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My name is Wil Wheaton. I live with chronic Depression, and I am not ashamed

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Re: My name is Wil Wheaton. I live with chronic Depression, and I am not ashamed

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Post by camel_Snake »

mephitix wrote: post #55
tim333 wrote: post #32

Earlier quoted context omitted.

I recommend trying CBT type stuff which I've done myself for depression with some success. My take on it is your brain is mostly a parallel processor where events trigger ideas which trigger the lower level fear, hunger type stuff often without conscious awareness. But you can fight it by, when you get a bad feeling, analysing it and arguing against - eg for lack of worth, figure out the I'm useless thought and argue…

This is super interesting. I've never even heard of CBT - thought you misspelled CBD oil :) My issue is that when I'm in the moment I'm sort of paralyzed by it. An attack feels a bit like a runaway train. But lately I've gotten better at taking a step back from the situation. I think in those moments CBT would help a lot. I'll read up more about it, thanks so much for the tip.

I've just started reading a book on CBT[0] that I have been really enjoying so far. I think the gist is that much like logical fallacies, there exist cognitive fallacies that our brains start using that alter the way we perceive reality in a negative way.

Here's [1] a kind of silly example of it in action over on the Overwatch subreddit.

[0] https://www.amazon.com/Feeling-Good-New-Mood-Therapy/dp/0380...

[1] https://www.reddit.com/r/Overwatch/comments/85qmul/my_wife_i...

Re: My name is Wil Wheaton. I live with chronic Depression, and I am not ashamed

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Post by mephitix »

camel_Snake wrote: post #61
mephitix wrote: post #55

Earlier quoted context omitted.

This is super interesting. I've never even heard of CBT - thought you misspelled CBD oil :) My issue is that when I'm in the moment I'm sort of paralyzed by it. An attack feels a bit like a runaway train. But lately I've gotten better at taking a step back from the situation. I think in those moments CBT would help a lot. I'll read up more about it, thanks so much for the tip.

I've just started reading a book on CBT[0] that I have been really enjoying so far. I think the gist is that much like logical fallacies, there exist cognitive fallacies that our brains start using that alter the way we perceive reality in a negative way. Here's [1] a kind of silly example of it in action over on the Overwatch subreddit. [0] https://www.amazon.com/Feeling-Good-New-Mood-Therapy/dp/0380... [1] https://…

I just bought the book. Only $6 and has some pretty convincing reviews. Thanks! That Overwatch worksheet is hilarious - but kind of eye-opening in a way. Seeing that made me think that I just keep running over the same thoughts over and over in my head (definition of insanity, lol) instead of writing them down and reflecting. Thanks a lot!

Re: My name is Wil Wheaton. I live with chronic Depression, and I am not ashamed

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Post by p3llin0r3 »

dingaling wrote: post #9

That must have been difficult to write, but it was also difficult to read. I don't think he needed to lash-out at the adults who didn't understand his illness; how was a director in a weekly TV show meant to diagnose and accommodate depression when he's handling dozens of people to a tight schedule? Its the same in any context of work, unfortunately. You're just a cog and if the cog jams, add more oil or replace it.…

I feel like you're being a little easy on this people.

These were not ignorant children is that were making decisions that they didn't understand the consequences to.

These were adult men who had an opportunity to care about someone ( a child ) and instead decided to harass them into complying with their wishes in order to make money.

The buck stops somewhere. Regretting being a piece of shit is worthless. You were still a piece of shit.

Re: My name is Wil Wheaton. I live with chronic Depression, and I am not ashamed

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Post by flycaliguy »

mephitix wrote: post #62
camel_Snake wrote: post #61

Earlier quoted context omitted.

I've just started reading a book on CBT[0] that I have been really enjoying so far. I think the gist is that much like logical fallacies, there exist cognitive fallacies that our brains start using that alter the way we perceive reality in a negative way. Here's [1] a kind of silly example of it in action over on the Overwatch subreddit. [0] https://www.amazon.com/Feeling-Good-New-Mood-Therapy/dp/0380... [1] https://…

I just bought the book. Only $6 and has some pretty convincing reviews. Thanks! That Overwatch worksheet is hilarious - but kind of eye-opening in a way. Seeing that made me think that I just keep running over the same thoughts over and over in my head (definition of insanity, lol) instead of writing them down and reflecting. Thanks a lot!

Good luck! CBT doesn’t work for everybody, but since you read Hacker News I’d say there is a better chance it will align with you. Stoic philosophy and Mindfulness all touch on similar territory. I found a study of all three allowed me to pick and choose the best tidbits and internalize the processes.

Re: My name is Wil Wheaton. I live with chronic Depression, and I am not ashamed

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Post by malmsteen »

yc-kraln wrote: post #42
78_fincdian wrote: post #34

> as a white, heterosexual, cisgender man in America, I live life on the lowest difficulty setting Seriously, what is this shit? Is there a grant I'm not aware of that's given to straight white men? Free housing somewhere? I'm white and straight and American and I'm pretty sure my children's education is paid for by my near constant work (and my wife's) not by the magical fairy dust that was sprinkled on me at birth.…

> Is there a grant I'm not aware of that's given to straight white men? Yes.

Last time i checked in the us universities there was no grant from me and many grants for people having a different "specificity" than me (woman / black / native / disabled...)

Re: My name is Wil Wheaton. I live with chronic Depression, and I am not ashamed

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Post by sjellis »

kilburn wrote: post #45
sjellis wrote: post #40

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"Seriously, what is this shit? Is there a grant I'm not aware of that's given to straight white men" You can get a little badge that says "respectable citizen, handle with care". You don't see it, but people in authority do.

It's called a stereotype, and it depends more on other aspects than skin color. Mostly on how you communicate (vocabulary, grammar, accent, gestures) and how you look (beauty, illness cues, dress code). White, heterosexual, cis-gender male that "looks like a junkie", acts disrespectful and speaks slang? Good luck getting authorities to consider you a "respectable citizen, handle with care". I'm not denying skin color…

> White, heterosexual, cis-gender male that "looks like a junkie", acts disrespectful and speaks slang? Good luck getting authorities to consider you a "respectable citizen, handle with care".

Yes, that's why I said "can get": it's obviously not an absolute. In some places and situations it's considerably harder for people who aren't a white, heterosexual, cis-gender male to get pegged as someone who should be treated with consideration.

Re: My name is Wil Wheaton. I live with chronic Depression, and I am not ashamed

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Post by Sukotto »

78_fincdian wrote: post #34

> as a white, heterosexual, cisgender man in America, I live life on the lowest difficulty setting Seriously, what is this shit? Is there a grant I'm not aware of that's given to straight white men? Free housing somewhere? I'm white and straight and American and I'm pretty sure my children's education is paid for by my near constant work (and my wife's) not by the magical fairy dust that was sprinkled on me at birth.…

  Seriously, what is this shit? Is there a 
  grant I'm not aware of that's given to 
  straight white men? Free housing 
  somewhere? I'm white and straight and 
  American and I'm pretty sure my 
  children's education is paid for by my 
  near constant work (and my wife's) not 
  by the magical fairy dust that was 
  sprinkled on me at birth
He is referencing this short essay by John Scalzi:

https://whatever.scalzi.com/2012/05/15/straight-white-male-t...

It's a good, quick, read

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