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Re: Facebook Dating

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Post by KaoruAoiShiho »

msoad wrote: post #49
estsauver wrote: post #16

I think this might be a (relatively) rare strategy error for Facebook. If the success of Snapchat, LinkedIn, and also the separate WhatsApp/Instagram properties proves anything, it's that there are very different faces of ourselves that we show to the professional world, to our friends, to partners, and to the world at large. If I was facebook, I would very explicitly announce this as a spin out project, under a diff…

I think this is an "old people's thinking" perspective. Younger generation are way more open about their dating life than us. They openly talk about their dating life at work or friends group. They don't mind getting matched with a coworker or classmate.

Yeah it's a load of assumptions, I'm chalking it more up to a "socially anxious person's thinking" than "old" person's thinking. For many people I think being able to smoothly integrate their existing social life into a dating app is a godsend.

Re: Facebook Dating

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Post by yodon »

msoad wrote: post #49
estsauver wrote: post #16

I think this might be a (relatively) rare strategy error for Facebook. If the success of Snapchat, LinkedIn, and also the separate WhatsApp/Instagram properties proves anything, it's that there are very different faces of ourselves that we show to the professional world, to our friends, to partners, and to the world at large. If I was facebook, I would very explicitly announce this as a spin out project, under a diff…

I think this is an "old people's thinking" perspective. Younger generation are way more open about their dating life than us. They openly talk about their dating life at work or friends group. They don't mind getting matched with a coworker or classmate.

It's not a generational thing, it's called being in your 20's. Those currently well past their 20's talked openly about their dating when they were 20, too.

Re: Facebook Dating

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Post by magduf »

peterwwillis wrote: post #15

It doesn't seem to do anything that a normal "Dating" app does. It's just a private friends list. You can already like and message people you have a crush on, without this. Who is this for? "Secret Crush lets you match with people you already know on Facebook and/or Instagram." Because what people have been clamoring for is to know which of their friends like them more than is mutual, so they can feel weird. "You can…

>Because what people have been clamoring for is to know which of their friends like them more than is mutual, so they can feel weird.

I haven't read the article, but I'm guessing this is probably a typical 2-way match algorithm, or else it really doesn't make sense. i.e., both friends have to put the other in their "secret crush" list for it to inform them that they have a crush on each other.

What they really need is a "secret crush for FWB only" list: what if I have a friend that I'd be happy to be FWB with, but have zero interest in a serious relationship, but don't want to broach that topic with her for fear that it would mess up our friendship? This would be a perfect use for FB.

Re: Facebook Dating

#64

Post by [deleted] »

johnisgood wrote: post #31
JacKTrocinskI wrote: post #13

Date your friends! :D On a more serious note though, why not? If their mission is to help connect people and this helps connect people that otherwise had trouble dating and this does so in a meaningful way then sounds good to me. Privacy is always a concern no matter what the app/site/technology.

The article says this: Facebook Dating won’t match you with friends , unless you choose to use Secret Crush and you both add each other to your list. All of your Dating activity will stay in Facebook Dating. It won’t be shared to the rest of Facebook.

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Re: Facebook Dating

#66

Post by smacktoward »

gtirloni wrote: post #36
AlphaWeaver wrote: post #23

>The consolidation of social activities (such as the process of dating, dating apps, and the network effects that result) into these walled gardens makes being a conscientious objector of social media more challenging each time they announce a feature like this. I and others don't want to use Facebook. Please don't leave us with no choice. https://news.ycombinator.com/item?id=19790889

> I and others don't want to use Facebook. Please don't leave us with no choice What? You don't want to use then don't use it. That's your choice.

Literally the entire lesson of the social networking age is that it's not entirely your choice. If everyone you know is on Facebook, and everyone you want to date is on Facebook, all the events you want to attend are organized on Facebook, etc., you have very strong pressures on you to use Facebook, whether you want to or not.

Re: Facebook Dating

#67

Post by carlosdp »

So, I'd use this, as someone who has trouble getting matches on dating apps usually. Facebook already has the largest issue for dating apps solved: the network chicken-and-egg problem. Dating apps are non-exclusive, I have 3 installed on my phone and using an additional one isn't a big deal.

If they are able to provide a differentiated feature set from other apps because they can better leverage FB interest data, I don't see why this couldn't work.

Is anyone else on this thread even in the dating scene right now? I really don't see how this is a plainly bad idea.

Re: Facebook Dating

#68

Post by magduf »

unethical_ban wrote: post #32

I am shocked by the ignorance here. "Why would Facebook do this? Nobody trusts them, they've run out of ideas, etc." They're the largest social network in the world, and this site is a filter bubble of privacy advocates and relatively anti-social people. Do you truly believe there isn't a market on Facebook for dating? Do you really think Facebook brand is universally tarnished in some way that this isn't a good move…

I really fail to see how trying to get into the dating market for 40-80 year old right-wing conservatives is really going to help them. The 20-somethings don't use FB, and sure as hell aren't going to use it for dating, and the 30-somethings probably aren't either.

Re: Facebook Dating

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Post by lbotos »

msoad wrote: post #49
estsauver wrote: post #16

I think this might be a (relatively) rare strategy error for Facebook. If the success of Snapchat, LinkedIn, and also the separate WhatsApp/Instagram properties proves anything, it's that there are very different faces of ourselves that we show to the professional world, to our friends, to partners, and to the world at large. If I was facebook, I would very explicitly announce this as a spin out project, under a diff…

I think this is an "old people's thinking" perspective. Younger generation are way more open about their dating life than us. They openly talk about their dating life at work or friends group. They don't mind getting matched with a coworker or classmate.

Yes, but also, young people also use may different digital personas "just like us".

https://www.usatoday.com/story/tech/talkingtech/2017/10/20/d...

Some degree of separation/anonymity is still something people want even if they are more transparent about the outcomes.

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