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Re: Ask HN: Burned out, depressed, cannot do anything

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Post by tuyguntn » Thu, Jan 19, 2017, 3:15 PM UTC

JamesBarney wrote: post #32

I would suggest talking to your wife. It might be feel like you're trapped but you're not. I bet you'll be surprised with how understanding she is. And if you ignore this situation chances are it will get a whole lot worse before it gets any better. And start as quickly as possible, the longer you wait the longer it will take you to recover.(Some people on HN who tried to push through it took years to recover) I woul…

I have already talked with her, she is really helpful, supporting. But, thinking that the problem is inside of me distracts me a lot from helpful advises

Re: Ask HN: Burned out, depressed, cannot do anything

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Post by tuyguntn » Thu, Jan 19, 2017, 3:18 PM UTC

terminalcommand wrote: post #50

I don't know if you're still following up on the answers but I'd like to share. You might want to purchase a sleep fracker bracelet and monitor your sleep. That way, you'll be sure that you get adequate sleep. You also may want to separate your work and your private life. On your free time I think you should simply do nothing for a while. No HN/no music/no computers, hang out with friends, or simply sit and reflect.…

Thank you so much, my sleeping behavior also broken :(, I should create a list of things to try from this post. People helping me a lot

Re: Ask HN: Burned out, depressed, cannot do anything

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Post by rrecuero » Thu, Jan 19, 2017, 7:19 PM UTC

tuyguntn wrote: post #54

rrecuero wrote: post #20

One thing that I found always helped was to acknowledge the situation. I think this post is a great starting point. Taking a moment and say "I'm depressed, I am burned out". And it's ok, there is nothing wrong with it. Once you do, you relieve the tension and realize that the situation cannot really hurt you. It happens to everyone including really successful people Like Ben Horowitz, "when you are in the loop nothin…

Agree with Ben Horowitz, I am feeling that I am in some kind of loop, fail, stand up, fail, fail, fail, stand up, a lot more fails again.

You are on the right path. Acknowledging it is 30%. Then, just try to focus on the present, one thing at a time. The past can't hurt and nobody knows the future... Good luck!

If you need to talk, feel free to reach out.