I found so frustrating about the comment was how close it was to some sort of insight, while maddeningly not connecting the dots. He has some vague sense that his unhappiness is related to "workaholism", but is so fixated on gender politics that he twists it to revolve around that. He imagines that women have a "choice of careers, choice of being a mother while the husband provides", apparently oblivious to the…

Feminism was just one of the several things he said.

There are plenty of zero-income families - single mothers. So single-income families are surely even more possible. Usually only women have this choice. Men can't choose family over career.

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