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Bullies can be stopped, but it takes a village

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Re: Bullies can be stopped, but it takes a village

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How hard might it be to catch a bully in the act with a hidden mike or a friend with a cellphone or some such? That sort of thing was completely impractical in my day -- I'm not sure what tools kids have now.

I suppose it's worth trying, although the victim may not be so keen on having his or her own victimization recorded for posterity.

I have also heard that among girls, one common form of bullying these days is to pretend to be the victim's friend long enough to get some embarrassing confidential information, and then spread that information around. Modern technology makes that kind of sting a lot easier.

Re: Bullies can be stopped, but it takes a village

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Not saying everyone can do this, but; My grade school friend was being bullied. He asked people's advice on what to do, they said 'don't be violent, just talk to an adult, talk to your parents, and they'll help you resolve this.' He went to his mother, she told him to beat the kid up or learn to live with being treated like shit. He beat up both the kid and his friends by himself. I still laugh thinking about it.

Great story but it doesn't work for everyone. I actually took this approach and because I was big enough it worked. My own child has a different temperament to me and would not do this. The child who goes up against the bully and loses, ends up being deeper in the cycle of bullying because he feels powerless. I don't have an answer - as everyone is different - I'm just pointing out that the above only works for some…

I did start my story with that same caveat. And I think the moral was that relying on adults to guide you through this process is not always preferable.
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