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The Dating Ring Is Raising Money To Fly Women From NYC To SF

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Re: The Dating Ring Is Raising Money To Fly Women From NYC To SF

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I think the numbers are a red herring. Finding a date is a numbers game. However, if you've spent any time in a committed relationship, you'll know that pretty much the only things that matter are how she feels about herself and how she feels about you (and the converses for you, which are heavily influenced by those). All the stuff about hotness, income, intelligence, background, careers, etc. fades into the backgro…

If dates are generally a prerequisite to relationships than the numbers issue tends to have a lot of influence (age does too). My impression from living here isn't that it's people worried about their status, I think it's just that there aren't enough people - do you live in the bay area?

I do live in the Bay Area.

And my point is that there are enough people around that getting dates should not be a significant problem. I went out with about 25-30 people before finding my girlfriend; to get to that involved about 200 OKCupid messages. There were about 5 dates in the 3 weeks before and 3 weeks after I first met her.

Re: The Dating Ring Is Raising Money To Fly Women From NYC To SF

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The ratio in New York City is hardly a problem since the population is so big (8 million). It is like 53% women and 47% men. I am a man and went to a college that was 55% men and 45% women. I never felt like there was a lack of women.

The raw numbers don't paint an accurate picture of dating inequality. The pairwise nature means you need to subtract out those already paired with a dedicated partner. That will vary for different groups and can cause extreme imbalances in the dating population that you might not expect.

In your college of young adults, suppose 30% of the population is already paired, which is 15% of each gender. That leaves 40% available men to 30% available women, a 1.3:1 ratio, not too bad.

In New York City's adult population of all ages, suppose 86% of the population is already paired, 43% of each gender. That leaves 10% available women chasing 4% available men, a 2.5:1 ratio, quite lopsided.

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