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Re: Tinder just permabanned me or the problem with big tech

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Post by caminante »

goblin89 wrote: post #503
caminante wrote: post #493

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>To save someone a click, And yet you admit >I didn’t bother checking results. Both are US-centric. ... You need to let the Stanford Professor and Pew Research know they're unqualified to perform research. :S

To reiterate, the first paper does not specifically pertain to dating apps, and the methodology of the second article is flawed (you want to know whether people meet online, so you ask people of whom >50% you found online, great technique)—so it might save someone who cares about that kind of stuff a click (a few clicks actually, since the methodology is buried in a separate article). If you don’t fall into that cate…

You're being difficult on purpose.

> methodology is buried in a separate article

It's an EXPLICIT footnote! See "Note; Here [is the report's] metholodgy."

> Methodology of the second article is flawed (you want to know whether people meet online, so you ask people online, great technique)

The methodology goes into statistical techniques to control for biases (e.g. language, gender identity, sampling method, etc.) See Methodology > Weighting about what they did with their ~5k responses.

Re: Tinder just permabanned me or the problem with big tech

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Post by cultofmetatron »

pratik661 wrote: post #502
cultofmetatron wrote: post #310

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People can't handle truth and I'd rather not be downvoted to oblivion. Suffice to say, the american dating market is heavily geared towards attractive white men over 6 ft tall. They better also be a millionaire if you're in the bay area. I'd suggest traveling like I have to southeast Asia, Europe and latin America for extended periods of time and see for yourself.

That’s interesting. I wonder how much that applies to South Asians though. I think most of the dating advice in these threads is tailored towards white people who have different experiences from other POC.

I am south asian (srilankan american) so my advice is comming from the perspective of a person of color.

The best places for dating for a south asian male would be southeast asia, turkey and latin america. White guys definitely have an advantage when going after women that specifically want a foreigner. We're able to get the ones that would otherwise prefer to date within their own country.

I had some success in europe but it was hit or miss. I'd say it was a pretty neutral experience, I felt like the deck wasn't stacked for or against me on average. latin america on the other hand was where I had my best prospects.

In my experience, latinas in colombia love the way we look. If I asked 10 women on a date, I'd easily get at least 8 to say yes and show up while white foreigners I met in medellin would frequently complain that colombians were flakey and prone to cancel at the last minuite. The exact kind of behavior I'd get from white women in america. These days I have one that I absolutely adore so I'm off the dating market but every day I'm shocked that I have her because living in america drove into my head that someone as smart and beautiful as her was completely out of my league..

Re: Tinder just permabanned me or the problem with big tech

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Post by goblin89 »

caminante wrote: post #511
goblin89 wrote: post #503

Earlier quoted context omitted.

To reiterate, the first paper does not specifically pertain to dating apps, and the methodology of the second article is flawed (you want to know whether people meet online, so you ask people of whom >50% you found online, great technique)—so it might save someone who cares about that kind of stuff a click (a few clicks actually, since the methodology is buried in a separate article). If you don’t fall into that cate…

You're being difficult on purpose. > methodology is buried in a separate article It's an EXPLICIT footnote! See "Note; Here [is the report's] metholodgy." > Methodology of the second article is flawed (you want to know whether people meet online, so you ask people online, great technique) The methodology goes into statistical techniques to control for biases (e.g. language, gender identity, sampling method, etc.) See…

1st click to go to the article, ctrl+f to find methodology, 2nd click to go to methodology. See 6000+ people recruited via web. The rest seem to amount to fewer than that. Am I the one being difficult?

Re: Tinder just permabanned me or the problem with big tech

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Post by soperj »

kelseyfrog wrote: post #487
soperj wrote: post #360

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First you'd need consent to actually ask the question, and prior to that, you'd need consent to speak with the person (you'd have to get that in writing).

Not sure where you're getting that from. I would like to assume positive intent and the best interpretation of your position, but it's really difficult to not read this as "If we have to get consent for touching someone, then we have to get consent for all interactions. Therefore touch-consent is non-viable." Please help me understand how you aren't saying that.

As someone who's been on the receiving end of unwanted touches, just keeping your hands to yourself and not asking at all would be perfectly fine.

Re: Tinder just permabanned me or the problem with big tech

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Post by pratik661 »

cultofmetatron wrote: post #512
pratik661 wrote: post #502

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That’s interesting. I wonder how much that applies to South Asians though. I think most of the dating advice in these threads is tailored towards white people who have different experiences from other POC.

I am south asian (srilankan american) so my advice is comming from the perspective of a person of color. The best places for dating for a south asian male would be southeast asia, turkey and latin america. White guys definitely have an advantage when going after women that specifically want a foreigner. We're able to get the ones that would otherwise prefer to date within their own country. I had some success in euro…

That’s really interesting to know. Happy to see another desi doing really well.

Re: Tinder just permabanned me or the problem with big tech

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Post by sebastianconcpt »

cultofmetatron wrote: post #270
sebastianconcpt wrote: post #137

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This is only really true in north america (especially if you're of Indian descent). Women have much more realistic expectations once you get out of that cesspit

Enjoy while it lasts because social media will spread their ambitions. In any case, woman desire for fit men is culturally universal so all should hit the gym and diet for its own good. Hard. Good luck making your game to the next level!

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Post by adgjlsfhk1 »

wolverine876 wrote: post #483
SllX wrote: post #473

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Yes, yes they do. I listed three examples of what a government granted monopoly looks like. Copyright, trademark and patents don’t exist naturally, and they’re unenforceable without the Rule of Law. > What are you referring to? Most recently (that I can think of): the suit the Feds filed against Facebook that was tossed out of court.

Those are temporary monopolies of a technology or creative work, not monopolies of a market.

In a technology driven economy (which we are), a 25 year monopoly on a new technology is a monopoly of a market for a generation.

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Post by samhw »

shadowgovt wrote: post #386
samhw wrote: post #356

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Do you mean because those 'small Internet service providers' would be included in his 'larger than $MARKET_SHARE' group, or because it would mean no one was kicked out of the incumbent services and therefore there would be fewer new customers available?

I mean because a company tends to explode from "smaller than $MARKET_SHARE" to "larger than $MARKET_SHARE" in a discontinuous fashion. So since a company can't really predict when it will happen, every company providing service would need to prep from the ground up to provide the described level of relatively non-automated high-touch support this proposal describes. It'd raise the cost to build a startup. ... not to…

Actually I think you're right, yeah. I don't know why your original comment is being downvoted. I suppose it testifies to the fact that comments are downvoted either because they're too stupid or too smart for the audience.

Re: Tinder just permabanned me or the problem with big tech

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Post by Barrin92 »

klyrs wrote: post #469
unabridged wrote: post #441

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Instead of regulation, I'd like to see the government offer a free service. A digital commons. In this case the public library version of Tinder, with strict rules of who can be banned and where everyone is treated equally.

You want the government to be that involved in pair-selection in the population??? I am disturbed. Eugenics aside: you know that a direct result of this is that border services, local police, etc will have access to a database of dick pics, don't you?

the government has them anyway, it's just that in addition to having them, the tax payer also has to pay clearview AI or whoever else for providing that service privately. That's actually exactly how the US government acquires license plate and vehicle data in states where collecting that information directly is prohibited, they just use your money to buy that from the private surveillance industry. [1]

By believing in some sort of mythical distinction between private and public business you've created the worst world of all, in which a government can superficially claim its hands are clean, buy unlimited surveillance data from unregulated private firms, without any democratic accountability. You now have the privilege of filling up Peter Thiel's bank account, while Palantir runs a precrime division that your city council has never even heard of[2]

[1]https://www.theverge.com/2021/1/22/22244848/us-intelligence-...

[2]https://www.theverge.com/2018/2/27/17054740/palantir-predict...

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