The fact that you are pursuing this is admirable.
But this whole thing sounds too much like work. Finding opportunities, convincing entrenched stakeholders, accommodating irrelevant feedback, pitching in meetings — this is the kind of thing that top engineers get paid a lot of money to do.
For me personally open source is the time to be creative and free. So my tolerance for anything more than review is very low. And I would have quit at the first roadblock.
What’s a little sad, is NPM should not be operating like a company with 1000+ employees. The “persuade us users want this” approach is only going to stop volunteers. They should be proactively identifying efforts like this and helping you bring it across the finish line.