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It Doesn’t Count Unless I Know You’re Hitting on Me.

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Re: It Doesn’t Count Unless I Know You’re Hitting on Me.

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Post by lhorie »

grammaton wrote: post #54
lhorie wrote: post #53

Earlier quoted context omitted.

From the TFA: >> when we’re at a business networking event, and we exchange cards You're really stretching the definition of subtext if you're suggesting that a woman giving you her business card actually means she wants to get personal with you.

I can't speak to what actually happens when she's at one of these events since I'm not there. But given that her whole blog is a coy, disingenuous photo-shoot, I have to say I look askance at this woman in particular. It's not difficult to imagine her interpersonal style being similar. That's where the above comment was coming from.

As the old saying goes, don't judge a book by its cover...

Regardless of how goofy she wants to make her blog look, I think she still has a good point (although, granted, it was a rant and thus not exactly written in the most positive way possible)

Re: It Doesn’t Count Unless I Know You’re Hitting on Me.

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Post by grammaton »

parfe wrote: post #57
grammaton wrote: post #54

Earlier quoted context omitted.

I can't speak to what actually happens when she's at one of these events since I'm not there. But given that her whole blog is a coy, disingenuous photo-shoot, I have to say I look askance at this woman in particular. It's not difficult to imagine her interpersonal style being similar. That's where the above comment was coming from.

Here's another site full of photoshoots of the writer. Think he's asking for personal contact if he hands out his business card? http://stallman.org/photos/rms-working/

False analogy. There's a world of difference between a tech nobody (in her own words) and a very well known, established programmer with decades of experience who is seen as an authority in the field. At that point you are, to some extent, a media personality as well, and that sort of behavior is a somewhat more understandable.

Re: It Doesn’t Count Unless I Know You’re Hitting on Me.

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Post by parfe »

grammaton wrote: post #62
parfe wrote: post #57

Earlier quoted context omitted.

Here's another site full of photoshoots of the writer. Think he's asking for personal contact if he hands out his business card? http://stallman.org/photos/rms-working/

False analogy. There's a world of difference between a tech nobody (in her own words) and a very well known, established programmer with decades of experience who is seen as an authority in the field. At that point you are, to some extent, a media personality as well, and that sort of behavior is a somewhat more understandable.

So he's earned the right to have pictures on his blog? Or are you thinking with your dick as long as it doesn't have a CompSci Beard?

Re: It Doesn’t Count Unless I Know You’re Hitting on Me.

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Post by trustfundbaby »

Yeah ... it reallly sucks to be goodlooking.

I understand what she's saying, and I empathize, I really do, but its is a hazard of being attractive ...

SUCK IT UP.

Its bad form to rant about that kind of stuff ... its almost like some dude who owns a Ferrari/Aston Martin/whatever, complaining about how people are always crowding around his car wherever he parks it. (Yeah how dreary it must be to own a Ferrari!) ... It just comes across wrong.

If she really wants to solve her problem and stop ranting ... let her put on 30 pounds. I promise the shennanigans will stop ... abruptly.

Re: It Doesn’t Count Unless I Know You’re Hitting on Me.

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Post by tptacek »

etherael wrote: post #20

So after examining her site a little more closely, I'm not sure what she actually does? I see vague hand waving towards a facility for schmoozing in some fashion and copious hand waving toward her having very little idea what's going on in her field with a healthy dash of self deprecation thrown in. If all you do is schmooze then is it really so strange that someone might mistake your intent as unrelated to acting as…

I'm not sure what this comment has to do with the article at all. Try to evaluate the idea, and not the author.

Whether or not you think women are treated unfairly in the industry (I used to bristle at the idea, then watched my wife interview for jobs and radically changed my take), and whether or not this particular woman endured any real unfairness:

It is still worth considering how totally unprofessional and inappropriate it may be to ask a woman for her business card in order to abuse it for your personal benefit. It's not something I had thought of before. It's worth discussing.

If gender politics makes your brain turn off (and, it used to do that to me too), just pivot the story in your head so that instead of asking for a date, the guy takes her card at a tech convention and later calls and tries to sell her a dental insurance policy. It's spam. Spam is bad. There's an implied agreement when I give you my card that you're going to use it for its intended purpose: to contact me about something relevant to my business.

Re: It Doesn’t Count Unless I Know You’re Hitting on Me.

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Post by hard1p »

grammaton wrote: post #47

So....girl writes a blog that is half blog, half glamour photo shoot, and is obviously trading on her appearance. Fine, it's a free country, work an advantage if you've got it. She openly admits in the "about" section of her blog that she has all of one year of experience. Then girl is shocked, just shocked , when business professionals don't take her seriously and are only interested in one thing. A superficial girl…

How is she 'obviously' trading on her appearance exactly? If she was minging and had exactly the same online presence you wouldn't be saying that. Tard

Re: It Doesn’t Count Unless I Know You’re Hitting on Me.

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Post by hard1p »

stuhacking wrote: post #25

Why doesn't she get a second phone/line for business only. If someone abuses that then at least they don't have her personal number and she can deal with the inappropriate use of her business number accordingly. She could also make it clear on the card that it is a business number.

How does that make a difference? All numbers are the same to predators haha! I doubt she advertises the number on her business card as a personal one anyway.

Re: It Doesn’t Count Unless I Know You’re Hitting on Me.

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Post by hard1p »

rorrr wrote: post #65

What a complainer she is. Problem totally blown out of proportion. She is not even that hot (6 out of 10, maybe). A girl with barely any experience who goes to networking events. WTF does she expect?

What a dumbass you are - I bet you're one of those guys.

P.S. 10/10

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