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Please consider making time for therapy. See a psychologist who specializes in cognitive behavior therapy. Finding a doctor takes work and then dedicating time to see one takes even more so. However, this is the kind of effort that really pays off! Don't do nothing about how you feel. No one on HN can replace the sessions you'll have with a licensed therapist.
Here what helps If you scared about ppl dying or smth, 1) repeat in your head "Humanity is the disease, Inferno is the cure" 2) repeat i can control only my actions, actions of other is their own responsibility 3) control is illusion 4) humanity (retards) deserves all this shit that happens You should abstract yourself from the environment. Somehow force yourself to don't give a fuck because it's not your choice ever…
I've struggled with a similar situation - anxiety stemming from childhood trauma - for a long time. The things that help me the most are: 1. Basic self care: get enough sleep (~8 hours a night), eat plenty of healthy food and cut out as much junk food as possible, and make time for doing something you enjoy each day, even if it's only for 20-30 minutes. 2. Therapy: Either straightforward counseling or something more…
Thank you. I have been drinking more lately. I guess I should stop. I find it hard to enjoy anything. I was thinking about why is that. I found I don’t like myself at all and I guess deep inside I think I don’t deserve to feel joy. My therapist says I’m emotionally immature. She’s probably right.
Most of us have anxiety and/or depressed mood nowadays. Have you read Capitalist Realism? It provides a coherent explanation of what is going on. There are no good recipes for getting out of this state of mind (because you can't escape from reality). You may heal the symptoms by exercising, meditating and taking medications. To cure the cause though would require significantly changing your attitude and reconciling y…
Thank you. I get anxious around people. For example, every time I get out of the house I have to prepare mentally. Going to the market store I have to go through possible scenarios in my head. It’s been like that as long as I can remember. I’ve learned to deal with it over the years, but it’s there. That’s why becoming political or engaged in the community is difficult but I like the idea and will try to find some wa…
Here what helps If you scared about ppl dying or smth, 1) repeat in your head "Humanity is the disease, Inferno is the cure" 2) repeat i can control only my actions, actions of other is their own responsibility 3) control is illusion 4) humanity (retards) deserves all this shit that happens You should abstract yourself from the environment. Somehow force yourself to don't give a fuck because it's not your choice ever…
1) Religiously exercise every single day ideally in the morning as it will set the tone for the rest of the day. 2) Make your diet clean and light. No soft drinks. No heavy carbs. Plenty of fresh fruit and vegetables etc. 3) Stop worrying about accomplishing anything. The point of life is to be happy and enjoy the journey not be in some race with others. 4) If you give up after a few days then just pick smaller thing…
I always feel like I’m wasting time and should be learning or trying to find another job. Then I start thinking about what to learn, what could I possibly do, since the domain knowledge I have is about gambling. Then I open the browser and.... down the rabbit hole I go
Anyway (while I admit I know little of your actual situation) I think you’re probably overestimating how hard to would be to find another job - because you’re lacking in confidence, and the unknown component of what a new employer might want is daunting. I’ve been there - my assessment of my employability varies tremendously, due to nothing but my changing mood.
Why don’t you just try applying for a few jobs? Don’t look on it as an ‘all or nothing’ situation, and try not to attach any major hope there. View it as an information-gathering exercise - an experiment. Even if you don’t succeed at first, you’ll gather valuable information about the jobs market, and it might give you a direction to take in the generation of new skills.
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I always feel like I’m wasting time and should be learning or trying to find another job. Then I start thinking about what to learn, what could I possibly do, since the domain knowledge I have is about gambling. Then I open the browser and.... down the rabbit hole I go
You must have transferable tech skills that aren’t just specific to gambling? Anyway (while I admit I know little of your actual situation) I think you’re probably overestimating how hard to would be to find another job - because you’re lacking in confidence, and the unknown component of what a new employer might want is daunting. I’ve been there - my assessment of my employability varies tremendously, due to nothing…
not constant, but I do suffer from some anxiety. First, it might be useful for you to look for professional help. Then, some things that were helpful for me, and may be helpful for you, ymmv: - check your health: maybe you suffer from physical issues, such as high blood pressure, and you can help it with pills, which will help with anxiety. - drop coffee and sigarettes, reduce alcool, eat more vegetables and fruit; i…
not constant, but I do suffer from some anxiety. First, it might be useful for you to look for professional help. Then, some things that were helpful for me, and may be helpful for you, ymmv: - check your health: maybe you suffer from physical issues, such as high blood pressure, and you can help it with pills, which will help with anxiety. - drop coffee and sigarettes, reduce alcool, eat more vegetables and fruit; i…
Why is it weird? You know in medieval Europe taking a bath was weird, two centuries ago having tuberculosis was fashionable. What is more important - fashion of times or your unique life? You must make up your mind.
Do you know how many great entrepreneurs, professionals and artists got started at your age? A LOT!