dated possibly this person. all checks out. if it is her let me tell you this -- she spent the whole 3 years passionately writing livejournal type things with strangers, kept a bunch of "fan" type guys around (you know the type) who shed never consider actually dating but she liked the attention, and I dumped her when I found some flirty shit between them. I dont know if she ever actually cheated but that's already well below who im willing to marry. she defended her position as "just missing making a connection". ok girl whatever I was emotionally and physically available but not a d-list twitter material. I hope it now finally clicks and you also got your eating under control. you still sound like the self-created crisis I left you as.
‘I’m Broke and Mostly Friendless, and I’ve Wasted My Whole Life’
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#592Earlier quoted context omitted.
>I recommend church. It helps. You evolved to do that too. Wait, what? I laughed out loud at that.
I'm not sure what you think religion is if not an evolved social construct. Do you actually think religion, with all its ritual and structure and beauty exists because cave men tried to explain away the things that scared them? It is the foundation of broader social order. It makes you feel part of something bigger than yourself. It makes it possible for you to relate positively with human beings outside the 300-400…
I don't disagree, I just found it funny because I live in the Bible belt and you'll be hard-pressed to find someone who both recommends church and believes science. I go to church, but would recommend therapy over church for personal issues.
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#593Earlier quoted context omitted.
> Today we are experimenting with new phenomena Pretty sure every generation from the beginning of time has thought of itself as a pioneer exposed to new forces and new phenomena. It's a bit arrogant to think that you're the one and only. There are a multitude of other changes that have transformed our environment (agriculture, spoken language, written language, barter, commerce, etc.) over the millennia. > There is…
> When we tried to eradicate it forcefully (communism), bad things happened This is a little disingenuous. Yes, states described as communist attempted to eradicate religion; to do that, they merely replaced religion with the state. The state became the church, its leaders became the saints. Don't conflate the example of failed, corrupt Stalinist communist states with the concept of the eradication of religion, they'…
Stalin brought back the orthodox church after Lenin got rid of it. When Stalin died, Khruschev cracked down on the church again.
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#594"We should be more honest about the real tradeoffs between endless wanderlust/adventure-seeking and putting down real roots. The things that make for a great instagram feed or Bumble profile are very different from those of permanence that help us live well." (Friend's comment on article) Polly's reply is so shameless (including promoting her own book in the reply) that it's incredible just how badly it missed the po…
Frankly I stopped reading the moment the book was mentioned. It feels off and insincere.
I can totally understand this, and it seems that a lot of the blog posts that make it to the top of HN are in some way self promoting the writer's work (be it music, IT consulting, their web-product, their music, etc).
I guess it is a hard balance to strike between self-promotion and good content. Perhaps if the writer could be more open about the promotion stuff in the beginning of the article it wouldn't feel insincere.
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#595Earlier quoted context omitted.
> Pair up That could be challenging for many people for multiple reasons. Have you considered the possibility that you found (by luck) a rather exceptional partner and thus your model could not be replicated on the society at large.
Nah, the notion of holding out for "the one" is overrated and just makes you pass over plenty of acceptable candidates. Everyone has flaws and overlapping interests isn't really necessary either. Just find someone you find attractive, who's in your league, and who shares your values and work at it, you'll be fine. I hear the divorce rate of arranged marriages is pretty low.
Maybe because the cultures that have arranged marriages also have stigmas about divorce.
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#596Earlier quoted context omitted.
>Effective birth control What if at the end, we end up realizing that all there is to life is a struggle in order to propagate our own DNA, and that really this struggle may not be worth it? Humanity as a whole could decide that this is all there is, and then that ultimately there really is no point other than what you make it. What if humanity bucked it's genetic programming, recognizing it for what it really is. An…
The other half of humanity that think that birthing children really is a blessing will outnumber you.
A blessing from who?
God?
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#597Everyone around us is fighting their own little war. I've felt similarly to the writer -- I moved out of my childhood home the day after graduating college and started work that Monday. I only moved 215 miles (NYC to Boston), but it felt a world away, especially considering most Americans live relatively close to where they grew up and 215 miles in Europe goes a long way. I've made and abandoned friends at almost eve…
Wait, 13 years and not married? Highly sketch.
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#598(Edit: see, the internet alone is part of what is wrong with the world. I share that I feel completely alone and miserable and what does the internet do? Downvote. Did you bother to comment negatively or just provide some sort of reason as to why you don't like my comment? Nah, 'here have a downvote' because you're safe and comfortable in your anonymity where you can freely show someone you don't like them because th…
Ryan, You're intelligent, you're awake and have acknowledged the problems you face (as evidenced by the paragraph after paragraph you spent describing them), you're hardworking enough and diligent enough to retain your job for 12 years - that speaks to a certain type of strength of character. I googled you, found your blog, saw a youtube video of you and nothing about your appearance or your bearing was off-putting e…
I wanted to acknowledge your reply. I don't really have anything to say but wanted to let you know I read it.
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#599(Edit: see, the internet alone is part of what is wrong with the world. I share that I feel completely alone and miserable and what does the internet do? Downvote. Did you bother to comment negatively or just provide some sort of reason as to why you don't like my comment? Nah, 'here have a downvote' because you're safe and comfortable in your anonymity where you can freely show someone you don't like them because th…
After clicking around your comment history and blog for a bit... I see you grew up and live in Indy -- I did as well until I moved to Chicago earlier this year, and we're around the same age (I'm 30). Some of what you've written definitely reminds me of myself years ago. My (admittedly incomplete) impression of you is that you seem smart, but that you've got a lot of strong beliefs about things that don't seem to be…
>I did as well until I moved to Chicago earlier this year,
Go to the SafeHouse restaurant, it's on the magnificent mile!
I finally got to go aboard U-505 in October which had been a dream of mine since going up there when we camped at Dunes state park and then road the train up to the museum in scouts when I was a pre-teen, after I ended up at that restaurant. It's really goofy but was quite a fun experience from entering in a unique way to exiting in a fun way.
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#600Earlier quoted context omitted.
The West replaced God not with the self, but with shopping.
That and "Science." "Scientists" (catch-all term nobody seems to have a problem using with increasing frequency) are the new priest class.
It's other way around. Priests used to be the science class, but a few hundred years ago they split into 2 camps.