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Habits of Highly Miserable People

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Re: Habits of Highly Miserable People

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Post by lopmotr »

mirimir wrote: post #18
asdsa5325 wrote: post #12

It seems like many people in this thread missed the sarcastic tone of the article...

Well, I just about stopped reading at > Let’s exclude some obvious ways, like doing drugs ... Not entirely, though. But I did get disgusted not long after, by the smug tone. Maybe it's all sarcastic ranting about self-help literature. But even if so, I didn't find it very funny.

Yes, it seemed a bit random and confusing to me. I didn't think drugs or gambling obviously made people miserable - aren't they purpose made for pleasure? They don't really annoy other people either which turned out to be what the list was actually about - it should be called "Behaviors I don't like in other people because I don't know how to handle them".

Re: Habits of Highly Miserable People

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Post by agumonkey »

Tade0 wrote: post #37

> 5. Attribute bad intentions. Me and my SO have serendipitously discovered a great way to defuse arguments: it's the question "Are you accusing me of foulness?" (any sufficiently Victorian synonym works here) For some reason most people reflexively deny this in reply and realise that they've been attributing bad intentions groundlessly. Unfortunately this doesn't work on people who have a mindset which requires ther…

important point, I very often get angry because I interpret some usual sign as the usual paranoid cause ..

Re: Habits of Highly Miserable People

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Post by dominotw »

maerF0x0 wrote: post #6

>Exercise: Sit in a comfortable chair, close your eyes, and, for 15 minutes, meditate on all the things you could lose: your job, your house, your savings, and so forth. Then brood about living in a homeless shelter. really roughly this is what stoics do, yet somehow they come to the conclusion "actually, what was i fearing? Proceed with adventure"...

I saw this documentary on cnbc about modern day slavery on fishing boats[1]. Ppl are promised jobs, entrapped and sold to shipping vessels as slaves where there are worked to death. When someone falls sick or dies from overwork they simply throw the body out in the ocean. I am still traumatized by this documentary, I can't imagine anything worse that could happen to a human being.

I can shop at whole foods that does the homework for me but what about Chinese masses that don't give a shit. Why do humans have to reproduce so much and at all costs. fucking sick!

1. https://www.cnbc.com/oceans-of-crime/

Re: Habits of Highly Miserable People

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Post by empath75 »

maerF0x0 wrote: post #6

>Exercise: Sit in a comfortable chair, close your eyes, and, for 15 minutes, meditate on all the things you could lose: your job, your house, your savings, and so forth. Then brood about living in a homeless shelter. really roughly this is what stoics do, yet somehow they come to the conclusion "actually, what was i fearing? Proceed with adventure"...

I spent three months traveling through Central America. You really quickly get used to a constant sense of danger — the water and food can kill you, the bugs can kill you, the roads can kill you, the police and gangs could kill you — hell even taking a hot shower there is tempting fate since they have electric heaters in the shower heads and basically no electrical safety standards to speak of.

You either have to cower in your hotel in fear or live life. I went hitchhiking in Nicaragua, sledded down a volcano, went cliff diving, etc — stuff i’d never do at home.

There’s something to be said for facing down your fear of death and acting in the face of it.

Re: Habits of Highly Miserable People

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Post by narag »

I used to know the person that probably served as a model for this article.

Not only does this method work to make yourself miserable, but also all the people around you. If you detect this behaviour, run like hell.

Re: Habits of Highly Miserable People

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Post by Bakary »

bartread wrote: post #52
kristianc wrote: post #27

I’m no expert on abject misery but reading 12pt serif text with a ridiculous line length on an iPhone screen has got to come pretty close.

Well, I appreciated the presumably intentional humour in this comment even if no-one else did so don't consign yourself to abject misery over the reactions.

If it were any other website I would assume the humor was intentional, but I still have my doubts here.

Re: Habits of Highly Miserable People

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Post by refurb »

maerF0x0 wrote: post #6

>Exercise: Sit in a comfortable chair, close your eyes, and, for 15 minutes, meditate on all the things you could lose: your job, your house, your savings, and so forth. Then brood about living in a homeless shelter. really roughly this is what stoics do, yet somehow they come to the conclusion "actually, what was i fearing? Proceed with adventure"...

Exactly. Doing this, if anything, makes me incredibly grateful I haven’t lost those things. And at the same time realize that it wouldn’t be the end of the world.

Re: Habits of Highly Miserable People

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Post by RIMR »

solarkraft wrote: post #46
fwip wrote: post #35

Number 3, "Give yourself a negative identity," just sounds like "I don't like when people have mental health problems. Get over it already."

Not fully. The point (I think) is not letting oneself be consumed by a problem & constantly identifying to be about it. There are way more things to define you.

Precisely.

There's a huge difference between saying "I have severe depression, and it takes great effort for me to get through a day without buckling" and saying "I have severe depression, so my daily mental breakdowns aren't my fault".

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