Woman Posts Boyfriend Request on GitHub, Requires Access to His Server

Post by doesnt_know » Tue, Oct 23, 2012, 4:14 PM UTC

talmir wrote: post #50

doesnt_know wrote: post #47

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Most of us have demands for a partner, even if you aren't consciously aware of them. Perhaps not this specific, but who knows? Try writing down the qualities of what your "perfect" mate would be and see what you end up with. Of course, it's a completely different thing to do that as an exercise for yourself compared to actually publishing it on a social developer site, but to each their own I guess.

When I sit down and write out a list of qualities I want in my perfect mate I find that I rarely deal in absolutes. And the absolutes are more of the negative kind like I wouldnt want my new spouse to be doing drugs or anything like that. I think the appropriate way is to apply fuzzy logic to the good attributes and average it out. The thought that just because the mate watches an hour of tv a day instead of the requ…

Post by fduran » Tue, Oct 23, 2012, 8:20 PM UTC

engtech wrote: post #12

bluetidepro wrote: post #9

> "Someone who can tolerate social gaming companies like Zynga..." Welp, most of us on HN are out of the running! ;) But in all seriousness, am I the only one that thinks this is just ridiculous? It would have been funny and one thing had it been a joke, but this just seems crazy to me. Maybe it's because I'm only 23 and I'm not that "desperate". Or maybe it's cause I'm very social and rarely have troubles finding da…

We all have a list of demands/requirements (eg: non-smoker, likes dogs, will put up with my !@#$). Not all people are as blunt about it as this women. What's always funny about these lists is that they are only based on your previous experience and are not necessarily real predictors of future success. If anything a good catch is someone who you want to be with despite the fact they don't score well on your list of r…

Post by Evbn » Wed, Oct 24, 2012, 2:53 AM UTC

Nursie wrote: post #23

bluetidepro wrote: post #9

> "Someone who can tolerate social gaming companies like Zynga..." Welp, most of us on HN are out of the running! ;) But in all seriousness, am I the only one that thinks this is just ridiculous? It would have been funny and one thing had it been a joke, but this just seems crazy to me. Maybe it's because I'm only 23 and I'm not that "desperate". Or maybe it's cause I'm very social and rarely have troubles finding da…

At 23 you meet new people all the time. A decade later you barely ever do (in my experience), so you have to make an actual effort to meet people, especially to date them. I don't know a lot about Japanese culture but here in the UK the 'jumping into bed with everyone just to see what works' phase seems to be over by her age (30). Or maybe it's just me...

Post by wisty » Wed, Oct 24, 2012, 3:55 AM UTC

nandemo wrote: post #48

w1ntermute wrote: post #21

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> Maybe it's because I'm only 23 and I'm not that "desperate". It's because you're not a single Japanese woman living in Japan who's in her 30s. She's likely facing enormous pressure from her family and friends to get married. In Japan, women's marriageability is often compared to Christmas cake - expired after 25.

The social pressure does exist, but the Christmas cake thing died down with the Showa era. Nowadays the average wedding age is closer to 30 than to 25.

Post by Nursie » Wed, Oct 24, 2012, 3:32 PM UTC

Evbn wrote: post #55

Nursie wrote: post #23

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At 23 you meet new people all the time. A decade later you barely ever do (in my experience), so you have to make an actual effort to meet people, especially to date them. I don't know a lot about Japanese culture but here in the UK the 'jumping into bed with everyone just to see what works' phase seems to be over by her age (30). Or maybe it's just me...

Weird. My impression is the opposite. In youth, you have time to go slow, but as you get older and busier, you jump into bed to see what works without wasting any time.