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There are risks associated with everything
What's that supposed to mean? There are definitely less risks in not taking finasteride and minoxidil.
There are risks associated with being bald and depressed
Don't be a scary old guy: My 40s survival strategy with charm
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Re: Don't be a scary old guy: My 40s survival strategy with charm
#52Earlier quoted context omitted.
Just flag it.
It's not spam, why waste a moderator's time? It's something that people find interesting.
https://news.ycombinator.com/newsguidelines.html
HN in general has a very strict policy against what "people find interesting":
On-Topic: Anything that good hackers would find interesting. That includes more than hacking and startups. If you had to reduce it to a sentence, the answer might be: anything that gratifies one's intellectual curiosity.
Off-Topic: Most stories about politics, or crime, or sports, or celebrities, unless they're evidence of some interesting new phenomenon. Videos of pratfalls or disasters, or cute animal pictures. If they'd cover it on TV news, it's probably off-topic.
Also "just flag it" is not "wasting moderator's time", but the recommended procedure:
Please don't complain that a submission is inappropriate. If a story is spam or off-topic, flag it.Re: Don't be a scary old guy: My 40s survival strategy with charm
#53Earlier quoted context omitted.
It's not spam, why waste a moderator's time? It's something that people find interesting.
https://news.ycombinator.com/newsguidelines.html HN in general has a very strict policy against what "people find interesting": On-Topic: Anything that good hackers would find interesting. That includes more than hacking and startups. If you had to reduce it to a sentence, the answer might be: anything that gratifies one's intellectual curiosity. Off-Topic: Most stories about politics, or crime, or sports, or celebri…
> anything that gratifies one's intellectual curiosity.
Correct.
Re: Don't be a scary old guy: My 40s survival strategy with charm
#54I seem to have become scarier in my old age. People seem to pay more attention and react more strongly to me than they used to, but all I did was get older and uglier. Whatever physicality I had has waned, but moral presence among strangers has waxed. Maybe it's a remaining respect for elders rather than something to do with me. But it has made me more careful with hiding my grumpiness.
I find I have turned invisible. But if I die my hair suddenly I'm no longer invisible. Even with just a really bad partially grown out dye job I'm treated like I exist again. But grey hair/grey beard? Invisibility cloak.
Re: Don't be a scary old guy: My 40s survival strategy with charm
#55I seem to have become scarier in my old age. People seem to pay more attention and react more strongly to me than they used to, but all I did was get older and uglier. Whatever physicality I had has waned, but moral presence among strangers has waxed. Maybe it's a remaining respect for elders rather than something to do with me. But it has made me more careful with hiding my grumpiness.
Sometime in my late 30's or early 40's I noticed that groups started deferring to me as the arbiter of disputes and decision maker. They also stopped being as playful with me. I hadn't changed my personality significantly, and I was baffled for a long time. Then I realized that I had become a 40 something man with a touch of grey and some gravel in his voice. Somewhere along the way people had just automatically star…
Yep I hate it. I much rather interact with peers than subordinates. I want people to challenge me and my opinion. I hate making casual comments and everyone in the room is silent as if it was the word of god.
Re: Don't be a scary old guy: My 40s survival strategy with charm
#56Earlier quoted context omitted.
Just flag it.
It's not spam, why waste a moderator's time? It's something that people find interesting.
Just meant "flag it if you think is off topic"... but no worries. I'm very used of people in HN not able to read in context... seems to be fried brains from too much AI use. Anyway, IMHO was pretty much off topic. I think we are allowed to have different opinions, you little dictator.
Re: Don't be a scary old guy: My 40s survival strategy with charm
#57Jesus. If at 40 you're already seeing yourself old and worried about survival something must be wrong. At 40 you're barely at the halfway point of your career since we're gonna have to work till our 70's anyway, so buckle up for another 30+ years.
In the Bay Area job market at 40+ you are 4/5 done with your working career at a high level of pay as a IC. It’s cruel, but post 40 and especially post 50 you are at risk of being let go and never find a similar paying job again. Especially in this job market.
Only way to prevent this is to be a director or unusually gifted as an engineer. Otherwise you are the old guy that wants too much money. I hate that the industry is like this but unless you are very high in your field your value to tech employers reaches zero unless your career has developed to a high level.
Re: Don't be a scary old guy: My 40s survival strategy with charm
#58Earlier quoted context omitted.
It's not spam, why waste a moderator's time? It's something that people find interesting.
Just meant "flag it if you think is off topic"... but no worries. I'm very used of people in HN not able to read in context... seems to be fried brains from too much AI use. Anyway, IMHO was pretty much off topic. I think we are allowed to have different opinions, you little dictator.
I do enjoy potatoes, but not Richards!
Re: Don't be a scary old guy: My 40s survival strategy with charm
#59One cool thing about aging is you can tell old jokes from ancient shows like Futurama, and the kids think it's original and hilarious.
I steal lines from Cheers on the daily.
Re: Don't be a scary old guy: My 40s survival strategy with charm
#60Genuine question, is a smile something people practice? I smile when im happy but it does not come naturally. Also the ad at the end killed any feeling of authenticity.