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I was so kind at all YC meetings and in other places. That's how got one of the biggest funding and investor attention. That's how it works, right? Did you know that Steve Jobs was so kind so Apple fired him. Also Elon is kind and all founders just kind. etc. Great content
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Work is hard and stressful. If we're sweet and kind to one-another, we get through it more easily, no matter how smart each of us is individually. Being kind is an investment, and its dividends pay out enormously as your organization grows. Like the article says, it's infectious. I believe that. I believe that if I show kindness, especially to people who are new to the organization, they'll mirror it right back, and…
Will you be kind as well to the people who repeatedly fuck up and don't care about delivering good processes or products?
Luckily there are other organizations out there that encourage kindness rather than penalizing it.
Only catch is, you probably won't make it through the first interview if you don't start practicing being kind right where you are. Soft skills are hard and take sustained effort to internalize.
There are many situations where a kindness turns to an expectation, which leads to entitlement: suddenly you are the bad guy if you don't go above and beyond.
Being helpful around people who view work as a zero sum game is a recipe for disaster.
This article also reframes "things you should do because it's an advantage to you" as kindness.
Earlier quoted context omitted.
You could say that hiding or refraining from giving critical feedback is not kindness.
If this phrase can mean anything, it doesn't mean anything anymore. Ie. you could also say that egoism is being kind to yourself etc.
Agree with this wholeheartedly. I think where kindness really plays a key role is not passing snap judgements on people and their motivations. It's easy to interpret people's actions or intentions in a negative light, thinking they don't care or are incompetent. I would also like to add that kindness is not just being kind to other people, but to yourself as well. It's easy to beat ourselves up about the mistakes we…
[1] https://www.upworthy.com/nice-vs-kind-are-east-coast-people-...
As I usually say, be competent, not competitive. No one likes the uber competitive guy who always tries to stand above the rest at all cost. Which, by the way, screams insecurity.
There are personality types that thrive on competition, they get renewed passion and commitment by having others also better themselves, this is not an ego or alpha complex, instead of the mental models they work in.
Or we can just call them insecure and be done with it.