Tinder just permabanned me or the problem with big tech

Post by OJFord » Wed, Dec 22, 2021, 11:51 PM UTC

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I stopped paying for dating apps as soon as I realized tinder, Bumble, and Match constantly try to "lure" me into paying for subscriptions. It happened many times that I would get notifications about new matches/likes just moments after midnight when my subscription plan ended. I found it statistically unlikely that people only liked my profile right after my plan is finished.

Assuming it's not outright foul play, it's prob more likely that the matching services intentionally boost your profile gets better reach/impressions as that's a +EV play, and reduce your profile reach when you're subscribed long-term. To carry this thought exercise more, someone structuring this system could also treat hot/responsive/engaged profiles as an asset of retention and intentionally matchmake the results t…

Post by cableshaft » Wed, Dec 22, 2021, 11:55 PM UTC

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By far the best part is they didn't automatically cancel his subscription. What a horrible company, if you've banned my account that's fine but cancel the subscription and refund my money. If y'all haven't looked at it yet, read up on the FCC's filing against Match. They knowingly prompt up tons of fake profiles, to get you engaged. Horrifically this has lead to romance scams being the number one source of fraud in t…

I met my current girlfriend on Match.com(US) in 2019. She was unemployed back then and we lived 2h+ hours apart. First 6 months of the relationship, she was unemployed. We are still together and now she has a job. I don't think unemployment should immediately be a no go for the relationship.

Post by kingcharles » Thu, Dec 23, 2021, 12:01 AM UTC

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Years ago, when I ran PUA site, I set up a fake female profile on Match to see what the female experience was like. It was truly horrifying. In three days I got ~1000 messages from men, 99% of which were barely intelligible and usually one line, like "dam gurl u nicce" etc.

I did the same thing a long time ago. I was actually going to prank a friend who we knew used the site, but I learnt an important lesson. I started to feel really sorry for men. All these lonely guys who can't help their desire for women. I did use a picture of a girl who would never in a million years need to use online dating, though. I wonder if you did too.

Post by trembonator » Thu, Dec 23, 2021, 12:03 AM UTC

Post by _carbyau_ » Thu, Dec 23, 2021, 12:20 AM UTC

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> nd can definitively say it's the best decision a person can make for their mental well being. No, you can only definitively say it's was the best decision you made for your mental well being. With the plausible suggestion that it might be good for some others, also.

for what it is worth it was great being the last person around without a smart phone. I dont know how old you are but people use to be alone with their own thoughts. Amazing things happen if you ponder situations until satisfied with your own conclusions. the delay made for wonderful long form conversations. exchanging text like we are doing here doesnt build relationships either. if i would die in the next 20 min yo…