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Post by adityapurwa »

Congratulations OP, really happy for your improvements. I had my fair share of dark days, but whenever that happens, I believed that it happened to me because I am strong and I can handle that. I am sure whatever happens to you is a prove that you are stronger than you think you are.

I used to live alone on a very low salary. When the money ran out, I started to drink tap water (which arent really drinkable on my region), and just eating cheap biscuits.

It was only few days before my next month payroll, I was sad that it happened to me, I dont want to borrow money, and i felt so alone that time.

I just prayed, and that night someone delivered a food to me as they were celebrating something. Tomorrow and after I also got food, enough until my payday.

Staying positive is the only way for us to defeat depression. Happy days are like sunny days, it is easy to seek the sun. Our down times are dark night, we just need to seek a little harder to see the beauty of the stars.

Hope OP and everyone else is always in good condition and happy.

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Post by braythwayt »

Speaking as someone who has lived through dark days myself...

I want to point out that we know that exercise helps with moods. The data is there. That being said, mood disorders are like autoimmune diseases of the emotions. Feeling blue or anxious or clinically depressed makes it harder to work out.

And if you don't, you can easily beat yourself up for not "fixing yourself."

On the other side of the fence, lots of people self-report that exercise helped them. And it did. But what sometimes gets missed is that they were already starting to get better, and what motivated them to exercise was that they were already feeling better.

So it's not as simple as "correlation does not equal causation," but there can be BOTH correlation and causation at work when you exercise and feel better.

I say all this mainly because some folks have real trouble getting the motivation together to exercise when feeling down. Same with personal hygiene, appearance, eating well, and so forth. If anyone reading this knows intellectually that they ought to exercise, but just can't, please know that you are not unusual, this is what mood disorders do.

But also know that there are many things that can help, so find the thing you can do—be it CBT, anti-depressants, whatever—and you will get yourself to a place where you are better able to do self-care like exercise.

JM2C. My office walls are bereft of credentials in psychiatry.

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Post by pololee »

Thank you for sharing. It's such an inspiring story. Ellen said, "It's nice to be important, but it's also important to be nice".

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Post by neuro_imager »

Really pleased to hear you're doing well. As someone who has faced a similar situation in the past I can attest as to how hard it can be to pull yourself out of that downward spiral.

I went through your previous thread and was really impressed by some of the advice/comments you were given.

I was wondering if anyone with some time on their hands on here could possibly prepare a repository of all the good advice in this thread (and the OP's previous thread, and one's like it) as a resource for people who face similar circumstances. (I have no doubt there are a lot of us out there).

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Post by taneq »

irregular-john wrote: post #56

> I'm going to run a marathon in 3 months That's not really a time to brag about, my friend. Most people finish in about four hours.

"I finished this Lego set in six months, which is really good because the box says 6 - 8 years."

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Post by hliyan »

lisper wrote: post #2

Congrats! Now pay it forward by finding someone feeling blue near you and helping them out.

I feel like this is the most valuable comment on this thread. Imagine the impact if everyone on HN committed today to follow this principle...

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Post by 2bitencryption »

braythwayt wrote: post #62

Speaking as someone who has lived through dark days myself... I want to point out that we know that exercise helps with moods. The data is there. That being said, mood disorders are like autoimmune diseases of the emotions. Feeling blue or anxious or clinically depressed makes it harder to work out. And if you don't, you can easily beat yourself up for not "fixing yourself." On the other side of the fence, lots of pe…

> If anyone reading this knows intellectually that they ought to exercise, but just can't, please know that you are not unusual, this is what mood disorders do.

thanks, needed to hear this.

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Post by zerr »

user5994461 wrote: post #45
wellboy wrote: post #4

Is it really that competitive these days after uni when you have "no experience" and are a junior dev? I assume you have a top 10% GPA? I always hear in the bay area you get $150,000 straight out of uni, at least when you're from Stanford etc. Is this not the case anymore? Edit: Ok, I see you're in France. Then 33k€ is rather reasonable. There don't really exist exciting software companies in France or Germany, excep…

French here. 33k is fairly decent in Paris, with no degree and no experience. Outside of Paris, it's really good. It's above the average for a top degree in a top school.

Do you mean an average gross income in general or for senior devs particularly?
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