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Yes, I know the sky is rainy grey today. It does nothing for either of us if you point that out for the fifteenth time. On the other hand, if you compare the sky to a giant peeing elephant, then we're now engaged intellectually at least a little bit.
Personally, I don't complain unless I can come up with an interesting way to spin my complaint.
Her Facebook life looked perfect. How social media masks mental illness (2015)
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This "highlight reel" excuse is an excuse. I mean, why a person has a better highlight reel than another? Probably the one with a better highlight reel has a better life. I think denying the truthfulness in highlight reels is a form of toxic positivity.
It's not that the highlight reel is better. It's that you only see the good days. Sure, maybe one day you can get a bunch of stuff done and post about it, and then the next week you get nothing done. But if the only post people see is the one about getting all the stuff done, then they will assume that happens every day, including the days you don't post. The problem with the highlight reel is that people assume it a…
I'm constantly having to remind my wife that she's a good mother. She keeps seeing all the posts on Facebook from her groups about how some woman made dinner, built a diorama and made enough to buy a new purse from her side business all in one day! And she thinks she's a slacker because "all" she can do is feed the kids and read them a story. I have to keep telling her that she's only seeing the highlight reel of tho…
[0] Sorry for the reddit link, but https://www.reddit.com/r/antiMLM is instructive on this score
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This "highlight reel" excuse is an excuse. I mean, why a person has a better highlight reel than another? Probably the one with a better highlight reel has a better life. I think denying the truthfulness in highlight reels is a form of toxic positivity.
> I mean, why a person has a better highlight reel than another? But you aren't comparing their highlight reel to yours. You're comparing it to your entire life, because you have visibility into everything in your life, including all the stuff you don't post.
I'm constantly having to remind my wife that she's a good mother. She keeps seeing all the posts on Facebook from her groups about how some woman made dinner, built a diorama and made enough to buy a new purse from her side business all in one day! And she thinks she's a slacker because "all" she can do is feed the kids and read them a story. I have to keep telling her that she's only seeing the highlight reel of tho…
Soon after our first was born my wife asked her moms group: 'is four in the afternoon too early to have a beer?'. They answered: 'Oh, no, we've discussed it extensively and three o'clock is fine.' Nothing wrong with being an ambitious mom but you need to pick the right support group and it's probably not instagram.
I'm constantly having to remind my wife that she's a good mother. She keeps seeing all the posts on Facebook from her groups about how some woman made dinner, built a diorama and made enough to buy a new purse from her side business all in one day! And she thinks she's a slacker because "all" she can do is feed the kids and read them a story. I have to keep telling her that she's only seeing the highlight reel of tho…
This place gets that ways some times. I like reading the comments here, as there are a lot of insightful comments that I often learn more from than the article itself. Though sometimes it feels that if you are not working at one of the FAANGs making $400k/year that you are a total loser.
To the extent each of those companies is working against the public interest (which you can decide for yourself or debate with someone), their employees are all traitors against the people. And buying a traitor always costs a lot of money. Even Judas got 30 pieces of silver. (And even if that story is a work of fiction, that detail is still a masterful touch, no?)
So maybe you have less money, but maybe you're also slightly less fucked-up inside, less cut-off from yourself, less prone to attack people for trivial reasons, and less plagued by thought patterns cluttered with convoluted self-justifications. Think about it and... [silly comment about anticipated downvotes redacted]
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This place gets that ways some times. I like reading the comments here, as there are a lot of insightful comments that I often learn more from than the article itself. Though sometimes it feels that if you are not working at one of the FAANGs making $400k/year that you are a total loser.
Well here's a thought that might help (and I swear I'm not doing the same thing they're pointing out in the article, because as you'll see, it really isn't even particularly positive, hahaha): To the extent each of those companies is working against the public interest (which you can decide for yourself or debate with someone), their employees are all traitors against the people. And buying a traitor always costs a l…
30 silver pieces actually wasn’t much money. These are commonly thought to refer to a silver shekel. If so, it’d be 30x11.4g or 342g of silver total, about $164 at today’s prices.
30 shekels was also the price of a slave according to Exodus 21:32. So, the fact that the Pharisees paid Judas only the price of a slave shows their immense disrespect for the Christ.
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Well here's a thought that might help (and I swear I'm not doing the same thing they're pointing out in the article, because as you'll see, it really isn't even particularly positive, hahaha): To the extent each of those companies is working against the public interest (which you can decide for yourself or debate with someone), their employees are all traitors against the people. And buying a traitor always costs a l…
> And buying a traitor always costs a lot of money. Even Judas got 30 pieces of silver. 30 silver pieces actually wasn’t much money. These are commonly thought to refer to a silver shekel. If so, it’d be 30x11.4g or 342g of silver total, about $164 at today’s prices. 30 shekels was also the price of a slave according to Exodus 21:32. So, the fact that the Pharisees paid Judas only the price of a slave shows their imm…
So on the other hand there is a toxic negativity that seems to reign in pop culture where people's impression of many things in society in general are on the pessimistic side of what real data shows. I wonder if this tendency towards toxic positivity in social media is some kind of equal but opposite effect that acts as a balance.
Both phenomena taken together create this negative outlook, "the world sucks and I personally suck". But this negativity is also what drives engagement, so there's no incentive to stop it - not in works of fiction, and not in social media.