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Re: Why Did She Stop Writing?

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Post by xboxnolifes » Tue, Jun 04, 2024, 1:12 AM UTC

0xDEAFBEAD wrote: post #24

xboxnolifes wrote: post #22

Earlier quoted context omitted.

> If there was a button you could push that would give you $10M, but also cause many thousands of people to constantly express their hatred for you online, would you push it? Would the average person choose to push it? How would it change their expected happiness? I see the point, but you'd need to change that "many thousands" to more like "many tens/hundreds of millions" for it to be deterring (assuming these people…

I think it depends on the person's psychology. You might have a thicker skin than average. https://nitter.poast.org/etirabys/status/1796301364903207171...

It's not about thick skin here. With only a few thousand random people talking bad about you, there is a significant chance that you and your potential relationships will never see a single message from them. Getting into the millions is talking about thick skin, but thousands is just free money.

The original post didn't specify direct messages or other mechanisms that you would be notified about the messages. Just that people are talking about you on the internet.

Re: Why Did She Stop Writing?

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Post by 0xDEAFBEAD » Tue, Jun 04, 2024, 7:25 AM UTC

auggierose wrote: post #32

0xDEAFBEAD wrote: post #14

I'm reminded of this quote: >Some people are so poor, all they have is money. Once you reach a certain level of wealth, I suspect relationships are more important for happiness than accumulating even more. If there was a button you could push that would give you $10M, but also cause many thousands of people to constantly express their hatred for you online, would you push it? Would the average person choose to push i…

Who cares what online people think about you? I surely don't. Gimme them $10M! It is an interesting demonstration of how younger people think these days. I guess you are at most 25?

I'm early 30s actually. I think I would probably take the money myself, not 100% sure though.

Your sentiment seems common in this thread, but it doesn't square well with how worked up people seem to get with online beefs in practice, and how hard people seem to work in order to avoid getting downvoted (cc subreddit echochambers on reddit). I suspect in theory people don't care what others think, in practice things are a little different.

Re: Why Did She Stop Writing?

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Post by 0xDEAFBEAD » Tue, Jun 04, 2024, 7:28 AM UTC

xboxnolifes wrote: post #51

0xDEAFBEAD wrote: post #24

Earlier quoted context omitted.

I think it depends on the person's psychology. You might have a thicker skin than average. https://nitter.poast.org/etirabys/status/1796301364903207171...

It's not about thick skin here. With only a few thousand random people talking bad about you, there is a significant chance that you and your potential relationships will never see a single message from them. Getting into the millions is talking about thick skin, but thousands is just free money. The original post didn't specify direct messages or other mechanisms that you would be notified about the messages. Just t…

>The original post didn't specify direct messages or other mechanisms that you would be notified about the messages. Just that people are talking about you on the internet.

It didn't specify a lack of DMs either. What sort of things do haters typically like to do? Note that I wrote the original comment. I was thinking along the lines of people writing hateful replies to your social media content and @mentioning you.

Re: Why Did She Stop Writing?

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Post by auggierose » Tue, Jun 04, 2024, 8:38 AM UTC

0xDEAFBEAD wrote: post #52

auggierose wrote: post #32

Earlier quoted context omitted.

Who cares what online people think about you? I surely don't. Gimme them $10M! It is an interesting demonstration of how younger people think these days. I guess you are at most 25?

I'm early 30s actually. I think I would probably take the money myself, not 100% sure though. Your sentiment seems common in this thread, but it doesn't square well with how worked up people seem to get with online beefs in practice, and how hard people seem to work in order to avoid getting downvoted (cc subreddit echochambers on reddit). I suspect in theory people don't care what others think, in practice things ar…

I never understood reddit, I find it confusing and weird. Sometimes I use it to find streaming sites.

Re: Why Did She Stop Writing?

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Post by xboxnolifes » Wed, Jun 05, 2024, 7:44 AM UTC

0xDEAFBEAD wrote: post #53

xboxnolifes wrote: post #51

Earlier quoted context omitted.

It's not about thick skin here. With only a few thousand random people talking bad about you, there is a significant chance that you and your potential relationships will never see a single message from them. Getting into the millions is talking about thick skin, but thousands is just free money. The original post didn't specify direct messages or other mechanisms that you would be notified about the messages. Just t…

>The original post didn't specify direct messages or other mechanisms that you would be notified about the messages. Just that people are talking about you on the internet. It didn't specify a lack of DMs either. What sort of things do haters typically like to do? Note that I wrote the original comment. I was thinking along the lines of people writing hateful replies to your social media content and @mentioning you.

Fair enough. At least in my case it would be an easy decision, as my social media usage stops at hackernews. Or even if I did use something like twitter, I'd just make a new account. How would they know the new account is me?

Though, not all haters go directly after people. I'd even say those are in the minority. Most congregate to one another and form some bond over the shared dislike of said person/thing. Maybe start a subreddit, parody twitter account, or the like. Some just post complaints about the person without ever @mentioning them. I'm positive not every Elon Musk complaint tweet on twitter directly @mentions him.