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Is there any way that this could actually have happened the way he told it?
We may not have risk of falling off a roof or getting shot so I don't want to overstate anything but the stress some of us have from our careers is definitely not helping our health. Combine that with generally sitting in our chair all day and it gets worse.
My new job is also a startup but I'm a founder this time and have more latitude to take a mental health break or block out time mid-day to do a workout. Everyone is different but I think quantifiably... based on my gray hair (to come back full circle to the article)... the lack of a steady paycheck is much LESS stressful than the job at a more established company where I got paid well but was pretty much on call 24x7.
My hair started graying pretty much as soon as I graduated from college. It makes a lot of sense now. Around the same time, I: - bought a house (in 2007, yeesh) - got married - started my first job (which at the time felt like drinking out of a fire hose) Shortly after, my wife and I went through the stress of trying and failing to get pregnant. Then infertility treatments for several months. Then my wife had surgery…
It is one of those topics that have been deemed too taboo to talk about which is infortunate.
Maybe it was a coincidence but at my last job I was so insanely stressed and burnt out. My manager was terrible, treated me like an idiot, and my ideas were stifled day in and day out. I woke up one day and seemingly overnight my beard had a grey patch - almost white, in fact. It fell out in the week after. Almost a year and a half later, after leaving that job, I took the pandemic to really focus on my stress levels…
I don't know what to make about it, if that's only some epigenetic fuckup on hair cells .. no biggie it's just visual but if it's a sign of similar disorder on all cells then that's bad.
My beard got a nice gray patch during 2018.. near the end of that year I ate 5g psilocybin and over the next 3 months all my gray bread hairs disappeared, and still until today I haven't had a single gray hair in my beard again. Can anyone explain that? Early thirties, no health issues, overall normal body.
So what does it mean when the hair on the top of your head is still fine but your beard is turning gray. Does that mean I'm half-stressed?
It means you're an expert in Emacs and Unix ("greybeard"). Congratulations! https://gist.github.com/lenards/3739917
My hair started graying pretty much as soon as I graduated from college. It makes a lot of sense now. Around the same time, I: - bought a house (in 2007, yeesh) - got married - started my first job (which at the time felt like drinking out of a fire hose) Shortly after, my wife and I went through the stress of trying and failing to get pregnant. Then infertility treatments for several months. Then my wife had surgery…
how is adoption? Did you do domestically or international? Any sage advice? I personally rather adopt than have my own kids so I'm just curious.
the most easy for you would be - if the child is as young as possible. Preferably shortly after being born.
There are of course many older children waiting for a real home - but in general they all bring their mental baggage with - so this can be really, really challenging.
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Many years ago I was attending SonicWALL training, having worked for an MSP. My classmate, who was maybe a few years younger, was a lead/owner for his MSP. Completely gray hair and beard. He just looked so stressed, like he was carrying the weight of the world on his shoulders.
That does not surprise. I have worked on security for human rights activities and journalists most of my life and went grey at 30. I look so old. I used to do a training thing were people profiled me and they would guess that I was 38-40 when I was 31
In either case, I can imagine the stress of your work, when lifes directly depend on you to not screw up.
edit: just saw the info in your profile